Seriously screwed up with GF... need advice

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: caitlion
hes a guy. guys do that. the end.

That mindset makes me sick and is indicative of the state or moral decay America is in. Things fall apart, the center cannot hold...I guess that includes society.

Turning and turning in the widening gyre?

Yeah, everytime I think about disintegration I remember the Chinua Achebe novel which reminds me of Yeats and I sometimes take drmataic license with my posts so -

I miss Yeats. I really need to take some poetry/literature courses while I'm in college.

 

[fredtam]

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
Ok, here's the update. We've talked it over and things are on their way back to being normal. The end result is I'm not going to look at porn anymore.

As far as all the details I left out of my original post that have been brought up:

1) Our sex life is great.
2) It was just normal straight porn
3) A large part of the problem was that she'd told me before that it was something that was against her morals and I said that I wouldn't do it while we were together.
4) As to why she was looking at my temp files: She almost caught me the other night and after I saw how much the suspiscion of it upset her I deleted all the porn I had stored on my computer. When I went to show her that I'd deleted it I realized I'd forgotten, like an idiot, to clear out the cache and all those pictures turned up in the search. She looked at the dates and realized that some of it was stuff I'd looked at while we were together. That was the big problem. So she wasn't snooping for it that much. I basically showed it to her.

Anyway, that's the update. Hopefully that's the last one of these I'll ever have to post.

Congragulations, you are now the woman in the relationship.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: fredtam

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
Ok, here's the update. We've talked it over and things are on their way back to being normal. The end result is I'm not going to look at porn anymore.

As far as all the details I left out of my original post that have been brought up:

1) Our sex life is great.
2) It was just normal straight porn
3) A large part of the problem was that she'd told me before that it was something that was against her morals and I said that I wouldn't do it while we were together.
4) As to why she was looking at my temp files: She almost caught me the other night and after I saw how much the suspiscion of it upset her I deleted all the porn I had stored on my computer. When I went to show her that I'd deleted it I realized I'd forgotten, like an idiot, to clear out the cache and all those pictures turned up in the search. She looked at the dates and realized that some of it was stuff I'd looked at while we were together. That was the big problem. So she wasn't snooping for it that much. I basically showed it to her.

Anyway, that's the update. Hopefully that's the last one of these I'll ever have to post.

Congragulations, you are now the woman in the relationship.

Aren't we all?

 

[gutharius]

Hell, me and my partner have had some of the best sex after looking at porn together! Tell her she can't knock it before trying it!

 

[candicec]

Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: candicec
Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

lol Dammit, I need a gf.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: candicec
Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

How exactly does a lady beg for this type of material from their SO?

(I've never heard of such a thing, that's why I'm asking)

 

[Acanthus]

Originally posted by: pyonir
if she is that insecure about you looking at porn, then you'd be better off without her.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: hysperion

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I think she is the one who owes you an apology. She was snooping on your computer. I remember being young and immature and insecure, so I feel a certain amount of sympathy for her, but she needs to learn that 1) it's not ok for her to sneak around looking for stuff to get pissed off at you about, 2) looking at porn is not cheating, and 3) it's not ok to threaten to break up with someone in order to try to control him when what he is doing is perfectly normal. Make sure to get your balls back out of her purse before she leaves if you break up with her.

Would you have a problem with your girlfriend/wife looking at male porno without your knowledge? Probably....

Not in the slightest.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: caitlion
hes a guy. guys do that. the end.

That mindset makes me sick and is indicative of the state or moral decay America is in. Things fall apart, the center cannot hold...I guess that includes society.

Turning and turning in the widening gyre?

Yeah, everytime I think about disintegration I remember the Chinua Achebe novel which reminds me of Yeats and I sometimes take drmataic license with my posts so -

If you knew it was Yeats then you should know the context under which it was written.
I'd say Second Coming is pretty analogous to the current state of affairs in society, particularly ours.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
Ok, here's the update. We've talked it over and things are on their way back to being normal. The end result is I'm not going to look at porn anymore.

As far as all the details I left out of my original post that have been brought up:

1) Our sex life is great.
2) It was just normal straight porn
3) A large part of the problem was that she'd told me before that it was something that was against her morals and I said that I wouldn't do it while we were together.
4) As to why she was looking at my temp files: She almost caught me the other night and after I saw how much the suspiscion of it upset her I deleted all the porn I had stored on my computer. When I went to show her that I'd deleted it I realized I'd forgotten, like an idiot, to clear out the cache and all those pictures turned up in the search. She looked at the dates and realized that some of it was stuff I'd looked at while we were together. That was the big problem. So she wasn't snooping for it that much. I basically showed it to her.
5) I seem to have misplaced my testicles and seem to be wearing my gf's panties now.
Anyway, that's the update. Hopefully that's the last one of these I'll ever have to post.

You forgot #5 so I added it for you. If she is this bad now just wait until there is a ring on your finger.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: candicec
Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

How exactly does a lady beg for this type of material from their SO?

(I've never heard of such a thing, that's why I'm asking)

Seriously, you need to dump him and set him up with the OP's girlfriend.

 

[Splork]

Originally posted by: pyonir
if she is that insecure about you looking at porn, then you'd be better off without her.

Yeah, it's not like they were of your ex or anything... I hope... Good luck.

-sp

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: candicec
Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

is your bf asian also ? Cause I have never heard of an asian guy who's not horny all the time.

 

[biostud]

Originally posted by: flxnimprtmscl
The end result is I'm not going to look at porn anymore.

1) Our sex life is great.

........with a steady decline as the source for inspiration is now closed

 

[purbeast0]

whoops.

 

[purbeast0]

Originally posted by: gutharius
Hell, me and my partner have had some of the best sex after looking at porn together! Tell her she can't knock it before trying it!

I have to agree with that. watchin porn w/your partner will heaten up the action.

 

[isekii]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: candicec
Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

How exactly does a lady beg for this type of material from their SO?

(I've never heard of such a thing, that's why I'm asking)

Asian girls are very sexually frustrated.
They act all innocent and such, but once you get them going, they go all the way.

btw candicec looks like Jail Bait.

 

[candicec]

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: candicec
Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

is your bf asian also ? Cause I have never heard of an asian guy who's not horny all the time.

nope..bf is a whitey!! And he has no asian fetish (which is a good thing)..I had to win him over, which makes it all the sweeter!

candicec

 

[Gibson486]

All guys have this little secret folder dug in their files somewhere. It usually has some ambiguos name and is buried beneath several other folders (probably 4 steps deep).

I used to have such a folder that was dug 4 deep and I called the folder a name my gf would never think to look in, Visual C++.

 

[Geekbabe]

Lol, the piece of all this that amuses me is that all of you screaming "dump her" "she's too insecure" yada yada are failing to understand a couple of things.

1. this person knew herself well enough to tell the OP at the start that such activity would be a deal breaker for her and he agreed that he could live with that.He engaged in that activity without any sort of discussion revisiting the issue and she dumped him!

I dunno about you folks but if a partner tells me that certain behaviors are relationship enders,I'm sure as heck not just going to go off and engage in those behaviors after agreeing that I wouldn't, not without at least asking for a convo to revisit whatever issue is in question.

 

[isekii]

Originally posted by: Gibson486
All guys have this little secret folder dug in their files somewhere. It usually has some ambiguos name and is buried beneath several other folders (probably 4 steps deep).

I used to have such a folder that was dug 4 deep and I called the folder a name my gf would never think to look in, Visual C++.

These type of guys seriously need to grow a pair.
Why hide it ?

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Lol, the piece of all this that amuses me is that all of you screaming "dump her" "she's too insecure" yada yada are failing to understand a couple of things.

1. this person knew herself well enough to tell the OP at the start that such activity would be a deal breaker for her and he agreed that he could live with that.He engaged in that activity without any sort of discussion revisiting the issue and she dumped him!

I dunno about you folks but if a partner tells me that certain behaviors are relationship enders,I'm sure as heck not just going to go off and engage in those behaviors after agreeing that I wouldn't, not without at least asking for a convo to revisit whatever issue is in question.

Now that the OP was kind enough to detail the terms they'd already agreed to, and the way the offending evidence was found, you're absolutely right. Most of us were just working with the extremely limited information given in the first post.

 

[GT1999]

I like Firefox because it's faster at clearing the cache/temp files than IE...

 

[Ranger X]

Originally posted by: candicec

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: candicec
Clearly the answer is: ditch her. Tell her she needs to grow up. I have to beg my boyfriend for porn. Find someone who is not so uptight and who likes it like you. Seriously, some girls need to lighten the fvck up!

is your bf asian also ? Cause I have never heard of an asian guy who's not horny all the time.

nope..bf is a whitey!! And he has no asian fetish (which is a good thing)..I had to win him over, which makes it all the sweeter!

candicec

So you have a white fetish .. what's the difference?

To the OP: You lost the battle. She is dating you for WHO YOU ARE and if she doesn't like it, that's her problem. So you gave up porn. What's to stop her from nearly dumping you for something else that she doesn't approve of? She has the upper hand in your relationship and you have shown her your weakness by allowing her to get exactly what she wanted. If you're giving up porn, make her give up one of her passion that irritates you. I don't even know her and I can already tell she's a hypocritical bitch.