Seriously screwed up with GF... need advice

[fsstrike]

Originally posted by: Schadenfroh
what kind of pr0n was it?

a)standard (female between the ages of 18 - 30ish)
b)rasin (older than 40)
c)kiddie (sub 18)
d)damn near pedophile (sub 14)
e)necro (dead corpses naked)
f)gay (naked males)
g)wierd sh!t pr0n (like naked pregnant women dancing to phish music)

a combination? what, we must know.

I a necro fan

 

[NFS4]

Where the hell is the OP? He must be off lookin' for some more porn

 

[loup garou]

Originally posted by: NFS4
Where the hell is the OP? He must be off lookin' for some more porn

Consider yourselves syringered.

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: NFS4
Where the hell is the OP? He must be off lookin' for some more porn

:laugh:

Sounds like the GF has some "security issues".

Originally posted by werk:

Consider yourselves syringered.

FFY

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: jjones
Dump her, she's useless.

Hmmm.. reread the original post,it would seem she dumped him. That's why I asked for more info.

 

[blahblah99]

What kind of girl doesn't know that guys watch and KEEP porn on their computer?

That's our indirect way of saying you're not satisfying me enough, try harder!.

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: jtusa4

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
Its impossible not to... At college porn is equivalent to Yu-Gi-Oh cards for 8 year olds... You trade it, you watch the movies, hell you collect it... Any guy on here who says theyve NEVER seen pictures/watched videos is bullshitting ya...

I think that's the best analogy I've ever heard.

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: caitlion
hes a guy. guys do that. the end.

That mindset makes me sick and is indicative of the state or moral decay America is in. Things fall apart, the center cannot hold...I guess that includes society.

Turning and turning in the widening gyre?

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: Squisher
Who doesn't have porn in their temp files?

i don't. the temp folder is buried somewhere in documents and settings, why the hell would I want to go hunting for that all the time.


and the "porn is bad" folk crack me up. i needed a good chuckle

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Originally posted by: mobobuff

Originally posted by: NFS4
Where the hell is the OP? He must be off lookin' for some more porn

:laugh:

Sounds like the GF has some "security issues".

Originally posted by werk:

Consider yourselves syringered.

FFY

Ooooh Aaaah, it's in Urban Dictionary!! LOL

 

[cerebusPu]

haha..its in urban dictionary.

that Yu-Gi-Oh card analogy is great!

 

[cmdrmoocow]

....am I the only one who finds porn pointless?

And yes, I am a college male who doesnt bother with it, and I dont have a gf.

 

[hysperion]

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I think she is the one who owes you an apology. She was snooping on your computer. I remember being young and immature and insecure, so I feel a certain amount of sympathy for her, but she needs to learn that 1) it's not ok for her to sneak around looking for stuff to get pissed off at you about, 2) looking at porn is not cheating, and 3) it's not ok to threaten to break up with someone in order to try to control him when what he is doing is perfectly normal. Make sure to get your balls back out of her purse before she leaves if you break up with her.

Would you have a problem with your girlfriend/wife looking at male porno without your knowledge? Probably....

 

[Yolner]

Originally posted by: cmdrmoocow
....am I the only one who finds porn pointless?

And yes, I am a college male who doesnt bother with it, and I dont have a gf.

Someone is in the closet

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: hysperion

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I think she is the one who owes you an apology. She was snooping on your computer. I remember being young and immature and insecure, so I feel a certain amount of sympathy for her, but she needs to learn that 1) it's not ok for her to sneak around looking for stuff to get pissed off at you about, 2) looking at porn is not cheating, and 3) it's not ok to threaten to break up with someone in order to try to control him when what he is doing is perfectly normal. Make sure to get your balls back out of her purse before she leaves if you break up with her.

Would you have a problem with your girlfriend/wife looking at male porno without your knowledge? Probably....

I think this all depends on the extent of viewing. For example, if I'm watching porn for an hour a night, I have bigger issues than simply visual stimulation. Same for her. If I watch it once every now and then it really isn't a big deal, and I would have no problem if she did the same.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: hysperion

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I think she is the one who owes you an apology. She was snooping on your computer. I remember being young and immature and insecure, so I feel a certain amount of sympathy for her, but she needs to learn that 1) it's not ok for her to sneak around looking for stuff to get pissed off at you about, 2) looking at porn is not cheating, and 3) it's not ok to threaten to break up with someone in order to try to control him when what he is doing is perfectly normal. Make sure to get your balls back out of her purse before she leaves if you break up with her.

Would you have a problem with your girlfriend/wife looking at male porno without your knowledge? Probably....

not enough to break up with her. but then again, as already pointed out, we don't know the whole situation. maybe he lied, in which he deserves to be left, or maybe they just didn't communicate it... so it is just a bit extreme... who knows.. the OP died off somewhere. heh

 

[HeroOfPellinor]

Originally posted by: Orsorum

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: caitlion
hes a guy. guys do that. the end.

That mindset makes me sick and is indicative of the state or moral decay America is in. Things fall apart, the center cannot hold...I guess that includes society.

Turning and turning in the widening gyre?

Yeah, everytime I think about disintegration I remember the Chinua Achebe novel which reminds me of Yeats and I sometimes take drmataic license with my posts so -

 

[Bryophyte]

Originally posted by: hysperion

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
I think she is the one who owes you an apology. She was snooping on your computer. I remember being young and immature and insecure, so I feel a certain amount of sympathy for her, but she needs to learn that 1) it's not ok for her to sneak around looking for stuff to get pissed off at you about, 2) looking at porn is not cheating, and 3) it's not ok to threaten to break up with someone in order to try to control him when what he is doing is perfectly normal. Make sure to get your balls back out of her purse before she leaves if you break up with her.

Would you have a problem with your girlfriend/wife looking at male porno without your knowledge? Probably....

Nope. No problem at all. Why would it bother me?

Furthermore, there wouldn't be any reason to hide it from me anyway. A healthy sexual appetite is good for both of us.

 

[Zorro]

Originally posted by: caitlion
i dont think you need to break up with her, just talk to her.

i have to admit i did the same thing with my last bf. i very much regret going through his stuff, but i am kind of glad that i did because it told me more about who he was. the reason that i got so upset about it was because he told me that he NEVER EVER looked at porn. i found this hard to believe, i mean ... doesnt everyone look at porn? but eventually i believed him and forgot about it. one day i came across something and that sparked my curiosity and i found out that not only did he look at porn quite often, it was weird porn. we wont get into that. so he lied and he liked weird sh!t. thats what upset me.

so now on to you. like the other people said, what kind of porn is it? and did you lie to her and tell her that you didnt look at it? these are very important factors in deciding if she has real reason to be mad.

btw, i like to watch porn with my boyfriend. i dont have a problem with him looking at it when im not around, but it does make me insecure. but you know what, hes a guy. guys do that. the end.

Will you marry me

 

[Tweak155]

What happened to the original poster of this thread????

 

[Wuffsunie]

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor

Originally posted by: caitlion
hes a guy. guys do that. the end.

That mindset makes me sick and is indicative of the state or moral decay America is in. Things fall apart, the center cannot hold...I guess that includes society.

Guy, people have been looking at porn since... forever. About the only new facet to it is the hyper-capitalized state it's in now. And really, there has never been a golden age of morality for mankind; just states of less depravity. Honestly, what are you pining for?

Eesh...

As to the OP; best tell her the truth. You love her, will always be with her, but enjoy the odd little rub and tug now and again. What does she want of you? You're already monogomous with her. Does she want you to get a nice pair of leather blinders like they have on horses, so you can't view any of the other females in your age bracket when walking down the street? As has been pointed out, it's not like you're a collector. Heck, most of our father's here had a small stash of girlie mags (which we ended up finding, naturally). As long as it's not effecting your relationship, it's cool. Though the fact that she resorts to rooting through your damned internet cache, and took the time and effort to isolate the porn related pics, shows that she has some creepy control issues. The threatening to break up with you unless you koto before her is another sign of that.

And as to those saying that "maybe he lied/didn't tell her"... unless he said explictily that he does not view it, he wasn't lying and she's just picking this as a point to harp on. He's a guy... and as the vast majority of us have shown in this thread, electronic poon is a fact of life.

-- Jack

The Motorola 6809, used in the Radio Shack Color Computer and in U.K.'s `Dragon 32' personal computer, actually had an official `SEX' instruction; the 6502 in the Apple II with which it competed did not. British hackers thought this made perfect mythic sense; after all, it was commonly observed, you could (on some theoretical level) have sex with a dragon, but you can't have sex with an apple.

 

[StormRider]

Next time, create a folder called "porn stuff" to place all your porn material. The next time your girlfriend is looking for porn in the temp folder, she won't find any!

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: eakers
did you ever tell her that you didn't look at those things?

how would you feel if you found pictures of naked men on her computer?

Most guys could care less.

I say kick her to the curb.

 

[EGGO]

She's probably a bit distressed that somehow she isn't the center of your attention. If she's a gem, try and talk to her respectfully about it.

If it's just been a month or two, I don't see why you'd want to stay with her. This could mean that she has a few more things you won't like.

 

[boyRacer]

I don't know any girls that know theres a temp folder in the first place.