"Anyway, we were talking about the minor league football team that was listed for sale on eBay for $100,000. I asked her, jokingly, if she had $100k to loan me to buy the team. She said that if she had a $100k, she would not need me to help her buy a house."
Not only should you leave her, you better get a good lawyer right away a step ahead of her. Relationships will always have downturns and it's normal. However, when there's hints that she is only there for the money you better get out.
Not only should you leave her, you better get a good lawyer right away a step ahead of her. Relationships will always have downturns and it's normal. However, when there's hints that she is only there for the money you better get out.
Speaking from a household where the parents stayed together because of the children, I can say with absolute conviction that we all agree that their decision was a bad one. The only way that staying together would be in the best interests of the children is if the parents can completely bury all their animosity towards each other (and even then it's not a good idea).
The lack of expressed love between spouses is just as bad for the children as the stereotypical yelling and arguing, and I would be remiss if I didn't say that the lack of intimacy between my parents has affected me to this day.
also another thing might be to freeze all your assets
she has the potential to rob you blind, protect yourself
she has the potential to rob you blind, protect yourself
Originally posted by: BriGy86
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i can't stress enough
look out for number one! ("number one" being yourself)
The biggest irony of all is... I'm a divorce lawyer.
If it were anyone else's marriage, I would already have a battle plan in place, and I'd be loading for bear. Funny, when it is MY marriage, I guess I'm less willing to go to the mattresses.
shilala
Lifer
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The bottom line is "How do you feel about her?"
My marriage hit the rocks, really went to shyt.
The bottom line was that I loved that woman more than anything in the world, and we've spent the last three years working on ourselves so the situation gets better.
I don't know how it will work out in the end, nor do I care.
We're together today, and if we're not tomorrow, I'll still be a better man for having had her in my life.
My marriage hit the rocks, really went to shyt.
The bottom line was that I loved that woman more than anything in the world, and we've spent the last three years working on ourselves so the situation gets better.
I don't know how it will work out in the end, nor do I care.
We're together today, and if we're not tomorrow, I'll still be a better man for having had her in my life.
- May 13, 2003
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Damn man, sorry to hear that. I seen so many relationships and marriages end on 6 month deployments, it was crazy. That's why I was scared sh!tless when I met my current wife, and then had to go on a 6 month deployment. But we made it and now we are married, for over 6 months now. Yet we have yet another hurdle, as there is a good chance I'm going to the middle east pretty soon...
Nah... I was broke when we met.
Now we're not broke. She said that she is willing to just let me have what is in my personal accounts and my business (which is my firm) and she'll just take her 401k. Not a bad deal for me, really.
sygyzy
Lifer
- Oct 21, 2000
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Wait, so stuff already happened since lunch? At lunch, she just mumbled something kind of mean. Now you guys are actually planning out the divorce? Oh man, this is getting ugly fast. I always feel bad in these situations. I really hope for a happy ending where you guys stay together but at the same time, I know that might not be the best idea.
Sorry to hear that. Relationships can be the best, and the worst things in the world. I realize that now.
so, they had 2 bad years out of 13, so you recommend throwing away 11 good years because life is too SHORT? kind of doesn't make sense.
try to save it. is she cheating on you? are you cheating on her? if not, get counseling, get an intermediary, try and talk things out. make divorce your last resort.
good luck whichever way you decide to go.
Originally posted by: BriGy86
:thumbsup:
i can't stress enough
look out for number one! ("number one" being yourself
I would say that kind of selfish attitude is why most people get divorced. Then make repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship. Some pretty stupid advice on here, telling you to pack it in when they have no idea about your situation.
You should certainly get counselling but also sit down together and discuss why each of you are unhappy, be very careful about doing this in a nonjudgemental way. It takes two people to cause a marriage to fail and you said yourself you could have done better. Well why not resolve to actually do better over the next several months and see what happens? Be patient and give your wife time to reciprocate. You may find that things dramatically improve.
What have you got to lose? At least if it does end you can at least say you gave it your best, you don't want to be wondering if you made the wrong decision for the rest of your life.
Good luck!
Make you a deal. You bring the marshmellows. I'll bring the graham crackers, and I'll save you a bar stool.
Now only if we can talk Karl Rove into bringing the chocolate.
Then we'll have a party.Nope. That was two weeks ago.
Last week she explained at a tailgate party that she kept her maiden name to make our divorce easier... no name change.
She can really be a peach.
Mermaidman
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I haven't read the replies, but if you don't have children and there's no hope, then it may be better in the long run to start anew.
My uncle dated a girl for almost ten years before he broke up. It came as a shock for all of us. Eventually, he found someone else and is happier than ever.
Whatever your decision, I hope it works out.
Originally posted by: Mermaidman
I haven't read the replies, but if you don't have children and there's no hope, then it may be better in the long run to start anew.
My uncle dated a girl for almost ten years before he broke up. It came as a shock for all of us. Eventually, he found someone else and is happier than ever.
Whatever your decision, I hope it works out.
Yeah... I gotta balance everything out before I make a decision.
She just called and wants to talk...
Hopefully some good will come of it.
Skunkwourk
Diamond Member
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That makes it sound like she planned it all along. If thats the case, I dunno if there is anything TO salvage.
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