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*poll* I got written up for sexual harrasment! Whohoo!

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Originally posted by: Rainsford
Originally posted by: nativesunshine
I was sexually harrassed by some dude...and all he got a little slap on the wrist...and the "option" of resigning..or be fired. Of course, he took the "resigning" option.

Yea...they didn't do sh!t about it. he could be doing what he did to me to some other poor unsuspecting girl in some other work place. Bleh..
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Uh, he got fired. Would you think getting fired is "nothing"? I won't make the assumption that he didn't do anything bad, but a lot of "sexual harassment" is just people being over sensitive. Evadman's case certainly sounds like that.

Seriously women, we are all adults here. It's not like you've never heard a sexual joke before. Sexual harassment is your boss saying sleep with me or you are fired. When somebody tells a slightly off color joke, the proper response if you are offended is to tell them you find the joke offensive and would like them to not tell jokes like that in the future. Most people will take the hint and be nice about it and not do it again. The proper response is not to get them fired or threaten their job for telling a joke.

I find the "equal treatment" at the workplace push kind of funny. Women are just as good in the workplace as men, so why do they need special protection from being offended? Real sexual harassment can strike men and women, but if a guy went to his boss and said he was offended by an off color joke, he would be laughed out of the office. If women don't want double standards, let's not have double standards, ok?
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But women do want double standards. Read "Myth of male power"
 
Originally posted by: SuperTool
Let me get this straight. You compliment this "Cindy" chick for being a safety conscious person and wearing kneepads, and you get written up for sexual harrasment?
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:Q
 
If you are stupid enough to make a comment like that in today's work enviroment, you deserve to get written up.
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That's sad that so many of you are so willing to rip off your penis and throw it out the window in support of a sad situation in the work place where any comment about anyone is offensive to anyone else.

Bob: "Jen smells."
Sara: "That is sexual harassment, dickhead."
 
It's a shame, but today's reality is that a "kneepad" comment is certainly in the danger area, even in jest. Companies should do better in making people aware of the boundaries so they don't get caught off guard like you were.

Something is harrassment if someone decides they feel harrassed. Stupid, but that's the way it is. And there are plenty of people out there just waiting to overhear a comment that they can claim made them feel harrassed so they can file a complaint.

You can't make any sexual reference, comment on a female's appearance, etc. because as you found out, it doesn't even matter who you are talking to - anyone who overhears it can decide they were offended.
 
Originally posted by: brxndxn
If you are stupid enough to make a comment like that in today's work enviroment, you deserve to get written up.
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That's sad that so many of you are so willing to rip off your penis and throw it out the window in support of a sad situation in the work place where any comment about anyone is offensive to anyone else.
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Yes you're very dramatic, bravo. It is not appropriate to suggest that someone performed sexual favors to get their job.
 
Originally posted by: PipBoy
Originally posted by: brxndxn
If you are stupid enough to make a comment like that in today's work enviroment, you deserve to get written up.
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That's sad that so many of you are so willing to rip off your penis and throw it out the window in support of a sad situation in the work place where any comment about anyone is offensive to anyone else.
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Yes you're very dramatic, bravo. It is not appropriate to suggest that someone performed sexual favors to get their job.
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It is a fuggin joke. It is not imo very mature or adult-like to get someone written up for saying such a joke.
 
You should get her written up for invasion of privacy, she was listening in on your conversation, and what happened to your right to free speech?

She didn't have to listen, she could have plugged her ears. You didn't force her to hear it (if you did, then that's wrong 😛)
 
Originally posted by: UglyCassanova
Originally posted by: PipBoy
Originally posted by: brxndxn
If you are stupid enough to make a comment like that in today's work enviroment, you deserve to get written up.
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That's sad that so many of you are so willing to rip off your penis and throw it out the window in support of a sad situation in the work place where any comment about anyone is offensive to anyone else.
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Yes you're very dramatic, bravo. It is not appropriate to suggest that someone performed sexual favors to get their job.
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It is a fuggin joke. It is not imo very mature or adult-like to get someone written up for saying such a joke.
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It is a fuggin (tasteless, sexually demeaning) joke. It is not imo very mature or adult-like to say such a joke.

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
It is a fuggin (tasteless, sexually demeaning) joke. It is not imo very mature or adult-like to say such a joke.

- M4H
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Coming from you.
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Most of the time, it's the uptight crotchety harrassment-spotters in their mid-30s who are all bitter that the studly university co-op student isn't putting the Mack on them.
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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: aircooled
If you're going to get in trouble, you might as well touch a boobie on the way to the office. 🙂
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😀

- M4H
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When you were written up did you mention the "wazoo" statement? Showing that she is comfortable with the sort of jokes/language in question may get you off the hook in some cases. It does suck though, and I have seen people play the rules to the extreme. It all boils down to it's not what you meant, it's how every person who heard the comment took it.
 
Originally posted by: UglyCassanova
Originally posted by: PipBoy
Originally posted by: brxndxn
If you are stupid enough to make a comment like that in today's work enviroment, you deserve to get written up.
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That's sad that so many of you are so willing to rip off your penis and throw it out the window in support of a sad situation in the work place where any comment about anyone is offensive to anyone else.
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Yes you're very dramatic, bravo. It is not appropriate to suggest that someone performed sexual favors to get their job.
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It is a fuggin joke. It is not imo very mature or adult-like to get someone written up for saying such a joke.
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The worlk place is not the place for sexist jokes. And if a co worker is the brunt of the joke that is a double whammy.

Had HR done nothing then they could be liable should she decide to press sharged.

And the punishment he got is basically a warning. "hey don't do this again or we might fire you." It today's workplace the write up is mearly a way to document the fact you understand what you did was wrong and that you understand you can get fired.

It is a NON PUNISHEMENT.

While I agree that sometimes the line of what is and what is not sexual harrassment is WAY TO GRAY, I feel she shou,ld have been given the warning if the company has decided to that these coments are not acceptable.
 
Originally posted by: Evadman
This sexual harrasment stuff in today's world is such crap. If anyone was not aware, women run the world, and this proves it.

Here is what happened. Someone in my row said that the IT department of the company I work for sucks. I made the comment that if you get a certain person on the phone (lets callt his person "Cindy") to just hang up because she has no clue. Someone else in the row asked me how she got her job, and I replied "It probably had to do with Cindy wearing kneepads".

One of the women in the row took exception to that, and told the HR guy, and I was wirtten up for it. This woman is not in any way related to IT or Cindy.

What I don't get is this same women made a comment VERY close to this about her very own manager "taking it up the wazoo" to keep his job. I should also say that this woman once became deathly afraid of the number 5, and freaked out whenever she saw it for a few days because the number 5 was "kinda pointy and round"

Then I get told that I am not allowed to retaliate in any way against the person who got me written up (like I would. I could care less, and doing something like that is not worth my time) and to "just act like it never happened". How the hell do you act like it never happened? Am I allowed to say that the dress she is wearing looks nice? (I am a very easy going person at work, and try to make everyone's day a little better)

I decided I am just not going to say anythign to this person, ever. If she asks me questions, I am just going to say that I do not want to talk to her because I don't want anything I say to come across wrong.

Cliff Notes: I got written up because I have a penis.
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You are a moron. Why in the hell would you say stuff like that at work anyway?
 
You can't fight it at this point by saying these sort of rules are stupid.

You have to accept the rule (at this point) and show that she set the standard by saying her manager was "taking it up the wazoo" to keep his job.

You should tell HR, and they should certainly support you.

If your HR dept has any training or common sense, they will try to find out if she has said simillar things, yet acts offended by the same things.
 
If no one reported the "wazoo" comment as being offensive, then you can't really be upset that she was not written up - supervisors are not psychic. It would have been screwed if she were reported for her backside love comment and was not punished, but you were reported for your mouth love comment and were written up (unless I didn't read closely enough and that's what actually happened).

Either way, it's always best to avoid any sort of sexual talk while on the job, even as a joke. Sex is a personal, intimate subject that you don't really need to share with the dude from the mailroom or your boss. 😉

What you said was offensive - imagine someone saying your mom got something because she sucked cack, or you got your own job for that reason, you can't tell me that wouldn't offend you.
 
Originally posted by: UglyCassanova
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
It is a fuggin (tasteless, sexually demeaning) joke. It is not imo very mature or adult-like to say such a joke.

- M4H
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Coming from you.
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I never said it wasn't funny. 😛 If you want to whip that out at the after-hours gathering at the pub, go nuts. But saying that in the office environment is just stupid.

Most of the time, it's the uptight crotchety harrassment-spotters in their mid-30s who are all bitter that the studly university co-op student isn't putting the Mack on them.
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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: aircooled
If you're going to get in trouble, you might as well touch a boobie on the way to the office. 🙂
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😀

- M4H
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Yeah, I stand by those statements. You'll just have to wrap your mind around that. 😛

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: glen
You can't fight it at this point by saying these sort of rules are stupid.

You have to accept the rule (at this point) and show that she set the standard by saying her manager was "taking it up the wazoo" to keep his job.

You should tell HR, and they should certainly support you.

If your HR dept has any training or common sense, they will try to find out if she has said simillar things, yet acts offended by the same things.
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Yes, there is one thing this PC crowd is more concerned about than sexual harrasment, and that's gay bashing 😉
 
I was at work and my friend Courtney was having a bad day. I hugged her and they said we'd both be fired if it happened again. Apparently a mutual hug is sexual harrasment.

Thank you political correctness....
 
me and a coworker was accused of gay bashing this gay guy at work one time. he complained to HR that we were making jokes about him when we weren't and we didn't even notice him. good thing HR was on our side and they let it go because he didn't have any evidence and he was just being paranoid.

 
at my workplace jokes 10x worse than that are said openly every single day. my boss greets me every morning with a dirty joke or two.
 
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