alkemyst
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WTF? I added actually 15 to 20HP, but my car only weighs 2500lbs.
Again you are bringing up my car...I did not bring it up.
I bet you got a small wiener too, but I am not going to bring it up just to try and make myself look good.
Do you have a girlfriend? Do you live on your own? tell us about yourself chiselchest.
So two complete asshats decide to hijack the thread. A monument to your vast intelligence. Kudos, sirs! And kudos again!
dipshits
dipshits
Sure... so do you have dyno slips of your car stock and after the mods? Because I'd like to see 15-20hp from what you did. Just scan them in and upload them to a pic hosting site for me to see. Thanks.
Huh? How in the world did this thread turn into a discussion about cars? How did we suddenly witness members competing for the title of "coolest" with choice of material things? Uhmmm. . . . I'll just crawl in quietly and crawl out carefully, lest someone hurts me with the strange discussion. LOL!
Anyway, to the original poster: I swear . . . I really can't understand posters that come posting rants about their personal lives but hardly are specific about events. If you are so private that you cannot disclose any details, then why bother posting and asking for advice? You know you can just enter a disclaimer: Rant, no opinion or advice expected, and none invited.
Really though, how do you honestly expect people to objectively give opinions if you're only saying how what dad said wasn't really your reason for leaving, but you won't be specific about incidents that led you to depression and later move out for sanity sake?
Using your biased report, I'll say the following: Your mum's exhibition sounds familiar. I hereby dub your mum 'drama queen'. It can be frustrating if you don't learn to deal with dramatic people. For someone who's lived with his mum for 23 years, I would suppose that you would know to ignore drama queens once they start with their fits. They'll eventually stop on their own. You have to act indifferent at some point, you know. I am not saying you should never consider anything your mum says. In fact, you should. You should however treat it as something to be considered and without giving it too much weight automatically, especially because of fear. And don't respond to fits thrown.
Again, it is hard for me to give an objective view when you have posted a complete bias. For instance, you have failed to explain the economical circumstance of your parents. Did they partly depend upon you for financial support? If they did, then it might explain their desire to have you back in the house. If not, then you are on the clear. You should stay independent. However, don't you ever return to their house because you cannot afford rent. Live on the street if you must, since you made this decision.
Also, don't try to create a false dichotomy. You do have an option: You can move out, yet reconcile with your parents. Moving out is a reasonable thing to do at your age, independent of your relationship with your parents. At the same time, moving out helps you to clear your mind, tolerate things more and willingly reconcile with your parents. When you live with them, then everyone starts stepping on the others' toes. As a result, you get impatient and easily agitated over minute things. It doesn't help at all too if you have a drama queen in your house.
So stay put, but try reconciling with your family. Give some space first. Don't feel obligated to respond to every statement or call you receive. Your goal is to calm things down first for everyone to begin reasoning. When all is quiet, then you pick up the phone or write a letter to your parents, in effort to reconcile with them. You have to be willing to concede to things and make compromises. Be true to yourself; and be honest with your parents.
Best of luck!
Anyway, to the original poster: I swear . . . I really can't understand posters that come posting rants about their personal lives but hardly are specific about events. If you are so private that you cannot disclose any details, then why bother posting and asking for advice? You know you can just enter a disclaimer: Rant, no opinion or advice expected, and none invited.
Really though, how do you honestly expect people to objectively give opinions if you're only saying how what dad said wasn't really your reason for leaving, but you won't be specific about incidents that led you to depression and later move out for sanity sake?
Using your biased report, I'll say the following: Your mum's exhibition sounds familiar. I hereby dub your mum 'drama queen'. It can be frustrating if you don't learn to deal with dramatic people. For someone who's lived with his mum for 23 years, I would suppose that you would know to ignore drama queens once they start with their fits. They'll eventually stop on their own. You have to act indifferent at some point, you know. I am not saying you should never consider anything your mum says. In fact, you should. You should however treat it as something to be considered and without giving it too much weight automatically, especially because of fear. And don't respond to fits thrown.
Again, it is hard for me to give an objective view when you have posted a complete bias. For instance, you have failed to explain the economical circumstance of your parents. Did they partly depend upon you for financial support? If they did, then it might explain their desire to have you back in the house. If not, then you are on the clear. You should stay independent. However, don't you ever return to their house because you cannot afford rent. Live on the street if you must, since you made this decision.
Also, don't try to create a false dichotomy. You do have an option: You can move out, yet reconcile with your parents. Moving out is a reasonable thing to do at your age, independent of your relationship with your parents. At the same time, moving out helps you to clear your mind, tolerate things more and willingly reconcile with your parents. When you live with them, then everyone starts stepping on the others' toes. As a result, you get impatient and easily agitated over minute things. It doesn't help at all too if you have a drama queen in your house.
So stay put, but try reconciling with your family. Give some space first. Don't feel obligated to respond to every statement or call you receive. Your goal is to calm things down first for everyone to begin reasoning. When all is quiet, then you pick up the phone or write a letter to your parents, in effort to reconcile with them. You have to be willing to concede to things and make compromises. Be true to yourself; and be honest with your parents.
Best of luck!
Your parents miss you.
That's all.
Parents spend 20 years wishing you out of the house, and when you finally do go, they miss you. The miss the broken bones, the mud tracked in the house, the radio blared in your room...at the time they hated it, but now they realized it was all a part of you growing up.
Sit down with them and have a talk with them. Explain that you understand why they want you to come back, and let them know that you want to be able to someday start a family of your own, just like they did, and they did a wonderful job raising you and showing you how it can be done.
My parents would always give me the "just wait until you're 18, and you're out of here and can do what you want" speech. Sure enough, when I moved out at 18 (even though college was 2 miles away), they begged and pleaded for me to stay. Just make sure you give them props for raising you, let them know they're appreciated.
That's all.
Parents spend 20 years wishing you out of the house, and when you finally do go, they miss you. The miss the broken bones, the mud tracked in the house, the radio blared in your room...at the time they hated it, but now they realized it was all a part of you growing up.
Sit down with them and have a talk with them. Explain that you understand why they want you to come back, and let them know that you want to be able to someday start a family of your own, just like they did, and they did a wonderful job raising you and showing you how it can be done.
My parents would always give me the "just wait until you're 18, and you're out of here and can do what you want" speech. Sure enough, when I moved out at 18 (even though college was 2 miles away), they begged and pleaded for me to stay. Just make sure you give them props for raising you, let them know they're appreciated.
This thread and your subsequent post would hardly be fitting without you posting headless modeling pics.
"This thread and your subsequent post would hardly be fitting without you posting headless modeling pics."
Relevance, my Lord? So, how exactly does this fit into the big scheme of your jejune conversation about ricing? Man, I don't even think I care about this lame thing, do I? Rice is my buddy.
P.S.: Decided to edit your double quote (i.e., quoting yourself), hon'? Or did you just finish plagiarising?
Relevance, my Lord? So, how exactly does this fit into the big scheme of your jejune conversation about ricing? Man, I don't even think I care about this lame thing, do I? Rice is my buddy.
P.S.: Decided to edit your double quote (i.e., quoting yourself), hon'? Or did you just finish plagiarising?
Originally posted by: luvly
"This thread and your subsequent post would hardly be fitting without you posting headless modeling pics."
Relevance, my Lord? So, how exactly does this fit into the big scheme of your jejune conversation about ricing? Man, I don't even think I care about this lame thing, do I? Rice is my buddy.
P.S.: Decided to edit your double quote (i.e., quoting yourself), hon'? Or did you just finish plagiarising?
Admitting I am God is a good first step.
Does this happen to other families that are not of Asian culture? I swear, I hear so many stories, and my family has their fair share of stories too. But damn, yeah, it's almost too much for one to bear sometimes.
Advice for DVDr,
Tell your parents to give this living-on-your-own some time. Say- you need to experience being on your own for awhile and that if you ever need anything at all that they'll be the first ones you will turn to.
Also maybe if you can get either an Aunt or Uncle to hear you side of the story, maybe they can help better explain this to your parents -that you are better off on your own. I mean, turn this family thing against them:evil: (jk!) But seriously, maybe hearing it in their own language from a respected older Aunt will help them turn around quicker.
Advice for DVDr,
Tell your parents to give this living-on-your-own some time. Say- you need to experience being on your own for awhile and that if you ever need anything at all that they'll be the first ones you will turn to.
Also maybe if you can get either an Aunt or Uncle to hear you side of the story, maybe they can help better explain this to your parents -that you are better off on your own. I mean, turn this family thing against them:evil: (jk!) But seriously, maybe hearing it in their own language from a respected older Aunt will help them turn around quicker.
Yeah, it's starting to get a bit much. I'm beginning to wonder if there are any well adjusted happy asian kids out there who have a great relationship with their parents.
The majority are well adjusted happy asian kids out there who have a great relationship with their parents.
The people here on ATOT are the few exceptions....
Storm and DVD, I think a lot of the problems with your parents stem from the fact that you could not break away from them earlier on. Consider it a lessons learned and change the way things are. It may be a bit difficult but I'm positive you can do DVD, considering you already took the first step and moved away.
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