Sexless marriages

[Geekbabe]

How long would you stay married but faithful to someone who had no interest in sleeping with you ?

would you stay and remain faithful ?

would you cheat ?

would the duration of the marriage have any bearing on your choice? would the risk of losing assets in a divorce case have any influence on your choice ?


what would you do ? discuss !

 

[her209]

How long would you stay married but faithful to someone who had no interest in sleeping with you ?

I wouldn't.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
How long would you stay married but faithful to someone who had no interest in sleeping with you ?

would you stay and remain faithful ?

would you cheat ?

would the duration of the marriage have any bearing on your choice? would the risk of losing assets in a divorce case have any influence on your choice ?


what would you do ? discuss !

Not enough information. Why do they have no interest?

Is it just a matter of choice or a medical condition?

Are there kids?

 

[ohtwell]

I don't think I'd cheat, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't find me appealing enough to want to sleep with me.

I think if we had kids, it'd be a bit tougher to leave. I'm not worried about losing assets though.


: ) Amanda

 

[artikk]

I wouldn't do anything. Just live my life. Realizing that you love or don't love somebody should have been the first step before getting married.

-russianpower

 

[EyeMWing]

Well, since it'll take an emmisary from God to get me married in the first place, sex won't matter. It barely matters NOW.

 

[PunDogg]

That would be really tough, I would prob. try to work it out, and if that didn;t work. Then get a divorce. Depending if you have small kids, i would try to stay together. On the question would you cheat, no i wouldn't do that, marriage is a contract that both people have to live up too. But in a sexless marriage i would stay and try to work it out, and if that didn;t happen then divorce, cuz you can;t keep on going like that, cuz you will eventually cheat

Dogg

 

[rickn]

I'd get her when she was asleep

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: rickn
I'd get her when she was asleep

The board has already determined that's rape.

:thumbsdown:

 

[EyeMWing]

Originally posted by: PunDogg
That would be really tough, I would prob. try to work it out, and if that didn;t work. Then get a divorce. Depending if you have small kids, i would try to stay together. On the question would you cheat, no i wouldn't do that, marriage is a contract that both people have to live up too. But in a sexless marriage i would stay and try to work it out, and if that didn;t happen then divorce, cuz you can;t keep on going like that, cuz you will eventually cheat

Dogg

ANY kids under 18 are a serious consideration there. Even if they aren't little kids, if you divorce the woman because you ain't gettin' no puss, you're basically telling the kid "Sex is all that matters, kthx"

Which is a dangerous thing to be telling a 12-18 year old.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: rickn
I'd get her when she was asleep

rape isn't on the **official and confirmed** list of choices for this topic.

 

[rickn]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: rickn
I'd get her when she was asleep

The board has already determined that's rape.

:thumbsdown:

Having sex with your wife is rape? If she says "I don't want have sex right now" that is not the same thing as NO

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: PunDogg
That would be really tough, I would prob. try to work it out, and if that didn;t work. Then get a divorce. Depending if you have small kids, i would try to stay together. On the question would you cheat, no i wouldn't do that, marriage is a contract that both people have to live up too. But in a sexless marriage i would stay and try to work it out, and if that didn;t happen then divorce, cuz you can;t keep on going like that, cuz you will eventually cheat

Dogg

ANY kids under 18 are a serious consideration there. Even if they aren't little kids, if you divorce the woman because you ain't gettin' no puss, you're basically telling the kid "Sex is all that matters, kthx"

Which is a dangerous thing to be telling a 12-18 year old.

But you can argue that act of sex is an show of affection for your significant other. By not having sex, you are basically telling the other person, "I don't love you enough to want to sleep with you".

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: rickn

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: rickn
I'd get her when she was asleep

The board has already determined that's rape.

:thumbsdown:

Having sex with your wife is rape? If she says "I don't want have sex right now" that is not the same thing as NO

yeah it is

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: rickn

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: rickn
I'd get her when she was asleep

The board has already determined that's rape.

:thumbsdown:

Having sex with your wife is rape? If she says "I don't want have sex right now" that is not the same thing as NO

Getting her when she's asleep is nonconsensual, and that's rape.

 

[0roo0roo]

depends if they are offended at the idea of an open marriage.

 

[rickn]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: rickn

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: rickn
I'd get her when she was asleep

The board has already determined that's rape.

:thumbsdown:

Having sex with your wife is rape? If she says "I don't want have sex right now" that is not the same thing as NO

yeah it is

Oh, then i'd just sleep around, and give her all sorts of diseases

 

[bunker]

Originally posted by: rickn

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: rickn
I'd get her when she was asleep

The board has already determined that's rape.

:thumbsdown:

Having sex with your wife is rape? If she says "I don't want have sex right now" that is not the same thing as NO

It most certainly is.

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: PunDogg
That would be really tough, I would prob. try to work it out, and if that didn;t work. Then get a divorce. Depending if you have small kids, i would try to stay together. On the question would you cheat, no i wouldn't do that, marriage is a contract that both people have to live up too. But in a sexless marriage i would stay and try to work it out, and if that didn;t happen then divorce, cuz you can;t keep on going like that, cuz you will eventually cheat

Dogg

ANY kids under 18 are a serious consideration there. Even if they aren't little kids, if you divorce the woman because you ain't gettin' no puss, you're basically telling the kid "Sex is all that matters, kthx"

Which is a dangerous thing to be telling a 12-18 year old.

But you can argue that act of sex is an show of affection for your significant other. By not having sex, you are basically telling the other person, "I don't love you enough to want to sleep with you".

thats exactly how i would take it

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: 0roo0roo
depends if they are offended at the idea of an open marriage.

I beleieve I would find the idea of an open marriage ultimately unsatisfying. It's marriage in name but not practice, a hypocrisy.

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: her209

How long would you stay married but faithful to someone who had no interest in sleeping with you ?

I wouldn't.

 

[SearchMaster]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: EyeMWing

Originally posted by: PunDogg
That would be really tough, I would prob. try to work it out, and if that didn;t work. Then get a divorce. Depending if you have small kids, i would try to stay together. On the question would you cheat, no i wouldn't do that, marriage is a contract that both people have to live up too. But in a sexless marriage i would stay and try to work it out, and if that didn;t happen then divorce, cuz you can;t keep on going like that, cuz you will eventually cheat

Dogg

ANY kids under 18 are a serious consideration there. Even if they aren't little kids, if you divorce the woman because you ain't gettin' no puss, you're basically telling the kid "Sex is all that matters, kthx"

Which is a dangerous thing to be telling a 12-18 year old.

But you can argue that act of sex is an show of affection for your significant other. By not having sex, you are basically telling the other person, "I don't love you enough to want to sleep with you".

Not necessarily. There are MANY factors that can contribute to a decline in sexual activity in a marriage. My wife had to have a hysterectomy after our third child. For a while, sex was very painful to her. In fact it still is to an extent. In addition, raising three young children is VERY draining. She is constantly tired, which is completely understandable, which makes it even harder to get "in the mood". These factors have lead to a less sexual relationship than we have ever had, but to be honest, our marriage is very strong right now. I know she WANTS to have more intimacy, but it's just not possible right now.

On the bright side, when we do get time away from the kids, we screw like rabbits.

 

[Stark]

my wife understands that my nut sack needs to be emptied on a regular basis. if she doesn't do it, it still has to get done. She's done a great job for 5 years!

 

[geckojohn]

I wouldn't be married to them in the first place. Sex is an important part of marriage. I would make sure with whoever i get engaged with that it's an important part of marriage.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: SearchMaster

Originally posted by: her209
But you can argue that act of sex is an show of affection for your significant other. By not having sex, you are basically telling the other person, "I don't love you enough to want to sleep with you".

Not necessarily. There are MANY factors that can contribute to a decline in sexual activity in a marriage. My wife had to have a hysterectomy after our third child. For a while, sex was very painful to her. In fact it still is to an extent. In addition, raising three young children is VERY draining. She is constantly tired, which is completely understandable, which makes it even harder to get "in the mood". These factors have lead to a less sexual relationship than we have ever had, but to be honest, our marriage is very strong right now. I know she WANTS to have more intimacy, but it's just not possible right now.

On the bright side, when we do get time away from the kids, we screw like rabbits.

That's a whole different question altogether. The original question (I took it) asked what you would do if the other person chose not to engage in sex with you because they have no interest in you.