i dont know if i could trust my wife if she said the things your wife has...seems to me she is stickign with the marriage until
a. someone better comes along
b. the tiem is right and gets what she wants..house, money
c. can afford to mak it on her own
either way she is a smart woman biding her time and making sure she is comfortable after the divorce..
i am thinkign she is makign plans for her happy life sans you (after the divorce) so i would suggest you do the same..
oh and by the way ...watch your back and sleep with one eye open if she decides to up your insurance policy out of the blue...
a. someone better comes along
b. the tiem is right and gets what she wants..house, money
c. can afford to mak it on her own
either way she is a smart woman biding her time and making sure she is comfortable after the divorce..
i am thinkign she is makign plans for her happy life sans you (after the divorce) so i would suggest you do the same..
oh and by the way ...watch your back and sleep with one eye open if she decides to up your insurance policy out of the blue...
Nitemare
Lifer
- Feb 8, 2001
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If you aren't happy I'd advise moving on. I've been separated now for about a week. I haven't heard from her since I dropped her off at the airport, neither has her best friend. She promised to call me as soon as her flight landed...so meahhh....(washing my hands free)
There has to be more to it than that though.
If you want to talk to somebody going through a similar experience, let me know.
There has to be more to it than that though.
If you want to talk to somebody going through a similar experience, let me know.
Right on.
If you're ashamed to be Mrs. Me, just keep fvcking walking and find yourself another patsy.
Get a marriage counselour quick 
Don't waste 13 years with someone you could learn to love again.
Don't waste 13 years with someone you could learn to love again.
Radical Religious Republican, IIRC.
Yeah, I know RailDoggy's a RRR, but its fun to mess with him.
Originally posted by: DaShen
Get a marriage counselour quick
Don't waste 13 years with someone you could learn to love again.
Correction - don't get taken by a piece of tail who wouldn't take your name.
that's not a marriage, that a succubus.
yllus
Elite Member & Lifer
- Aug 20, 2000
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Sorry to hear about your troubles DA.
From what one can 'tell' from relating a story over the Internet, both of you sound like highly logical, intelligent people who have no problem running through a scenario in your heads with a near-complete absence of emotion. Do either/both of you get along well with charm and others easily, but have trouble forming really close bonds to the point where you can call someone your best friend? Or is there always some amount of cynicism and self-criticism holding you back?
IMO, the cynicism that often accompanies that sort of mindset seems pretty evident in both of you (speaking over a long-term read of your posts here, which is fairly easy to recall when you have a near total recall of what you've read like I do). You say you've been fighting back tears at one point, but on the other hand you're retelling the story pretty calmly - almost coldly - and it sounds like you married someone who's much the same way.
I don't know - I'm only 24 and pretty ignorant of LTRs - but if you're as I've described above, I don't know what hope there really is. I'm thinking that the typical idea of marriage is not in the cards. You might explore a route like that which CPA took - loosen up the relationship a little, explore yourselves in others. It might help if it's not already too late.
From what one can 'tell' from relating a story over the Internet, both of you sound like highly logical, intelligent people who have no problem running through a scenario in your heads with a near-complete absence of emotion. Do either/both of you get along well with charm and others easily, but have trouble forming really close bonds to the point where you can call someone your best friend? Or is there always some amount of cynicism and self-criticism holding you back?
IMO, the cynicism that often accompanies that sort of mindset seems pretty evident in both of you (speaking over a long-term read of your posts here, which is fairly easy to recall when you have a near total recall of what you've read like I do). You say you've been fighting back tears at one point, but on the other hand you're retelling the story pretty calmly - almost coldly - and it sounds like you married someone who's much the same way.
I don't know - I'm only 24 and pretty ignorant of LTRs - but if you're as I've described above, I don't know what hope there really is. I'm thinking that the typical idea of marriage is not in the cards. You might explore a route like that which CPA took - loosen up the relationship a little, explore yourselves in others. It might help if it's not already too late.
The Stigenator
Lifer
- Oct 9, 1999
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i agree.. listen to tom leykis.. you willl learn a lot.
www.fmtalki.com --->3 -7pm PST.
i say DO NOT buy that house.. she will get it otherwise.. it will be your loss.
I got over that last year.
I feel better now. I now realize that all elected officials suck equally.
DA - as someone who is went through HIS own succubus divorce - I have to say what two of New York's finest told me after they came to our apartment on Central Park South for the 3d time - "get the hell out before some other cop believes HER!!"
Your wife will bide her time, wait for the house to be purchased (my smartest move was in "delaying" my ex's attempts to buy a house or condo...), and then find SOME way to hang you. She will falsify claims that you are cheating on her, she will claim you abused or threatened her, etc. ANYTHING that can be used against you in divorce court - you know this drill, you're a professional. SHE MAY EVEN TRY TO GET PREGNANT FIRST!!!
Run, don't walk. I've been reading your posts, and frankly this is deja vu...
Future Shock
BTW - I do believe in counselling for marriages in most cases. But not in cases like this...
Your wife will bide her time, wait for the house to be purchased (my smartest move was in "delaying" my ex's attempts to buy a house or condo...), and then find SOME way to hang you. She will falsify claims that you are cheating on her, she will claim you abused or threatened her, etc. ANYTHING that can be used against you in divorce court - you know this drill, you're a professional. SHE MAY EVEN TRY TO GET PREGNANT FIRST!!!
Run, don't walk. I've been reading your posts, and frankly this is deja vu...
Future Shock
BTW - I do believe in counselling for marriages in most cases. But not in cases like this...
Originally posted by: DevilsAdvocate
I got over that last year.
I now realize that all elected officials suck equally.
AKA the new American Morality Police.
Get divorced while you still can.
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