My BroInLaw just killed his wife and himself...

[KarenMarie]

Merry Friggen Christmas, huh?

sheesh!

I am soooo sorry for you, and your wife... and especially those poor kids.

🙁

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: TallBill

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
God, I'm so sorry.

TallBill-your wife's sister and her husband are your sister-in-law and brother-in-law. What else would you call him?

I've met my wife's husband's sister once. She is no relation to me whatsoever. I wouldn't refer to her as anything other then her first name.

Your wife's husband's sister would be related to you... she'd be your sister. 🙂

But anyway, I assume you meant your wife's sister's husband, which would be your brother-in-law 🙂

 

[Baked]

Originally posted by: TallBill

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
God, I'm so sorry.

TallBill-your wife's sister and her husband are your sister-in-law and brother-in-law. What else would you call him?

I've met my wife's husband's sister once. She is no relation to me whatsoever. I wouldn't refer to her as anything other then her first name.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[Leper Messiah]

wow thats seriously fscked up.

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: mugs

Originally posted by: TallBill

Originally posted by: Bryophyte
God, I'm so sorry.

TallBill-your wife's sister and her husband are your sister-in-law and brother-in-law. What else would you call him?

I've met my wife's husband's sister once. She is no relation to me whatsoever. I wouldn't refer to her as anything other then her first name.

Your wife's husband's sister would be related to you... she'd be your sister. 🙂

Crap, i meant my sister's husband's sister. She is not related to me whatsoever.

 

That's some fvcked up news to receive just before the holidays.

 

[bluemax]

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak

Originally posted by: mugs
Given the circumstances you described, I think it would be better for everyone involved if you didn't take the kids into your home permanently.

Yes, this is a fact.

Well... the odds aren't that great that his other family will take good care of them. Foster care has an even lower chance..... the more I think of it, the more it's best for them to stay with us. We're a very loving home... I'm sure I can learn to love my nephews as much as my own son.... but I do hope they'll be better behaved than with their own parents. Parenting is tough enough with our only child almost two years old, but now I have to learn how to care for and discipline a 10 and 12 year old.

Not easy.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: bluemax

Originally posted by: jpeyton
Any guesses why he did it?

Maybe I should add that to the OP. They were on the verge of splitting up. He was being a big idiot and not wanting to change his crappy behavior. Basically, his pot-smoking started really screwing him up... he turned all paranoid that his wife was cheating on him, etc. When she'd finally had enough of his abuse and BS, she kicked him out.

He promised to change, weaseled in and a week or two later, shot her. He only shot himself to avoid arrest.

His pot-smoking? I'd bet that he was screwed up long before he started smoking the bud.

Anyway, good luck to you man. If subscribe to a faith, now would be a good time to use it. And, like others said, you have got to focus on your family and your kids before even thinking about bringing the other kids in.

 

[Trey22]

Ah, man that's terrible.

As for the kids... pre-emptive spankings... every day until they learn respect.

 

[kranky]

Oh, my. That's unbelievable.

I sincerely wish you the best in coping with this tragedy and whatever decision you make about the children.

 

[BrokenVisage]

Originally posted by: bluemax

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak

Originally posted by: mugs
Given the circumstances you described, I think it would be better for everyone involved if you didn't take the kids into your home permanently.

Yes, this is a fact.

Well... the odds aren't that great that his other family will take good care of them. Foster care has an even lower chance..... the more I think of it, the more it's best for them to stay with us. We're a very loving home... I'm sure I can learn to love my nephews as much as my own son.... but I do hope they'll be better behaved than with their own parents. Parenting is tough enough with our only child almost two years old, but now I have to learn how to care for and discipline a 10 and 12 year old.

Not easy.

It's your responsibility to raise them properly then, get them out of their reckless redneck style while they're still young.

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: BrokenVisage
It's your responsibility to raise them properly then, get them out of their reckless redneck style while they're still young.

No its not. He didn't birth those children. However, he can accept the responsibility if he so chooses.

 

[zoiks]

Originally posted by: bluemax
I may not like these kids much, but I DO know we're their best chance. If they go to his brother, they'll have the issue of daddy's brother being so much like him. A good and bad thing.

I can't abide them going to foster care when they can be with family. I wish it weren't so, but it is. If we're the best option, we'll have to do it. We'll all have to adjust somehow.

My condolences on what happened. I'm very impressed with your candor and graciousness.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: bluemax

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak

Originally posted by: mugs
Given the circumstances you described, I think it would be better for everyone involved if you didn't take the kids into your home permanently.

Yes, this is a fact.

Well... the odds aren't that great that his other family will take good care of them. Foster care has an even lower chance..... the more I think of it, the more it's best for them to stay with us. We're a very loving home... I'm sure I can learn to love my nephews as much as my own son.... but I do hope they'll be better behaved than with their own parents. Parenting is tough enough with our only child almost two years old, but now I have to learn how to care for and discipline a 10 and 12 year old.

Not easy.

The government gives foster parents some money to cover the cost of caring for the kids, see if you can at least get some sort of help.

 

[Cpt Cupcake]

I'm sorry to hear that. I'll keep your family in my prayers. 🙁

 

[Powermoloch]

wow dude...🙁

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: bluemax

Originally posted by: fbrdphreak

Originally posted by: mugs
Given the circumstances you described, I think it would be better for everyone involved if you didn't take the kids into your home permanently.

Yes, this is a fact.

Well... the odds aren't that great that his other family will take good care of them. Foster care has an even lower chance..... the more I think of it, the more it's best for them to stay with us. We're a very loving home... I'm sure I can learn to love my nephews as much as my own son.... but I do hope they'll be better behaved than with their own parents. Parenting is tough enough with our only child almost two years old, but now I have to learn how to care for and discipline a 10 and 12 year old.

Not easy.

You cannot do that alone. it is not fair to you/your wife, your nephews or your own child. these kids will be traumatized. they will need professional help to deal with their parents and you will need professional help to deal with them.

it is admirable that you want to, though. there are not many kind hearted, honorable ppl such as yourself who would be willing to take this on and all the drama/hardships it will entail.

Major Kudos to you!!!

 

[mrSHEiK124]

Kind of a rotten Christmas if you ask me,

Remember, it could always be worse.
Kudos on wanting to take the kids up too, best of luck man.

 

[NFS4]

WOW, sorry to hear it man. I hope that you and your wife can make it through this awful tragedy 🙁

 

[Mrfrog840]

sorry to hear about what happened man. I hope that God will help you through this.

 

[bluemax]

Kinda' puts the issue of my little boy sticking a screwdriver through my scrimped-and-saved-for 19"LCD into perspective...

 

[tommigsr]

i'm so sorry to hear, hope all goes well for you.

 

[Slacker]

I would not take these kids into my home when there is an toddler to care for.

 

[Genx87]

Chances are the kids are trouble because the parents were equally rotten. Here is your chance to right the ship for these kids and show them a path to becoming a useful and productive part of society.

Edit: Did I hear you have a kid? Well that changes things. Remember your first responsibility is your own offspring. If these kids are a danger to your kids then dont take them in, and dont let people guilt you into it either.

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Originally posted by: bluemax
Kinda' puts the issue of my little boy sticking a screwdriver through my scrimped-and-saved-for 19"LCD into perspective...

Yeah, you didn't shoot him.
OP, sorry to hear that. You do need to look at what is best for the kids. Foster care and possible adoption are viable options nowadays. Some kids will look at it as a new start in life and if there are no ties then they might change. Plus, foster care will mean that the kids will be fed clothed, and have proper medical attention, that you might not be able to afford, seeing as how you said you are barely making it by.
You said you have a 2 year old, and that these older boys like to kill things for fun. Bad combo. You are opening a pandora's box if you take in the boys. You are putting YOUR child at risk.