My girlfriend wants to help her exboyfriend ** UPDATE #2**

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Cleaner

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Originally posted by: Patt
There HAS to be more to this than what has been posted. If she can't tell you what he's done, and why she wants to help ... drop the biatch. Trust is too important, and if she can't level with you (even if it is terrible), then forget about it. Plenty of fish in the sea.

I second said sentiments. Trust is everything in a relationship. If you have any inkling of a trust issue you ALWAYS will have a naggins suspicion that she's lying to you. Break it off dude. Nobody goes to prison for something for 7 years and still has felony convictions warrants out for them. They lump them all together. He probably violated his probation and is getting sent back into the slammer. So instead of facing sentencing he's fleeing the country. Think about it. If he's not a naturalized citizen they don't lock you up in our prison system. They deport you. Why waste government tax dollars on feeding and caring for other country's miscreants. They will deport you. If he's already been in jail then he's a US citizen. So he fleeing the country and your girlfriend is helping a soon to be know awall felon. Not good. If she gives him assistance she's going to go to jail to. Might want to let her know that just before you dump her ass. Oh might want to make sure the joint bank account the two of you have is empty before you takes you for everything and gives it to him. Now you're an accomplice.
 

Slvrtg277

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:beer::beer::beer::beer::beer::beer:
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These are for after you dump her, which you should do.

Or after you find out that you're being played and it's all over anyway.
 

James3shin

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Im not trying to be an ass, but your GF right now is COO COO man, crazy, off her rocker...
 

isasir

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How's it feel to play second fiddle to an ex-convict soon to be re-convicted ex-boyfriend?
 

Britboy

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For God's sake leave her!!!!!! You have to realize how rediculous it would be for you to stay with her!
 

JackBurton

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My girlfriend said she will regret for the rest of her life if she doesn't do this (I still don't really understand). I foresee a breakup coming soon or am I still over reacting?
Uh, and she'll regret it for DOING it, because I'd leave her ass!
 

slickcat

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Sounds like you are getting played by an ex-con and your gf. Sounds like a lot of fun to me. I'm just glad I'm not in that situation.
 

91TTZ

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How can you be so blind? You do realize that she's giving him precedence over you, don't you?

Dump this baggage NOW.
 

dsfunk

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tell her she's being a dumbsh!t in the nicest way possible, and then say see you later
 

mobobuff

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Originally posted by: Red Dawn
I think your GF needs to get this guy out of her life once and for all. If she helps him now he'll probably look to her again for help when he has other problems.

 

91TTZ

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And what's with the con's current girlfriend's parents? How dumb are they? They'll get divorced if the gf moves out of the country? LOL

You need to get these people together to film an episode of the Jerry Springer Show.
 

mobobuff

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Originally posted by: 91TTZ
And what's with the con's current girlfriend's parents? How dumb are they? They'll get divorced if the gf moves out of the country? LOL

You need to get these people together to film an episode of the Jerry Springer Show.

I'll bring the chairs!
 

PingSpike

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Honestly...I think you should dump her. I was gonna say attack this problem and try to bust through it, but it doesn't make sense. Her actions in this situation speak volumes about what you're going to have to do once you're married. You're gonna be putting other people's problems all on your plate, even when you've got your own share to deal with. Its hard enough to solve your own messes, much less everyone elses.

I know that its not an easy decision since you obviously love her and had intended on marrying her...but think about this logically, becase marriages only start because of love, they last because of the cold boring sh|t. And she failing big time on that before you're even at the start line. She's not even hearing you here, you're not on the same wavelength. And when some one doesn't hear you and you can't hear them...its time to walk away.

This is fvcking stupid. You're suppose to be a team...and teams are there to win, not to help the other teams fvck them over. How many other fvcking delinquent loans are going to show up on her credit report from good samaritan acts that she told you about once while you were playing counterstrike with your headphones on? This isn't even funny, its fvcking scary. Why did she even date this excon guy in the first place? WTF was she thinking getting a loan on an expensive ass car for some one with a dubious history at best. She has NO FVCKING JOB right now, and she wants to help these people out? Its not a good time for that, and YOU'LL end cleaning up the mess.

You marry this woman, all her financial problems are yours too...and considering her track record for informing you of these things...that could be more than just the sh|t storm you're looking at right now.

Bottom line, this problem on its own could be solved...but the fact that she doesn't see anything she's doing as stupid means she's just going to keep making these same mistakes over and over again. And you're gonna have to make them with her. You're going to have to pay for them. Are you prepared to do that?
 

kranky

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I cannot fathom why your gf would get even more deeply involved in this situation, but in any case I have to tell you this is not good.

It's not because you already had plans for San Diego, it's because she wants to visit this guy. There's something very wrong here. Ordinarily I'd say don't act hastily until you understand the whole story, but in this case I'll make an exception. Your gf is showing exceptionally bad judgement and a lack of concern for you and your relationship. Run far, run fast.

Bad things are going to come out of this and your gf will be dragged into it. Sorry, dude.
 

rh71

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I normally wouldn't condone simply-made "just break up with her" statements but it's obvious with all the info you've provided that she has gone off the deep end. I don't understand her need to help this loser, really I don't - unless there's still some attachment there. Breaking off plans with you while fully knowing your reaction would be the final straw for me.

Hey, at the very least, you will know how she feels about you after you show her how serious you are about all this...
 

RaiderJ

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Only read the first post.... if it was me I'd say kick her to the curb. Someone who shows so much empathy for a jailbird, yet seemingly none for you isn't a good sign. Definitely not wife material.

Make sure to cover your @ss financially & legally (if that's applicable).