My girlfriend wants to help her exboyfriend ** UPDATE #2**

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Transition
Dude she's trying to help out her ex - that's nucking futs. He's on his own now, and responsible for his own mistakes.

Thats what I said to my girlfriend...and her reply was that I'm a selfish person.

If she wants to help people, suggest she/both of you volunteer at a soup kitchen or reading to disadvantaged children.

This situation sounds sketchy, and if her ex did something dumb enough to land himself in the slammer, that's his ahd his gf's problem, not hers and certainly not yours.

You know Tomato, while typing my last reply to this thread, I was reminded of your post awhile back regarding your boyfriend helping some wacky lady at a restaurant. Back then too I thought he was too nice/naive as well. IMO, that's a bad combination in extremes.

Me? I have no problem saying "Hell no" when someone asks me for help. 😉

Hey isasir... I suppose my fiance might have been too nice in that previous instance, but my primary concern back then was of his safety. He later explained he was perfectly capable of defending himself against an elderly lady (I still worried, what if she had a knife or gun??), and all's well that ends well. In this case, he'd probably tell his ex to fvck off and clean up his own mess, which I would support entirely. 😛

Comon guys...PM eachother for this...I'm in a delimma here.

I already gave you my $0.02.

The general consensus is pretty clear, and instead of moping around here hoping someone will magically fix your problem, grow a pair and go talk to your girlfriend about why you two need to keep your noses out of her ex's shady business.

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Transition
Dude she's trying to help out her ex - that's nucking futs. He's on his own now, and responsible for his own mistakes.

Thats what I said to my girlfriend...and her reply was that I'm a selfish person.

If she wants to help people, suggest she/both of you volunteer at a soup kitchen or reading to disadvantaged children.

This situation sounds sketchy, and if her ex did something dumb enough to land himself in the slammer, that's his ahd his gf's problem, not hers and certainly not yours.

You know Tomato, while typing my last reply to this thread, I was reminded of your post awhile back regarding your boyfriend helping some wacky lady at a restaurant. Back then too I thought he was too nice/naive as well. IMO, that's a bad combination in extremes.

Me? I have no problem saying "Hell no" when someone asks me for help. 😉

Hey isasir... I suppose my fiance might have been too nice in that previous instance, but my primary concern back then was of his safety. He later explained he was perfectly capable of defending himself against an elderly lady (I still worried, what if she had a knife or gun??), and all's well that ends well. In this case, he'd probably tell his ex to fvck off and clean up his own mess, which I would support entirely. 😛

Comon guys...PM eachother for this...I'm in a delimma here.

I already gave you my $0.02.

The general consensus is pretty clear, and instead of moping around here hoping someone will magically fix your problem, grow a pair and go talk to your girlfriend about why you two need to keep your noses out of her ex's shady business.

Thats the best advice I heard so far.

 

[imported_Mitchell]

Dump her.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: isasir

Originally posted by: Tomato

Originally posted by: MadPeriot

Originally posted by: Transition
Dude she's trying to help out her ex - that's nucking futs. He's on his own now, and responsible for his own mistakes.

Thats what I said to my girlfriend...and her reply was that I'm a selfish person.

If she wants to help people, suggest she/both of you volunteer at a soup kitchen or reading to disadvantaged children.

This situation sounds sketchy, and if her ex did something dumb enough to land himself in the slammer, that's his ahd his gf's problem, not hers and certainly not yours.

You know Tomato, while typing my last reply to this thread, I was reminded of your post awhile back regarding your boyfriend helping some wacky lady at a restaurant. Back then too I thought he was too nice/naive as well. IMO, that's a bad combination in extremes.

Me? I have no problem saying "Hell no" when someone asks me for help. 😉

Hey isasir... I suppose my fiance might have been too nice in that previous instance, but my primary concern back then was of his safety. He later explained he was perfectly capable of defending himself against an elderly lady (I still worried, what if she had a knife or gun??), and all's well that ends well. In this case, he'd probably tell his ex to fvck off and clean up his own mess, which I would support entirely. 😛

Comon guys...PM eachother for this...I'm in a delimma here.

I already gave you my $0.02.

The general consensus is pretty clear, and instead of moping around here hoping someone will magically fix your problem, grow a pair and go talk to your girlfriend about why you two need to keep your noses out of her ex's shady business.

Thats the best advice I heard so far.

SO TAKE IT!

And then come back, unload, and have a :beer:

If you're talking marriage with this woman, you're gonna need to openly communicate your thoughts/opinions on significant issues such as this one. Hopefully she'll come to her senses, drop all communication with her ex like a hot rock, and thank you later for it. GL.

 

[bootymac]

I understand that you will get mad, but to the point where you leave the house and spend the night at a hotel?

What do you think your girlfriend thinks of you now.

 

[StageLeft]

Staying at a hotel is wrong on your part. Either fvcking break up, or hang around and sort it out. People who run away from arguments are not helping sh*t. Anyway, I can't judge your gf until I know what her lose bf is in jail for.

 

[randomlinh]

you need to get the whole story. and she needs to get the car back asap since its in her name. or transfer the title over or something... i understand she has a big heart, but she needs to throw in some common sense behind it... ppl today will do anything to try and take advantage of a person like your gf.

 

[deejayshakur]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Thats the best advice I heard so far.

now don't come back until you've done something about it.

 

[RelaxTheMind]

I wouldnt carry anyone elses weight... especially if it has to do with my girl ex. he can eat a d!ck

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
Staying at a hotel is wrong on your part. Either fvcking break up, or hang around and sort it out. People who run away from arguments are not helping sh*t. Anyway, I can't judge your gf until I know what her lose bf is in jail for.

I admit I did over react. But I could not bare looking at her last night in the heat of agrument. I needed to blowout some steam thats why I left.

 

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: Jzero

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Because they are responsible for the payment of the car, not my girlfriend, she only did it to help him get a car in the past when they were dating.

The lender only cares about whose name is on the note. If her name is on the note, *SHE* is responsible for making the payments. That is simply the way its.

She might as well take the car back, but make it 100% clear that she's only doing it because she's only going to get screwed later when these deadbeats stop making the payments and she's trying to cut her losses now. I would TAKE the car back. Not BUY. TAKE, and then I would cut those clowns off for good, sell the car and smack myself for being so stupid in the first place.

Actually, liability for the note wouldn't be my greatest concern - liability if the ex doesn't keep up his insurance and gets in a wreck is. I suspect in that case they could come after the owner of the car.

 

[Yax]

okay the car thing was your gfs dumb mistake. Did you know that if that car ran into and killed someone, they can legally sue your gf?

so your options are simple:
1. play pvssy and go along with what ever she says and does.
2. Dump her for being so stupid.
3. pick up a go to jail card so she can turn her attention to you. 😉

 

[spidey07]

haven't read the thread....

but this is a clear case of "stay the F out of it woman, nothing good will come from it. Nothing"

 

[mchammer187]

Originally posted by: MeanMeosh
here, i'll just save you some time and type out the collective reply of ATOT.



"women are bitches, she's going to cheat on you."
"she's sleeping with someone else already, dump her ass."
"if she's willing to do this for him, think of who else she'll do for him!"
"threesome"

you forgot PICs!

of the prison shower room of course 😉

 

[MadPeriot]

Originally posted by: Yax
okay the car thing was your gfs dumb mistake. Did you know that if that car ran into and killed someone, they can legally sue your gf?

so your options are simple:
1. play pvssy and go along with what ever she says and does.
2. Dump her for being so stupid.
3. pick up a go to jail card so she can turn her attention to you. 😉

Serious, whats with woman and guys in jail.

 

[gsaldivar]

Originally posted by: Jumpem
there is no reason for someone in a relationship to have contact with an ex.

QFT :beer:😀

 

[Baked]

That girl's gonna dump your ass for her old bf. They always do this.

 

[Kroze]

Originally posted by: Baked
That girl's gonna dump your ass for her old bf. They always do this.

trufth!

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: Jumpem

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: Jumpem
Dump her. If she's still in touch with him no good come from it.

so um...dump her because she has a big heart? 😕

No, because there is no reason for someone in a relationship to have contact with an ex.

That's idiotic.

 

[Rhin0]

Originally posted by: DotheDamnTHing

Originally posted by: MeanMeosh
here, i'll just save you some time and type out the collective reply of ATOT.




"threesome"

:thumbsup:

With pics... Would be ok to help the her Ex out then. We give it approval.

 

[imthebadguy]

just remember, dont give em a penny

 

[VirtualLarry]

Originally posted by: MadPeriot
Sorry but I don't help criminals!

That's a very erroneous and prejudicial take on things, don't you think? People get arrested all the time, and don't end up convicted. Arrested != criminal. Convicted/guilty of a crime == criminal.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: Jumpem
Dump her. If she's still in touch with him no good come from it.

:thumbsup:

 

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: Jumpem
Dump her. If she's still in touch with him no good come from it.

:thumbsup:

Yes, because thats solid advice! :roll:

Your girlfriend has been nothing but upfront with you about it. You voiced your concerns with her, and you both disagreed. Instead of acting mature though, you decided to storm out like a child. This is not a light decision, thus you must talk it over more with your g/f and ask her why she feels such an obligation to help out.

 

[meltdown75]

So are you neffin' from a
Hotel, Motel, Holiday Inn
If that byatch starts actin up
You betta mack her friiieend

Sorry - in all seriousness g/l with the situation.