MichaelD is right

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: jaeger66

Originally posted by: Feldenak


Well, the situation sucks but some of us have been there. Really there's nothing we can do except sympathize. The relationship I was in before I met my fiance ended along those lines. Everyone's different but what worked for me was friends, booze and music. Large quantities of alcohol, Pink Floyd and Metallica played at disgustingly loud volumes, and some great friends to keep you at least borderline sane.

Like I said, I really can't do anything significant from behind a monitor screen, but send me a PM if you need.

Yeah, I need to be numb for a while or I'll just totally lose it. Type O Negative's "Kill You Tonight" and some Vicodin should do it. It was for my tooth, but what the hell. Unfortunately I'm 2,000 miles from my hometown so I don't have friends here close enough to help me through this.

Call'em up. They might surprise you. I know I'd personally make a 2000 mile roadtrip/flight for a friend.

 

[Walleye]

Originally posted by: jaeger66

Originally posted by: tantos
Dude..STOP f*cking feeling sorry for yourself and get some balls and dump this whore!
If you don't, I hope to God I never see you post another whiny ass thread about your gf
again!

Eh, so don't read it. In nearly 3800 posts this is my first one about relationship crap. I'm allowed one rant every 4000 posts or so.

i guess i'm way over my quota. i better not rant for the next 50,000 posts...

 

[jaeger66]

Originally posted by: Feldenak


Call'em up. They might surprise you. I know I'd personally make a 2000 mile roadtrip/flight for a friend.

I actually have considered going home for a while. My parents will bug the crap out of me but I do it at CHristmas so I'd manage. I have enough frequent flyer miles for a free ticket...if I had any money I'd just pick some random place I've never been and go.

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: jaeger66

Originally posted by: Feldenak


Call'em up. They might surprise you. I know I'd personally make a 2000 mile roadtrip/flight for a friend.

I actually have considered going home for a while. My parents will bug the crap out of me but I do it at CHristmas so I'd manage. I have enough frequent flyer miles for a free ticket...if I had any money I'd just pick some random place I've never been and go.

That's a good idea. Go home, get away from your current situation, call up some friends and forget about life for awhile.

 

[J Heartless Slick]

Originally posted by: jaeger66
I used to think he was just old and bitter, but he's right. No matter how much you love someone or how much you think they love you, they are always capable of ripping out your heart, wiping their ass with it, flushing it down the toilet...and laughing the whole time. All you 25 year old virgins don't know how good you have it.

:Q

 

[jaeger66]

Thank you all for responding, I actually do feel a little better. I'm just going to curl up in a corner and shut it off for a while.

 

[Ausm]

Originally posted by: jaeger66
I used to think he was just old and bitter, but he's right. No matter how much you love someone or how much you think they love you, they are always capable of ripping out your heart, wiping their ass with it, flushing it down the toilet...and laughing the whole time. All you 25 year old virgins don't know how good you have it.

Your not telling me anything new....

Ausm

 

[eakers]

Find a woman that is so incredibly much better than you can ever possibly hope to be, and go for that one

if you replace the word person with woman i think thats good advice for just about anyone!

that really made me step back and take a good look at things right now. wow.

that was quite ot.. my feelings on this thread: dump her.

 

[skace]

So you were there for her through thick and thin. But the second you get in a rough spot yourself, she finds another yard to play in. Times like these when you just get up and make like the wind, leave everything behind and start all over.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

If you stay in the same house until Christmas it will only grow worse and worse on you. Can you still sleep in the same bed? In the same house?

 

[Spac3d]

Tell her it is only fair if you and your friends run a train on her and that will make up for the cheating, then break up with her She will feel just great after an all nighter

Use her, abuse her, then dump her.

 

[gigapet]

once a cheater always a cheater.......if she wants to feel like a whore treat her like a whore until you find a suitable resplacement. and remember b!tches aint sh!t but hoes and tricks!

 

[Red]

First time you're a victim. Second time you're a volunteer.

 

[GoingUp]

Sorry to hear it man.... I know how it feels... best of luck to you.

Ignore Luvly when she tries to pin the blame on you for this.

 

[yobarman]

Originally posted by: Gobadgrs
Sorry to hear it man.... I know how it feels... best of luck to you.

Ignore Luvly when she tries to pin the blame on you for this.

That's one stone cold bitch to do that after 4 damn years!

Just remember, everytime you kiss her you're tastin' that guys dick. I'd pack my stuff and go, start over you know. Time will definately help you get over this, obviously you'll be shocked about this for a while, but when you're with someone else you'll probably wont think about it anymore

 

[SpiderX]

Oh man, get rid of her now.

I had dated my girlfriend for 2.5 years and by the end she had cheated on my multiple times. In fact I'm almost 99% sure she was having an affair with her 36 year old engaged boss. (she was 23) She worked in a bar and they spent countless hours after work "talking" at the bar. Hence he was probably pounding her old school on the pool table. Not a pretty thought.

Get rid of her now. If she has done this once, she'll do it again. Believe me.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: FallenHero
i take it you just broke up with your SO?

No, she probably just denied him sex for a week.

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: jaeger66
She was going down on a coworker in his car after work. Isn't that romantic? We're still together as of now, but the pain quite excruciating. 4 years we've been together...and she decided that it would be a good idea to let herself be used and disposed of like a $10 whore.

Amazing. Why are you still with her? Because you're too frail to be alone? Just remember this, every time you kiss her now, that guy's sperm is in her mouth.

 

[MrYogi]

Dump the garbage now!!!! She ain't worth it.
Get a good book or friend or something. I hope everything works out for you.

 

[nativesunshine]

man...this thread sucks.

i'm sorry Jaeger...hope you feel better soon. The pain will lessen but it will never go away (at least, not for a while). I've been through it too...and I'm still going through it. You just have to hope that it stops hurting..

The one reason that I would look at is that it sounds like she told you about her infidelity not to long after it happened. If she was serious about your relationship, more likely than not, she would not have told you because she knew it would have screwed you emotionally. She would have dealt with the guilt and remorse and kept quiet. It's harder to keep something like that to yourself rather than get it off of your chest and feel better about it while the other person feels that s/he's just been stabbed in the heart.

That's interesting. I never thought of it that way. I figured if someone was honest enough to tell you (even if it's b/c of guilt)...it's still being honest and telling you. I never thought of it from your point of view..that it was cowardly and a way to just get it off your chest and feel better. But I suppose it's true...wow. I can't believe i never thought of it that way.

 

[Rufio]

sorry man.......


dump her!

 

[iamme]

ditch the bitch.

don't think twice about it.

you deserve better than that.

 

[PunDogg]

if there is one thing in life that i have learned is don't look back, so what you need to do is make a decsion, and go with it, if its dump the bitch then dump her and kick her out or get all your stuff and live with a friend, just watch out you can do alot of harm to your self by staying in that situtuion, and thinking about it soo much, go out with some friends, even if its to there house or just the movies, cuz u have need to force yourself to have fun, thats the on;y way u will be able to get through this.

DOgg

 

[GasX]

Your beef is with your girlfriend not the guy. He just hooked up with an unmarried single girl in a bar. Your girlfriend betrayed your trust and then had the selfish disregard for your feelings to tell you to make HER fell better. A confession of this kind is not done to make things right, they are made to sooth the conscience of the guilty party. If you forgive her, you give her ALL the power in the relatiuonship and have basically set yourself up for another fall or falls down the line.

A four year relationship is hard to let go, but unless you REALLY REALLY REALLY want to spend the rest of your life with her, you should just move on.

 

[yllus]

Originally posted by: iamme
ditch the bitch.

don't think twice about it.

you deserve better than that.

Listen to iamme and the others with this advice. Break things off with her IMMEDIATELY while you're still angry - if you wait, you'll only weaken and maybe let the relationship continue. This is a wound you can't heal.