At 23, you have to do what's right for you, and it sounds like you are moving in that direction. Good for you.
Tell them that you're in a lease and you can't move, or else your rental history will be damaged, and you don't want that, because it would make it hard to rent another place. (Yeah, that's kind of sarcastic, but it makes a point.) Your mom really will accept it eventually, because she has no choice. Also, if you're only 23, your parents can't be so old yet that they're literally frail, so don't even think about that, unless they're actually ill or something. If they're healthy now, you've got years and years to work out your independence, so best of luck, and good times to you.
Finally, I agree with LAUST--Get a forwarding order on your name only at your old address. It's free, effective, and easy, and they'll even inform people who send you mail of your new address for 6 months. You just fill out a simple 4 X 6 inch forwarding order form at any post office.
Tell them that you're in a lease and you can't move, or else your rental history will be damaged, and you don't want that, because it would make it hard to rent another place. (Yeah, that's kind of sarcastic, but it makes a point.) Your mom really will accept it eventually, because she has no choice. Also, if you're only 23, your parents can't be so old yet that they're literally frail, so don't even think about that, unless they're actually ill or something. If they're healthy now, you've got years and years to work out your independence, so best of luck, and good times to you.
Finally, I agree with LAUST--Get a forwarding order on your name only at your old address. It's free, effective, and easy, and they'll even inform people who send you mail of your new address for 6 months. You just fill out a simple 4 X 6 inch forwarding order form at any post office.
A lot of people would love to live at home. Free shelter, free food, free laundry service...etc It's a hot deal, YMMV. 
However, the downside is that you'll have to deal with family issues, sharing items (if you don't like to share), other people's stuff in your way, privacy issues.
You won't know which side is better until you try it.
However, the downside is that you'll have to deal with family issues, sharing items (if you don't like to share), other people's stuff in your way, privacy issues.
You won't know which side is better until you try it.
dabuddha
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You did the right thing. I'm guessing your asian and I know what asian parents can be like. I lived at home till I was 23 and found a job. I was forced to move away which was tough. Some people just don't understand what you're going through but I think I do.
Idiot.
Go off yourself.
Anyway, I agree with everybody else. How can you possibly feel bad about moving away from home at 23?
Most people are gone well before that. Your parents will get over it. Just live your life. You can't live your life for other people, you will never be happy that way.
I haven't lived at home since I left for college at 18 and there I times I really regret it. I could have saved a ton of money for my future if I had done so. Of course if you are intelligent enough to realize that you are probably intelligent enough to ignore this moronic reply. I guess I fall a little short.
dvdrdiscs--I understand your concern for your family, especially if they are older. However, I'm not sure the issue here is that they need you there, but rather that they are having trouble letting go. Make a go of it on your own, but keep your eye on your family and decide for yourself how they are really doing. Let the guilt/drama go and you'll feel better. Then you can really determine if they need you there. It's your decision either way. Unfortunately, they seem to have trained you to respond to guilt so you'll have to overcome that.
SagaLore
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I was thinking the same thing - dvdrdiscs, is your family trying to make you out to be a bad guy? What is so important about you they need you to take up more space at their house? Do they get some kind of welfare assistance for having you there? Sounds like the mom is trying to make you feel guily because she is the one being selfish.
REALLY traditional oriental families rely on their children to care for them in old age...could this be it? Are your parents financially secure.
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
all of the 23+ year olds who still live at home are coming out of the wood work.
oh...is that why you're here?
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