POLL: were you spanked as a child ?

[BigJelly]

Originally posted by: purbeast0
white and spanked.

and i'm glad I was, and I will spank my kids when I have them.

 

[ColdFusion718]

Originally posted by: rise

Originally posted by: compman25
Yardsticks and belts, oh what a feeling. Yeah, they worked. And yes, I'll spank my kids when we have them.

the problem starts when parents spank because thats their only response. think how pathetic it is to resort to violence with adults and then try to comprehend that as a child.

edit- i was dealt with when i was a problem, but i knew what i did wrong and it was me continuing to do what i knew was wrong that got dealt with. i knew why i was punished. as a human, resorting to violence without provocation is pathetic, as a parent its irresponsible and disgusting.

Wow you're so much better than those of us who spank our kids or our parents who spanked us. You win! Here's your

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718

Originally posted by: rise

Originally posted by: compman25
Yardsticks and belts, oh what a feeling. Yeah, they worked. And yes, I'll spank my kids when we have them.

the problem starts when parents spank because thats their only response. think how pathetic it is to resort to violence with adults and then try to comprehend that as a child.

edit- i was dealt with when i was a problem, but i knew what i did wrong and it was me continuing to do what i knew was wrong that got dealt with. i knew why i was punished. as a human, resorting to violence without provocation is pathetic, as a parent its irresponsible and disgusting.

Wow you're so much better than those of us who spank our kids or our parents who spanked us. You win! Here's your

EVERYONE'S A WINNER!!!!

 

[Geocentricity]

Originally posted by: caivoma
Asian and spanked (alot). And i think i am better because of it too.

QFMFT.

 

[CaptainGoodnight]

I think some people here don't get the difference between violence and discipline. Violence in this context would be uncontrolled aggression to the point that it causes real physical harm to the child. Discipline is controlled, measured and fair. Spanking/hitting a child is discipline as long as it doesn?t cross over the line to violence.

 

[middlehead]

I've got good kids, I love my kids. I try to bring them up the right way, not spanking them. I find that I don't have to spank them. I find that waving the gun around pretty much gets the same job done.

 

[middlehead]

My parents used to beat the shit out of me. Looking back on it I'm glad they did, and I'm looking forward to beating the shit out of my own kids. For no reason whatsoever.

BAM!

"Ow! Whaddya hittin' me for?"

"Because you're my kid. Now get out there and mow the lawn!"

 

[mugs]

I'm white. My older brother and I were both spanked. By the time my younger brother came along, spanking was going out of style. He was not spanked.

In terms of behavioral issues, my older brother turned out the worst.

 

[irishScott]

White, and only got spanked if I did something REALLY bad.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: Mxylplyx
I was, and am grateful for it. Children need a healthy fear of their parents.

maybe a mix of a bit of fear and a lot of respect is needed. i feared my stepdad growing up but i never respected him. i espeted my mom and did what she told me to (like staying home when i was grounded over the summer) even tho she couldnt even reach my face to smack it.

my kids have been spanked, but i havent had to go that far in years. they are 10, 10 and 12 now and havent had a spanking in probably 5 or 6 years. they do what i say as well, but they will try to argue about things they are passionate about. i encourage this.

 

[imported_Deathjag]

I'm a halfer so race is irrelevant

I was spanked, it only took two or three times.

 

[Daishiki]

Yup, but most of the time, just "the look" or hearing my full name in Chinese was enough to make me shut up.

 

[Alex]

Originally posted by: purbeast0
white and spanked.

and i'm glad I was, and I will spank my kids when I have them.

helps with discipline and respect... man i can't wait to have kids so i can spank them!

 

[ShadowOfMyself]

I was spanked but I wont spank my kids if I ever have them (which I probably wont)

It might work with dumb people sure, but intelligent ones dont need it
Spanking did nothing for me... If they want my respect they have to earn it with smarts, not by brute force
Its amazing how one sided most parents are

Of course there is a time when children cant reason so in that case the only way of behaving is by punishment/reward, but most people here are saying they got spanked until 10+, thats stupid

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: Deathjag
I'm a halfer so race is irrelevant

I was spanked, it only took two or three times.

im a halfer too... mexican and german. i was spanked a LOT by my step dad with a belt (white leather with two rows of holes along the length of the belt) and i deserved about 80% of what i got. i wasnt a great kid, i liked to be devious. i did take my knocks hen i deserved them tho, i only complained about the ones i didnt deserve. didnt matter to him however. my step dad was black, if that matters at all for whomever is counting.

 

[Cogman]

Spanked once, I was never really disciplined that I can remember but I never really crossed the line in my life. I guess I figured that my parents knew what was best so I did not want to disappoint them by doing what was wrong. I think I'm a bit strange that way, ohh well

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: ShadowOfMyself
I was spanked but I wont spank my kids if I ever have them (which I probably wont)

It might work with dumb people sure, but intelligent ones dont need it
Spanking did nothing for me... If they want my respect they have to earn it with smarts, not by brute force
Its amazing how one sided most parents are

Of course there is a time when children cant reason so in that case the only way of behaving is by punishment/reward, but most people here are saying they got spanked until 10+, thats stupid

actually, youre wrong. even smart kids need a bit of reminding who is in charge sometimes. usually at early ages tho, you cant really rationalize with a smart 3 or 4 year old. my kids are intelligent enough to know when they did something wrong, and at 10,10 and 12 i dont have to spank... but they sure do remember when they were 3 or 4 and got spanked, and recognize they dont want it to happen at all. we have discussions about choices and consequences now, which works very well. but this didnt work when they were 1 thru 5 when they didnt really have a clear understanding about social and personal responsibility to "do the right thing".

 

[AnitaPeterson]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Uhtrinity
I was ( a little too much I think) and yes I will spank my son if he pushes it too much. If he is misbehaving in a restaurant or a store I will usually take him to the restroom and explain to him what behavior is expected (set an ultimatum) and we will try again. If he proceeds to though a fit we leave and he gets his punishment out of public view which could be spanking, grounding, nap, etc. I am hesitant to spank in public due to peoples willingness to report child abuse even if it isn't necessarily abuse as defined by the state. He is five by the way and I have raised him alone since he was one.

I like that approach. It's very logical.

Seconded. That's the logical and civilized way of doing things.

 

[nageov3t]

I was spanked as a kid.

can't say that it actually did anything other than teaching me how to shut down and stop caring about things.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: loki8481
I was spanked as a kid.

can't say that it actually did anything other than teaching me how to shut down and stop caring about things.

You sound emo.

 

[upsciLLion]

Nobody's going to fess up to being spanked as an adult?

White and was spanked.

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: rh71
any other asians know the stick with the feathers ? OMG I was so scared of that thing for some odd reason. It was mostly the threat.

hahaha, ah the memories... oh wait

 

[mattpegher]

Spanking is an unfortunate necessity in the rearing of children. Especially at young ages, children have very short memory regarding punishment, they cannot be reasoned with and many other methods of negative or positive reinforcement are ineffective. Children need to have discipline in their lives in order to understand right and wrong, in early years this needs to be physical but within limits. Usually one quick snap of an open hand is enough. Once the child is large enough for this to be ineffective, other methods will work better such as rewards and punishments involving freedoms and enjoyments. Parenting correctly is not easy and must be started early or else children grow up without an understanding of consequence to their actions. If you love your children you do what is necessary to make them good people even if it causes some transient pain (to them and to you).

 

[sdifox]

spanking? that is light... let's see, Rattan, belt (bukle end too), feather duster and hose.

 

[sdifox]

Originally posted by: randomlinh

Originally posted by: rh71
any other asians know the stick with the feathers ? OMG I was so scared of that thing for some odd reason. It was mostly the threat.

hahaha, ah the memories... oh wait

It's called a feather duster... broke many the hard way.