My girlfriend left me... Updated 9/6/05

[JacobJ]

it could be she wasn't satisfied sexually, and felt she never would be with you.

If a woman is enjoying great sex with you most every night, she will not leave you.

 

[MAME]

reminds me of the seinfeld episode where Jerry's gf cries when her hotdog falls on the ground

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: JacobJ
it could be she wasn't satisfied sexually, and felt she never would be with you.

If a woman is enjoying great sex with you most every night, she will not leave you.

/smacks JacobJ in the face with a rather large trout

 

[iroast]

been there. sh*t happens. get over it

 

[EMPshockwave82]

it's bad... it gets worse... then it gets better... then worse again... then the rest of your life you will probably realize that she wasnt it for you and you're better off that it happened when it did instead of later

I didnt eat a good meal for about 3 months after my last serious girlfriend left me (very similar in that i didnt see it coming)

been through it before and it sucks. i'm sorry to hear about that

 

[Bryophyte]

Sorry Eli

 

[Kaspian]

Originally posted by: Xionide
After a rough relationship I was talking to a very wise man about what I should do about the way I feel. He looked at me and said "so the bitch was cheating huh? Well their is one thing that will make it better" He then made an "o" with his left hand using his index finger and thumb and stuck his other index finger in and out of the hole. I will never forget his lesson.

:laugh:

 

[Kaspian]

Ony time will heal your pain man. IN the meantime try to keep your mind occupied. sorry about the whole thing

 

[AstroCreep]

My condolences.
Been there too. My most recent foree in to the dating crap-pool:
I was seeing this girl for a couple of weeks and for no apparent reason she blocks me on AIM and won't return my phone calls. WTF? This also a day after I installed a spare PSU into her PC because her's died. And no, I haven't gotten it back yet. Grrrr...

It's not easy to not know "Why?", but asking that over & over again makes it that much harder to handle, especially if you didn't (seemingly) do anything to bring about this type of reaction.

Dating nowadays is rough too in a lot of ways; I feel your pain, bro! I can only wish you "Good Luck" and say that it will be easier in time.

Until then, grab your favorite feel-good movie or TV series on DVD and watch that over & over. My "Get over it & feel good" collection includes Shaun of the Dead, LotR trilogy (movies, of course, I don't have enough time to read & feel better about myself, lol!), Family Guy, & The Sheild.

 

[archcommus]

Just remember that things wouldn't be good even IF she hadn't left you yet. Because obviously things weren't well in the relationship since she did. So it was inevitable. Just not the right person.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: archcommus
Just remember that things wouldn't be good even IF she hadn't left you yet. Because obviously things weren't well in the relationship since she did. So it was inevitable. Just not the right person.

Well that's the thing. He didn't know there was anything wrong other than that she didn't talk about her feelings as much as she should have. He thought everything was good.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: archcommus
Just remember that things wouldn't be good even IF she hadn't left you yet. Because obviously things weren't well in the relationship since she did. So it was inevitable. Just not the right person.

Well that's the thing. He didn't know there was anything wrong other than that she didn't talk about her feelings as much as she should have. He thought everything was good.

thats what leads me to think she has another man on the side.

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: Eli

Originally posted by: tami
did she say why?

no.. probably the worst part. I'll never know why....

This won't make you feel better but,

My first girlfriend (the first love of my life), broke up with my and never told me why. I was 17 at the time. I am now 33, married, one child, one more on the way, have lived in 10 different cities......

and it still hurts. It just hurts a lot less than it used to.

 

[ITJunkie]

Originally posted by: dug777
crapola mate, have a few beers with some mates, usually makes me feel better when i'm down

:brokenheart:

 

[mi1stormilst]

Dude trust me a lot of people have been where you are right now, there is something very strong inside us that makes us want to be a part of someone else. In time people start taking that connection for grant it...it is very difficult (but worthwhile) to find away to keep it fresh. Although you may not want to hear it bordum can be a huge factor for failed relationships....especially on the girls side. Its up to us boys/men to find ways to continually SHOW them how much we care. I don't know why she left, you may never know why she really left and frankly its not that important. Even if she gave you a reason you would then start to question that and in a matter of seconds feel the way you already do now. She left, the best thing for you to do is to evaluate your life and detemine if its going in the right direction. What are your life goals, when will you meet them? In time you will learn to love someone else and you will cherish it even MORE. Whatever you do ... don't turn into a freak of a manhore because you will end up finding the wrong kinds of relationships and causing others the same pain you are feeling now.

Your brother from another mother. (mi1stormilst)

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: archcommus
Just remember that things wouldn't be good even IF she hadn't left you yet. Because obviously things weren't well in the relationship since she did. So it was inevitable. Just not the right person.

Well that's the thing. He didn't know there was anything wrong other than that she didn't talk about her feelings as much as she should have. He thought everything was good.

thats what leads me to think she has another man on the side.

Well, he still trusts her when she said that she doesn't. However, if she's been hiding this whole thing with her estranged father, I dunno. She's obviously not been truthful about something, which means she may not necessarily be being truthful about everything.

 

[WhiteKnight]

Sorry to hear that, you guys were together a while, right?

 

[yukichigai]

The fact that she won't give you reasons why tells me one of two things:

1) She has poor communication skills and is unable to express her emotions and feelings to you in a plain and truthful manner. (i.e. she behaves like an unfortunate majority of women)

2) She has no real reasons, is scared of commitment or something and has just made a panickey decision that will wind up biting her in the ass.

Also, if what I understand is true -- you being a bit older than her -- it indicates that she may have a bit of a "daddy" complex, as a lot of women who had an absent father do. If this is the case you should know that this breakup is the healthiest thing possible for her; basically you were her surrogate father... who she just happened to have sex with a lot. That's pretty unhealthy.

 

[VoteQuimby]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: VoteQuimby
Dude it seems like she means the world to you. If she does then go after her. Find her some how and talk to her, maybe you can get through this and be together again.

lol. @ this


running back and whining and begging like a pvssy bahhhhh acting like that is what got him here in the first place, I'd bet my toes on it.

This coming from a guy who probably has never been with a girl that didn't inflate . . .

 

[revnja]

Originally posted by: Eli
I begged and pleaded with her... that we could still work this out.. but it didn't matter because I guess she had fallen out of love with me..

I think saying "I love you" and suddenly not getting it back after saying it a dozen times a day to eachother for the last 3.8 years hurt the most..

She had a serious communications issue. She just wouldn't talk about her feelings...

This same exact thing happened to me about two years ago. Well, I wasn't engaged, but you get the idea. I don't understand why women complain about men not expressing their feelings, it was the other way around in our relationship. She just wouldn't talk about anything and would just clam up. I felt a hint of a problem a'brewin, so I talked to her about it. She just listened and didn't say anything. That's when I knew there was trouble.

Being in that situation myself, I felt like I would never get over it, and felt I lost the love of my life. Looking back now, I realize she really wasn't worth all that headache. I realized I deserved someone better.

And the best news is: just last week I met the most amazing girl I've ever talked to in my life. The past is just now a mere footnote in my history book.

 

[StormRider]

Originally posted by: VoteQuimby
Dude it seems like she means the world to you. If she does then go after her. Find her some how and talk to her, maybe you can get through this and be together again.

Even I, a 42 year old you know what, thinks this is horrible advice.

 

[isasir]

Wow, it actually feels weird to hear this, since I've seen her pic in your sig for years, and now it's not there. Best of luck to ya man.

 

[mrrman]

been there dude...but not dumped....its hard

 

[EKKC]

if my gf breaks up with me i know i'd like kill myself

we live together, bought this apt together, have joint checking (separate savings), i put her name as beneficiaries for all my benefits and etc and so does she. we're married except we're not really married. it'd suck if we decide to leave each other.

 

[pclstyle]

chin up, kiddo.