My girlfriend wants to help her exboyfriend ** UPDATE #2**

[Hammer]

i read update #2

to be blunt: you're an idiot if you stay in this relationship.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: kranky
I cannot fathom why your gf would get even more deeply involved in this situation, but in any case I have to tell you this is not good.

It's not because you already had plans for San Diego, it's because she wants to visit this guy. There's something very wrong here. Ordinarily I'd say don't act hastily until you understand the whole story, but in this case I'll make an exception. Your gf is showing exceptionally bad judgement and a lack of concern for you and your relationship. Run far, run fast.

Bad things are going to come out of this and your gf will be dragged into it. Sorry, dude.

Exactly. She doesn't give two fvcks about whats going on between you two, but instead is breaking her back to help some two time loser that she boned for a few years. Well fvck her then.

Just let her follow her heart to the sh|t pile if thats where she wants to go so bad.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: RaiderJ
Only read the first post.... if it was me I'd say kick her to the curb. Someone who shows so much empathy for a jailbird, yet seemingly none for you isn't a good sign. Definitely not wife material.

Make sure to cover your @ss financially & legally (if that's applicable).

Why doesn't he just get her to buy him a couple cars before he dumps her ass. I heard she's pretty good at that.

 

[Scarpozzi]

Cut the rope dude... If she and this dude and his other girl want to have a 3some, I'd back away and find someone worth being with. I know it's easier said than done, but screw it. Move on. Right after you break up with her get about $50 in ones and hit the strip club. You'll feel better...trust me.

 

[Kev]

after that last update i can tell your gf is a real idiot and not worth the trouble.

 

[Yax]

It should be very obvious to you now that deep down, your GF is not over him and may be hopeful of a second chance. Do you really need this baggage? Dang, leave already. No girl would go see an ex in jail.

 

[dragonballgtz]

Originally posted by: Kev
after that last update i can tell your gf is a real idiot and not worth the trouble.

:thumbsup:

 

[pclstyle]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
My girlfriend got a call yesterday from her exboyfriend's girlfriend. She called my girlfriend and told her that her boyfriend (who is my girlfriend's ex) just got arrested and now locked up in jail. She was crying and venting off my girlfriend that she doesn't know what to do. They have a apartment together, a car shop, and a car to pay for and she is still in school not knowing how to pay for all this with her boyfriend in jail.

My girlfriend feels sorry for the couple and decided to talk to me about it and wants to help them out. The car that they have is under my girlfriends name...how that happen is another story. My girlfriend is thinking of buying the car back at least that'll take care some of their burden.

I'm sitting there listening to this bullsh*t asking her why does she want to help them so much?! This is not our problem and we don't even know why he is in jail. If anything this guy probably deserves to be locked up. But despite that my girlfriend thinks she should be a "good person" to take initiative to assist in their needs. She calls me selfish and all I think for is myself. This guy is in his 30s as we are still only 25-26. They can be playing my girlfriend for all I know.

I trust my girlfriend completely and she does have a giving heart. But to me there are too many unanswered questions that don't make sense to me. She claims that he was arrested for something he did back when he was a teen and now it caught up to him.

So I got in this big argument with her last night and I was so furious and left the house and got a hotel room and spent the night.

Am I over reacting??? Am I really being selfish??

Cliffnote
My girlfriend got a call from exboyfriend's girlfriend
exboyfriend's girlfriend told my girlfriend that he is locked up
my girlfriend feels sorry and wants to help
I get pissed off because I don't know know why she should help
I left the house and stayed at a motel
Am I over reacting

Update **
Spoke to my girlfriend last night. I tried to be calm as possible. I apologized to her about taking off to blow off steam and shes actually going through a tough time lossing her job so being a good boyfriend I try to understand her current situation over all this delimma.
I asked her why couldn't she had taken care of the car issue long time ago. I suggest why couldn't you transfer the car's name to his girlfriend's name. She gave me some bullsh*t answer " it just is, thats the fact and I can't do anything about this." Then I asked her WHY?? She says they don't have the money to pay off the car ($14,500 more to go) to get the name transfered. Call me ignorant but is that true? For one to transfer the registeration under someone's name the car must be pay off first? I do not know the procedures can someone explain?
As to why the ex in jail is still fishy to me. The reason why this person is in jail is because of something he did in the past that caught up to him now. The court contacted him for paper work that he never responded to and now he is paying for the consequences. He is not just locked up but getting deported. This guy did time in the past for 7 years which I knew nothing about and my girlfriend claims she told me (which is more bullsh*t).
What I learned, in a relationship as the man just got to suck it up and be supportive and trusting. Even despite the fact that this isn't fair for me to be in this position. All that because I do love her.

Update #2**
Just yesterday I got home from work I spoke with my girlfriend. And she decided to go see this exboyfriend in jail with the current girlfriend this Sunday. We had plans to go to San Deigo to get away for the weekend and she is canceling it for this. On top of that she expect me to be understanding. Yesterday my girlfriend went to see the current girlfriend and kinda hung out, it was thier first time meeting. The current girlfriend is thinking of moving out of the country with the ex. Her parents does not approve and is going to get a divorce if she does decide to move out of country with this guy (thats her problem). My girlfriend said she will regret for the rest of her life if she doesn't do this (I still don't really understand). I foresee a breakup coming soon or am I still over reacting?

at this point, you're not overreacting. not to be crude, but your girlfriend is a dumb whore. she's trying to stir up some emotion in her ex, for whatever reason, and is playing the good samaritan to cover herself.

lose her.