Don Vito Corleone
Elite
I once prosecuted a particularly horrific molestation case and, before I met the wife (who was the mother of the victims), I assumed she had to have known and would be in some way fatally flawed - crazy, stupid, terribly unattractive, something. She was none of those things - she was lovely, bright, level-headed and, I think, sincerely unaware of what he'd done. The dynamics in families can be strange and unexpected. I'm willing to give Dotty Sandusky the benefit of the doubt for the time being.
As a (related) digression, I can pretty much guarantee that Sandusky was molested as a kid. (Otherwise it's almost impossible he'd be molesting kids now.) That does very strange things to one's mind - the kid has to essentially lead a double life in which he or she is a sexually mature person in private and a naive kid in public. I once met with a 12-year-old who had been regularly raped by her dad since she was 3. She was, on the one hand, able to talk about her crush on a schoolmate in an age-appropriate way - she put her hands over her eyes and was very embarrassed - but in the same discussion could have a frank and detailed discussion about sex with her father and even an incident in which he'd tried to get her to have sex with a dog. This schism is devastating as people get older - every documented case of true split personality has been a victim of child molestation. People like Sandusky can, on the one hand, be successful and charming while, on the other hand, being terribly disturbed. It's quite possible his wife saw a lot of his good side and none of his bad.
