My girlfriend called it quits last night....

[Doboji]

everyone goes through it once... afterwhich you learn to never ever base your own happiness on someone else. Nows the time to learn to count on yourself... which will enable you to build a better relationship in the future.

Life goes on... the world is still turning... and in time you will learn to see this as a good thing.

Hang in there...

-Max

 

[Slimline]

Originally posted by: torpid
Sounds similar to something I went through a couple years back. I went into work and everyone commented that I looked disgusted all the time. It's really tough emotionally when you believe that your friends aren't there for you. That actually is the worst part of it. When I had the rough patch, I discovered that I had surrounded myself with some friends who were introverted and unable to help me in the rough patch, and in retrospect I think that I also had too little faith in my other friends.

Maybe I'm going off on too much of a tangent, but it seems to me that you are like a walking time bomb just like I was (am?) and should seek counseling perhaps. Not because of being broken up with, but because of the feeling that no one is there for you. Even if it's true, and most likely it isn't, you will probably need help figuring out how to solve the problem.

As much as some of that can be true, I can keep control of myself when it comes down to it. And to those that asked, im 18 on the 28th so yes im young but that makes me no less of a person. So I havent dealt with many relationships but I am definately mature for my age. It may seem stupid for someone to come on a forum and ask for help, but it really is helping. I have read a lot of very helpful posts. I will try and get ahold of one of my friends today. He was willing to come over yesterday but i didnt want him here. My mom and dad talked to me for a long time, and i was talking to my mom about all kinds of thins till 3 am last night. I am very fortunate to have a very close family. Her family isnt like that, and it makes me wonder that if they had been if we would even be apart.

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: jyates

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: jyates

Originally posted by: Hellspawn
holy crossed eyes batman! cliff notes!!!!!!!!!!

Learn how to read ......it's not that hard ......


Sorry to hear you are down but I doubt you will get much sympathy
from the group of 14 year olds here on ATOT that have no idea
of what you are talking about.

Listen to this guy as he seems to be an expert at getting dumped

Well, it appears that one of those 14 year olds has spoken

I wish.

 

[Hav0k99]

This might sound lame but it helped me alot..... Some years ago I went through an emotional rollercoaster with an ex. I stuck through it because I just didn't want to be alone and I was so use to always being around her. Well she stepped up and broke it off. I was so devistated and then I got into AOL and chatting with some local girls who I got to be good friends with and then met someone who introduced me to my wife .

 

[Modeps]

I hate to just ignore your post, but I refuse to read it due to lack of paragraphs.

I Hope whatever your issue is, you're doing ok.

 

[Slimline]

Originally posted by: Hav0k99
This might sound lame but it helped me alot..... Some years ago I went through an emotional rollercoaster with an ex. I stuck through it because I just didn't want to be alone and I was so use to always being around her. Well she stepped up and broke it off. I was so devistated and then I got into AOL and chatting with some local girls who I got to be good friends with and then met someone who introduced me to my wife .

That doesnt sound lame at all. Right now im talking to her brothers ex who he dumped 3 days ago. I used to be very good friends with her. We now see eye to eye. btw, congratulations on the finding of your wife. I hope to someday experience a relationship with that strong of bond.

 

[Beau]

Best peice of advice i can give you is to just move on. Don't focus your life around your loss, you'll only end up losing more. Get out and have fun. Make new friends, and keep your mind occupied. You'll never fully be over it, but rather than it being a painful memory, cherish it for what it was and and accept that it, for whatever reason, wasn't working out for the both of you, and that's what relationships are about. It's better that it be over now than later.

oh yeah, beware of teh rebounds... they tend to put a whole new meaning to "bumping uglies"

:beer:

 

[Kenazo]

Here's the edited version for everyone that doesn't want to read his OP.

Originally posted by: Slimline
I loved her more than anything humanly imaginable to me, and last night she said she had lost that love for me.
She said she wants to be friends still but needs time. I have nothing to keep her off my mind. I have some really close friends, but none who would understand and those that would are not who i feel extremely comfortable showing me in such a weak and painful state of mind.

Everything in my house is her. I have no ambition to eat, drink, I cannot sleep, all I can do is think. I have no ambition to go see friends, im dying to call her but know i cant. I have delt with death of family and of close friends, and it is very difficult. But losing someone you love seems so much different. I just need someone to talk to.

My reply:

That sucks. Just remember you are hardly the first person to go through something like this. Many other countless millions have gone through very similar situations, not identical of course, but similar. It was hard for them, as it's hard for you. They made it and so will you. Grieve. You have lost a loved one.

 

[Slimline]

Originally posted by: Modeps
I hate to just ignore your post, but I refuse to read it due to lack of paragraphs.

I Hope whatever your issue is, you're doing ok.

Even though my grammar and sentence structure is[edit] generally [/edit] very good, i was not in a position of caring whether or not I divided my thoughts into neat little blocks. Christ, if i refuse to do something everytime it wasnt to my standards I would not get very far in life.

 

[LeetViet]

Seems like you made everything revolve around her.

 

[jadinolf]

Originally posted by: Sabot
Start with paragraphs

Imagine reading one of his books.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Hav0k99
This might sound lame but it helped me alot..... Some years ago I went through an emotional rollercoaster with an ex. I stuck through it because I just didn't want to be alone and I was so use to always being around her. Well she stepped up and broke it off. I was so devistated and then I got into AOL and chatting with some local girls who I got to be good friends with and then met someone who introduced me to my wife .

Your wife didn't mind being introduced to you by some local girls? :evil:

Drown your misery in cheap booze and lots of women. when you come up for air the world will seem like a better place.

 

[Slimline]

Originally posted by: Beau
Best peice of advice i can give you is to just move on. Don't focus your life around your loss, you'll only end up losing more. Get out and have fun. Make new friends, and keep your mind occupied. You'll never fully be over it, but rather than it being a painful memory, cherish it for what it was and and accept that it, for whatever reason, wasn't working out for the both of you, and that's what relationships are about. It's better that it be over now than later.

oh yeah, beware of teh rebounds... they tend to put a whole new meaning to "bumping uglies"

:beer:

LOL @ bumping uglies! Sex is the last thing on my mind right now, but i will take your advice and beware of who is on top of me in the dark lol.

 

[pyonir]

yeah, you're young, but you're also right that it doesn't make you less of a person. It also doesn't make it hurt any less. Take the advice of those here...get out and enjoy your new found freedom. It's a cliche, but there are many fish in the sea...and it's a cliche because it is right. I've been in your situation (although i was a little older) and i've found that dwelling on the past does nothing but make it worse.

Find something else to focus that energy on...whether that be working out, a new hobby, going out with friends, focusing on school...etc.

 

[welst10]

<<<I have lost 4 and a half pounds since 6:30 last night.>>>

Liar!

 

[JulesMaximus]

Two words: move on. Get rid of the love notes, give her back her blankets and get some new ones.

You need to grieve but you need to move on also. Only time can heal the hurt. Calling her and pleading will only alienate her and make you look pathetic.

The best thing you can do now is to find things you enjoy to help take your mind off her. Spend time with friends and family.

Good luck.

 

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: Mwilding
paragraphs...

:thumbsup:

 

[Slimline]

Originally posted by: welst10
<<<I have lost 4 and a half pounds since 6:30 last night.>>>

Liar!

Im lying through my teeth. It is entirely possible to lose weight like that. Water retention is a big thing. I ate or drank nothing after 6 oclock, i was sweatng, and crying a lot. Working at an old age home, I have seen people lose weight at a MUCH faster rate. Not to mention it is scary how fast someone seemingly healthy can be flatlined by the end of your shift.

 

[Bumrush99]

Hang in there buddy, only time can heal these types of wounds. I had a girlfriend for 5 years, then decided one morning that I was too young to be involved and wanted to party with friends. After two months of doing that I realized I had made a mistake but by then it was too late. Took me 6 months to get over her, the day you wake and don't think about her will be the first day in your new life. No forums, no nightclubs, no woman can replace something that has been built over time.

 

[TheShiz]

there most likely is someone else.

just say no

 

[Slimline]

Originally posted by: Bumrush99
Hang in there buddy, only time can heal these types of wounds. I had a girlfriend for 5 years, then decided one morning that I was too young to be involved and wanted to party with friends. After two months of doing that I realized I had made a mistake but by then it was too late. Took me 6 months to get over her, the day you wake and don't think about her will be the first day in your new life. No forums, no nightclubs, no woman can replace something that has been built over time.

Exactly! Nothing can replace what we had. We had been very close friends for a year prior to our realtionship. Getting together let us expand and appreciate each other more, and then it started to do the opposite. I was jealous of her want to hang out with guys all the time. I tried with all my power to accept her need of space and friends. It would have been easier if i knew them. She knew all my friends, I know one, yes one of hers. I told her the day we hooked up a relationship is based on communication. Without it, it is forsurely going to fall apart. It did. She had to much trouble talking to me even though i am very open..

 

[welst10]

just kidding with you. I am guess this is your first time. once you pass this one, you won't feel this much pain in any future relationships. I know, I've been there.

 

[vood0g]

get another girl. get laid, go to strip clubs.

 

[Rumpltzer]

Okay, I read your post.

I doubt there's anything anyone can say that'll make you feel better. It's gonna take time to work through this, and that sucks. It'll get better, but it'll take time. I feel for you.

My advice to you is to suffer as little as possible, and by that I mean to ignore this idea of being "just friends". It's just going to prolong the hurt.

Walk away, and don't look back. If after nine months or a year you still feel you need this girl's freiendship, then look her up. Until then, stay away from her. It's just going to hurt longer if you drag it out.

 

Was she an English teacher? If so... I understand why she dumped you