My girlfriend wants to help her exboyfriend ** UPDATE #2**

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
So are you neffin' from a
Hotel, Motel, Holiday Inn
If that byatch starts actin up
You betta mack her friiieend

Sorry - in all seriousness g/l with the situation.

No I'm actually at work.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: meltdown75
So are you neffin' from a
Hotel, Motel, Holiday Inn
If that byatch starts actin up
You betta mack her friiieend

Sorry - in all seriousness g/l with the situation.

No I'm actually at work.

oh well. some comic relief for ya. that is, if your sense of humour is warped, lame, and prone to hip-hop outbursts like mine.

 

[tfinch2]

I can see a new thread in the future...Title:

My GF's Ex-BF is taking all my money while railing my GF. WHAT DO I DO ATOT?

You don't put a car in your name for an EX after you have broken up.

 

[kranky]

Get the car issue settled so there's no reason to have to have contact with them down the road. Now whether you choose to, once you find out exactly what the story is, is a different issue. But until you get untangled from the car situation you are going to be forced to be involved to some degree.

They said all the lawyers rejected their case. That probably means the lawyers wanted an upfront payment which they couldn't pay. If they had money to pay a lawyer they absolutely could find a lawyer to represent him. Lawyers don't "reject" cases.

If you take the car back and pay them a fair value for their "share", they should be able to find a lawyer to at least represent him in the initial stages.

And definitely find out exactly what the guy is charged with. It's highly suspicious to me that he would be jailed for something that happened when he was a teen without being released on minimal bail if he wasn't in any other trouble since that time unless the charges are serious.

 

Originally posted by: tfinch2
I can see a new thread in the future...Title:

My GF's Ex-BF is taking all my money while railing my GF. WHAT DO I DO ATOT?

You don't put a car in your name for an EX after you have broken up.

And much of AT wonders why they don't have a g/f? If all you people do is assume your g/f is banging another guy because she may talk to him, you all have issues.

 

[MadPeriot]

bump..update.

 

[rh71]

your gf lost her job and she's worried about this loser with no money ? On top of that, the ex-bf ignored legal papers. I wonder if he deserves what's coming...

Just wow. Your assignment remains setting her head straight in an empathic manner. The car is a fuct up situation.

 

[eakers]

Update **
Spoke to my girlfriend last night. I tried to be calm as possible. I apologized to her about taking off to blow off steam and shes actually going through a tough time lossing her job so being a good boyfriend I try to understand her current situation over all this delimma.
I asked her why couldn't she had taken care of the car issue long time ago. I suggest why couldn't you transfer the car's name to his girlfriend's name. She gave me some bullsh*t answer " it just is, thats the fact and I can't do anything about this." Then I asked her WHY?? She says they don't have the money to pay off the car ($14,500 more to go) to get the name transfered. Call me ignorant but is that true? For one to transfer the registeration under someone's name the car must be pay off first? I do not know the procedures can someone explain?
As to why the ex in jail is still fishy to me. The reason why this person is in jail is because of something he did in the past that caught up to him now. The court contacted him for paper work that he never responded to and now he is paying for the consequences. He is not just locked up but getting deported. This guy did time in the past for 7 years which I knew nothing about and my girlfriend claims she told me (which is more bullsh*t).
What I learned, in a relationship as the man just got to suck it up and be supportive and trusting. Even despite the fact that this isn't fair for me to be in this position. All that because I do love her.

I am so sorry that you are puttting up with this. you are a good bf.

If she is losing her job then how is she going to buy a car from them?

 

[Stark]

if he's getting deported, she just got herself a used car for $14k!

two words that sum up this thread: "sloppy seconds."

 

[ggnl]

He's being deported?? To where?

You better take care of that car. I'm guessing he's not going to pay the car payments from whatever country he's going to. If it get's repo'ed and it's still in her name, her credit is going to be hosed for a long time.

 

[Miramonti]

What a messed up situation. Your girlfriends credit is going to be destroyed when they stop making car payments, which obviously will happen soon - bad move to not resolve that.

He needs a lawyer, not your money, and he can drag all of you down with him if you're not careful. People have to take responsibility for themselves, which it sounds like he has multiple problems that he has chosen to neglect, muchless be upfront about. You guys are at high risk of being taken advantage of because you're young and naive and your girlfriend doesn't yet realize the true risk of sticking your necks out for a person proven to be irresponsible.

They aren't your family, and there will be plenty more times to help desperate people with money, so choose wisely.

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Stark
obervation: i don't understand why people create posts that make them look like morons

your girlfriend is still dumb.

if he's getting deported, she just got herself a used car for $14k!
Why not help her out and buy it off her? You can help redefine the term "sloppy seconds."

you may be right and yea probably am a moron but I do have morals. I'm not willing to rip this guy off even if this guy was her ex. I am thinking of buying the car, its a Audi A4 2002. This way I do end up helping these people, gets my girlfriend off this car ordeal, and I got a new car for lesser value.

 

[MrChad]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Update **
Spoke to my girlfriend last night. I tried to be calm as possible. I apologized to her about taking off to blow off steam and shes actually going through a tough time lossing her job so being a good boyfriend I try to understand her current situation over all this delimma.
I asked her why couldn't she had taken care of the car issue long time ago. I suggest why couldn't you transfer the car's name to his girlfriend's name. She gave me some bullsh*t answer " it just is, thats the fact and I can't do anything about this." Then I asked her WHY?? She says they don't have the money to pay off the car ($14,500 more to go) to get the name transfered. Call me ignorant but is that true? For one to transfer the registeration under someone's name the car must be pay off first? I do not know the procedures can someone explain?
As to why the ex in jail is still fishy to me. The reason why this person is in jail is because of something he did in the past that caught up to him now. The court contacted him for paper work that he never responded to and now he is paying for the consequences. He is not just locked up but getting deported. This guy did time in the past for 7 years which I knew nothing about and my girlfriend claims she told me (which is more bullsh*t).
What I learned, in a relationship as the man just got to suck it up and be supportive and trusting. Even despite the fact that this isn't fair for me to be in this position. All that because I do love her.

That makes sense. The bank holds a lien on the title of the car. In order for you to transfer the title to another person, you have to remove the lien first. That means you have to pay off the car. Theoretically, the ex and his GF could get their own loan to pay your GF for the value of the car, which she can use to pay off the loan in order to transfer the title.

 

[yllus]

I read the first post and guessed that they were going to try to offload bum debt onto her.

Skipping to the end, it looks like I was right. GO ME!

 

[A5]

Wait...she/they bought an A4 in HER name, and then let the bastard keep it when they broke up? Wow...just wow...

 

[Dr. Detroit]

Your GF datd an ex-con who served 7 yrs with Bubba? I suggest you get an AIDS test done STAT!

Your GF is a proven liar, you yourself admit it. Therefrore you need to dump her and move on. Love is a two way street my friend and she could give a rats ass about you. She is not being honest adn the trust is gone.

I'd love to see her credit report, you honestly think a guy who's been in jail for 7yrs was making those car-payments on time? Sure.........


Yeah its gonna hurt like a MF'er but you need to move on and ditch the lying GF. If shes a perfect ten, hotter than Jessica Alba and her punany drips golden honey all the while you know when she turns 30 shes getting acces to a multi-million $ trust fund then I would stick around.

But if not, time to move on, your not loved and your'e the door mat in the relationship!

 

[bootymac]

Damn. You got your sh1t cut out for you

 

[KoolAidKid]

Originally posted by: MeanMeosh
here, i'll just save you some time and type out the collective reply of ATOT.



"women are bitches, she's going to cheat on you."
"she's sleeping with someone else already, dump her ass."
"if she's willing to do this for him, think of who else she'll do for him!"
"threesome"

So true. :thumbsup:

 

[ttown]

Hurry up and marry her. Then you can buy the car and all will be settled.
And when you're shopping for a house, buy one with at least 3 bedrooms.
1 for you and her, 1 for her ex while he awaits trial, and 1 for the meth-lab he's going to set up to support himself.
Don't bother with all the title-transfer mumbo jumbo, cuz when your house and car are seized, it won't really matter who's name is on it.
Put all remaining money into liability insurance.
So when the ex tries to run in your gf's car and goes crashing into a few innocent people, you'll have the insurance coverage that the ex doesn't.
Awww... ain't love grand.

The thing is, when people are in love, they're blind to all this. At most, you'll acknowlege that this _could_ happen, but insist that _you're_ different.
I predict in three months you'll update this thread again with the words "I should have listened...."
good luck

 

[Stark]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Stark
obervation: i don't understand why people create posts that make them look like morons

your girlfriend is still dumb.

if he's getting deported, she just got herself a used car for $14k!
Why not help her out and buy it off her? You can help redefine the term "sloppy seconds."

you may be right and yea probably am a moron but I do have morals. I'm not willing to rip this guy off even if this guy was her ex. I am thinking of buying the car, its a Audi A4 2002. This way I do end up helping these people, gets my girlfriend off this car ordeal, and I got a new car for lesser value.

you're too quick for my edit (i was trying to be nicer). this girl sounds like a mess. hope she's worth it in the end.

wholesale on a 2002 1.8 A4 is $17,100, so you may come out ahead if you buy the car off them.

 

[gigapet]

hit it one more time and quit it. not worth the headache find a sane girl that isnt completely dishonest and manipulative with you.

 

[gregshin]

Should've came to me first before AT mang...there's only a few people here who don't talk out of their ass...most of em don't have a clue...time for me and j00 for some cigs and coffee or beer....i prefer the later of course

 

[maziwanka]

god. being single has its benefits

 

[ggnl]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Stark
obervation: i don't understand why people create posts that make them look like morons

your girlfriend is still dumb.

if he's getting deported, she just got herself a used car for $14k!
Why not help her out and buy it off her? You can help redefine the term "sloppy seconds."

you may be right and yea probably am a moron but I do have morals. I'm not willing to rip this guy off even if this guy was her ex. I am thinking of buying the car, its a Audi A4 2002. This way I do end up helping these people, gets my girlfriend off this car ordeal, and I got a new car for lesser value.

Buy the car? If he stops paying your gf is liable for the payments. Just take the car back and start making the payments yourself. There is no reason to give him anything for it.

 

[Armitage]

Wow - this guy was in the can for 7 years?!? What the FVCKIN HELL is up with women that they go for guys like this.

Who's name is the loan on the car in? Does she have copies of the title & loan paperwork?

A few things to start...
1. Pull her credit reports - all of them. See if this guy has already screwed it up by not making car payments.
2. Contact the loan company and see what the state of the loan is. What is the current payoff?
3. Try to determine if there is current insurance on the vehicle.
4. Talk to a lawyer to determine what your GF's potential liability is, and how she could go about extricating herself.

Forget helping this guy - your GF needs to cover her own ass at this point.