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My BroInLaw just killed his wife and himself...
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slightlyhuman
Lifer
Originally posted by: Metzgermeister
I'm sorry to hear that. I'll keep your family in my prayers. 🙁
DurocShark
Lifer
Is it me or is this a really jacked up season for lots of us?
Wow, man. Makes my issues seem so minor!
Good luck whichever way you choose to go.
Wow, man. Makes my issues seem so minor!
Good luck whichever way you choose to go.
montanafan
Diamond Member
What a senseless tragedy. My condolences to your family and those two boys.
I admire your generosity and desire to do what is right for the two children who are so in need, but it sounds like you have some difficult times ahead. Does your wife feel the same way that you do about taking the kids in? Even if she does, I think you are the one in the better position to take stock of the effect that this is going to have on her and your family right now. After all, you say she was already feeling somewhat depressed and now add in the personal loss of her sister and the stress of having to care for two troubled and traumatized kids.
You are going to have to consider long and hard the overall affect this is going to have on her mental and emotional health and ability to cope with the situation first, then what it will mean for the future well-being of your family, and then what kind of assistance you can provide those children with to help them cope with this tragedy.
I'm sure you will be able to provide them with a loving home, support, security, and a sense of family, but it sounds like they are going to need some professional counseling as well. Maybe the school district can help you with that. They have counselors, in many areas school psychologists, and can usually provide grief counseling.
It's a difficult situation for all of you, but you sound like a responsible, caring, and strong person who wants to do what's right for your family and those in need, so you're off to the best start possible. Good luck to you and your family now and for the future.
Alexandra
I admire your generosity and desire to do what is right for the two children who are so in need, but it sounds like you have some difficult times ahead. Does your wife feel the same way that you do about taking the kids in? Even if she does, I think you are the one in the better position to take stock of the effect that this is going to have on her and your family right now. After all, you say she was already feeling somewhat depressed and now add in the personal loss of her sister and the stress of having to care for two troubled and traumatized kids.
You are going to have to consider long and hard the overall affect this is going to have on her mental and emotional health and ability to cope with the situation first, then what it will mean for the future well-being of your family, and then what kind of assistance you can provide those children with to help them cope with this tragedy.
I'm sure you will be able to provide them with a loving home, support, security, and a sense of family, but it sounds like they are going to need some professional counseling as well. Maybe the school district can help you with that. They have counselors, in many areas school psychologists, and can usually provide grief counseling.
It's a difficult situation for all of you, but you sound like a responsible, caring, and strong person who wants to do what's right for your family and those in need, so you're off to the best start possible. Good luck to you and your family now and for the future.
Alexandra
GuitarDaddy
Lifer
No kidding!
Our family isn't immuned either, we just learned of the death of my wifes mom last night by sudden heart attack. Suddenly our holiday plans have changed to travel, funeral, and sorting out her affairs🙁
But our troubles seem small compared to what your dealing with bluemax. May God be with you in this troubling time
n yusef
Platinum Member
Sorry to hear about this terrible tragedy.
The kids may be trouble, and I wouldn't take them in if you can't get financial support by the Gov't. The kids may also have psychological problems which could be a hassle to deal with, and only compound your wife's depression.
You would be doing the kids a great favor to the kids if you took them in however.
Think about how this will change your life and don't just take the kids in because they are your family.
The kids may be trouble, and I wouldn't take them in if you can't get financial support by the Gov't. The kids may also have psychological problems which could be a hassle to deal with, and only compound your wife's depression.
You would be doing the kids a great favor to the kids if you took them in however.
Think about how this will change your life and don't just take the kids in because they are your family.
flashbacck
Golden Member
You guys telling him to let the children go to foster homes are forgetting that this is his wife's sister's children. Are all of you seriously saying that if your sibling died, you'd let their children go to foster homes?
I'm so sorry to read this, bluemax.
I admire your sense of caring and responsibility, it appears that your first thoughts were for the children.
the financial impact probably won't be as bad as it originally appears. perhaps there is some insurance. the children will probably qualify for social security benefits.. hopefully some of that can be saved to help finance their educations. there may be other financial benefits available to them once you're appointed guardian. if not support money, at least medical benefits maybe. maybe the children's other relatives will kick in a little money now and then, in exchange for not having to be responsible for them. at any rate, I'm sure that you won't have to add the complete costs of their support into your already strained budget..
the hardest part is going to be taking care of those children in a non-financial sense, and it sounds like you're prepared to give that your best shot. you're a good man. 🙂
I feel so bad for those children. where are they now?
anno
I admire your sense of caring and responsibility, it appears that your first thoughts were for the children.
the financial impact probably won't be as bad as it originally appears. perhaps there is some insurance. the children will probably qualify for social security benefits.. hopefully some of that can be saved to help finance their educations. there may be other financial benefits available to them once you're appointed guardian. if not support money, at least medical benefits maybe. maybe the children's other relatives will kick in a little money now and then, in exchange for not having to be responsible for them. at any rate, I'm sure that you won't have to add the complete costs of their support into your already strained budget..
the hardest part is going to be taking care of those children in a non-financial sense, and it sounds like you're prepared to give that your best shot. you're a good man. 🙂
I feel so bad for those children. where are they now?
anno
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