Originally posted by: Ameesh
Originally posted by: pulse8
She's not allowed to have male friends of her own?
youre surprised?
Do you have anything constructive to add? If you do, you're more than welcome to voice it. If not, get the fsck lost.
nik
Do you have anything constructive to add? If you do, you're more than welcome to voice it. If not, get the fsck lost.
nik
Why don't you have her talk to one of the older employees at the place that she's friends with. Like some 30 year old married guy that is happy. Have him watch her walk her to her car at night. Just say that she doesn't feal safe and she doesn't feal comfortable telling him what's going on.
As for pre-emptive strike. Have her start talking t friends at work, seeing if they think he is still asking questions about her personal life. Eventually, this will get back to him and he might figure it out. She's in a committed relationship. Don't use the word "stalking". It's not politically correct.
As long as this guy doesn't show up at your door step (or start calling her at home), you should be fine.
The scary thing. Why is he calling her at work to talk to her? I don't call friends I work with at work????????
As for pre-emptive strike. Have her start talking t friends at work, seeing if they think he is still asking questions about her personal life. Eventually, this will get back to him and he might figure it out. She's in a committed relationship. Don't use the word "stalking". It's not politically correct.
As long as this guy doesn't show up at your door step (or start calling her at home), you should be fine.
The scary thing. Why is he calling her at work to talk to her? I don't call friends I work with at work????????
Since the race issue has been raised (often the case), I'm curious as to why it's relavent to your problem.
"He's hispanic. For some reason, she and several of my other friends (and my MOM) have had problems with hispanics and unwanted sexual advances around here. It must be the water"
Are you implying most or all of the male hispanics in your area have been making sexual advances to women (white?)
Would you say this?
"He's white. For some reason, she and several of my other friends (and my MOM) have had problems with whites and unwanted sexual advances around here. It must be the water"
I bring up the race issue because I don't know what you wanted to infer by the description you used. I agree the guy is being a jerk, I agree you should do something, but why point out his race in the description? I don't understand this. It's almost as if you understood what you'd get from reactions in this forum but chose to point it out anyways.
I think I would of confronted him immediately after finding out the details you've posted here and made it clear that his actions were not acceptible in a CLEAR way.
I agree with most of the posters saying that she should prepare herself a little more, but I would not ask her to leave her job. You seem to think out things and try to understand things before you speak, that is why I have a problem of you starting the race issue.
Sure, someone will say to stop spouting the race card, but hey, it wasn't me who started it. It's really that simple. Don't get me wrong, I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't believe that you can't associate a certain lifestyle,social standing,passion, etc. with a certain group of people. It's just in what context it's used that people sometimes call it out.
Hope you get the bastard off her back.
"He's hispanic. For some reason, she and several of my other friends (and my MOM) have had problems with hispanics and unwanted sexual advances around here. It must be the water"
Are you implying most or all of the male hispanics in your area have been making sexual advances to women (white?)
Would you say this?
"He's white. For some reason, she and several of my other friends (and my MOM) have had problems with whites and unwanted sexual advances around here. It must be the water"
I bring up the race issue because I don't know what you wanted to infer by the description you used. I agree the guy is being a jerk, I agree you should do something, but why point out his race in the description? I don't understand this. It's almost as if you understood what you'd get from reactions in this forum but chose to point it out anyways.
I think I would of confronted him immediately after finding out the details you've posted here and made it clear that his actions were not acceptible in a CLEAR way.
I agree with most of the posters saying that she should prepare herself a little more, but I would not ask her to leave her job. You seem to think out things and try to understand things before you speak, that is why I have a problem of you starting the race issue.
Sure, someone will say to stop spouting the race card, but hey, it wasn't me who started it. It's really that simple. Don't get me wrong, I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't believe that you can't associate a certain lifestyle,social standing,passion, etc. with a certain group of people. It's just in what context it's used that people sometimes call it out.
Hope you get the bastard off her back.
Want to bet? The stuff they have up here for repelling grizzly bears makes that look like Taco Bell's Mild sauce.
Those in glass houses.
Now we have a broken statement that the guy *possibly* made in Spanish and you're adding it to your list. Everything you have is a bunch of people talking about this guy behind his back with what sounds like unreliable information.
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Steel toed boots. Might be hung like a horse but a swift kick in the nuts and he'll be out cold.
Of course I'm still confused as to how his checking a schedule and making remarks that could otherwise be construed as machismo and bravado suddenly makes him a stalker, raper, and killer.
Of course I'm still confused as to how his checking a schedule and making remarks that could otherwise be construed as machismo and bravado suddenly makes him a stalker, raper, and killer.
Yes, I would say that if the hispanics left people alone and the whites were the instigators.
nik
So, unless it's translated by an internationally recognized Spanish translator, it's not possible for someone who isn't fluent in the language to understand bits and pieces and put together the general idea?
nik
You seem to be missing the whole won't-leave-her-alone part, the whole making-unwanted-advances-after-asked-not-to part, and the whole threatening-to-kick-my-ass part.
wtf is wrong with you people?! Sh|t, I never should have started this thread if you fscks are just going to crap all over it.
nik
you know what?
i dont blame her at all for going for lunch with this guy. i have friends who are guys and sometimes i ask out guys that i know from work or whatever just as friends.... and when i was in a serious relationship i never ever thought a guy that asked me out had a crush on me because my mind only operated in a friends only mode. i woulda did the exact thing in chels. situation with the inviting friends along after i found out he has a crush on me. maybe its niavity (is that a word?) on her part to think that he only wanted to be friends but how can you say that going for lunch with someone encourages sexual harassment?
she went to her manager which was the mature and responsible thing to do in this situation.
i hardly ever agree with nik but i think he did the right thing by letting chels. make her own decisions about going for lunch that day because HE TRUSTS HER and why shouldnt he? its obvious they love each other a lot (ive seen talk of marriage on here) and obviously she told him about the going for lunch prior to it happening.
i dont blame her at all for going for lunch with this guy. i have friends who are guys and sometimes i ask out guys that i know from work or whatever just as friends.... and when i was in a serious relationship i never ever thought a guy that asked me out had a crush on me because my mind only operated in a friends only mode. i woulda did the exact thing in chels. situation with the inviting friends along after i found out he has a crush on me. maybe its niavity (is that a word?) on her part to think that he only wanted to be friends but how can you say that going for lunch with someone encourages sexual harassment?
she went to her manager which was the mature and responsible thing to do in this situation.
i hardly ever agree with nik but i think he did the right thing by letting chels. make her own decisions about going for lunch that day because HE TRUSTS HER and why shouldnt he? its obvious they love each other a lot (ive seen talk of marriage on here) and obviously she told him about the going for lunch prior to it happening.
Kat's right; she usually does things with her friends, and some of those friends are guys -but she never thinks that some guy is gonna read way too much into it and blatantly ignore her refusals of advance. Ya know, I think every woman should be able to see into the mind of a man atleast once in their life. Women have a lot more to worry about than some of them realize at times. Of course, it's not like women never do the same thing. But it's characteristic of males to be the overly-sexual and blatantly stupid.
nik
nik
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Kat's right; she usually does things with her friends, and some of those friends are guys -but she never thinks that some guy is gonna read way too much into it and blatantly ignore her refusals of advance. Ya know, I think every woman should be able to see into the mind of a man atleast once in their life. Women have a lot more to worry about than some of them realize at times. Of course, it's not like women never do the same thing. But it's characteristic of males to be the overly-sexual and blatantly stupid.
nik
exactly.
which is why we should stop making this a race issue and turn it into a gender issue:
boys are weird and sometimes creepy
girls are soft and smell good
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
So, unless it's translated by an internationally recognized Spanish translator, it's not possible for someone who isn't fluent in the language to understand bits and pieces and put together the general idea?puls8, you're just serving to be a dick. Stop fscking up the thread with your prove-nik-wrong attitude. Go away. Leave. Vamanos.
nik
To quote you:
Pretty sure? You're filing harrassment charges against a guy because you're "pretty sure" of some of the things he's done. Most of which haven't been at all directed towards your girlfriend.
I understand that you're uncomfortable with the way this guy is acting, but I think sexual harrassment charges are waaaaay overboard. I think her talking to her manager was a good idea and all, but most of the points you're making on this guy are all things someone else *may* have heard or *may* have said.
I've been in a similar situation before with a past girlfriend and I felt the same things you felt. I was pissed and I didn't like it one bit, but what the guy did really wasn't anything wrong. The guy has problems with rejection and all of a sudden he's a crazy stalker who's going to rape and kill your girlfriend. I think you're taking it to an extreme (which seems to fit your persona in most threads here) and you're only creating a more problems.
The only valid complaint you have with this guy seems to be the whole thing with the tips. That sounds like something everyone involved should discuss with the manager of the establishment.
Girls aren't always soft and good smelling. Ever tried to love up a hearty german wrestler after a night of matches?
nik
nik
virtuamike
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Dude I'm not crapping on you for what you're doing but calling this guy a stalker, raper, and killer is a little extreme. I agree with what you're doing and how you're protecting your girl (all the more power to you) but degrading this guy first by rationalizing his actions as the result of his ethnicity then by using criminal terms to describe him, well I seriously question your people skills. I'm just a little more careful with my word selection, that's all, no need to get worked up over my questioning what you call the guy. Unbunch your panties already.
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Girls aren't always soft and good smelling. Ever tried to love up a hearty german wrestler after a night of matches?
nik
no.
...and i really hope that never happens.
Originally posted by: pulse8
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
So, unless it's translated by an internationally recognized Spanish translator, it's not possible for someone who isn't fluent in the language to understand bits and pieces and put together the general idea?puls8, you're just serving to be a dick. Stop fscking up the thread with your prove-nik-wrong attitude. Go away. Leave. Vamanos.
nik
To quote you:
Pretty sure? You're filing harrassment charges against a guy because you're "pretty sure" of some of the things he's done. Most of which haven't been at all directed towards your girlfriend.
I understand that you're uncomfortable with the way this guy is acting, but I think sexual harrassment charges are waaaaay overboard. I think her talking to her manager was a good idea and all, but most of the points you're making on this guy are all things someone else *may* have heard or *may* have said.
I've been in a similar situation before with a past girlfriend and I felt the same things you felt. I was pissed and I didn't like it one bit, but what the guy did really wasn't anything wrong. The guy has problems with rejection and all of a sudden he's a crazy stalker who's going to rape and kill your girlfriend. I think you're taking it to an extreme (which seems to fit your persona in most threads here) and you're only creating a more problems.
The only valid complaint you have with this guy seems to be the whole thing with the tips. That sounds like something everyone involved should discuss with the manager of the establishment.
Well, considering that the other people don't have any reason to lie and four of them have said things to Chels not knowing that the others have said something, I would consider that confirmation. And there haven't been any legal charges. No one said anything about going to the police. She talked to her manager. That's all. The talking to the manager bit didn't come from one phrase in Spanish, it came from the culmination of everything else. This "where's my girlfriend?" thing came after he was told not to talk about her. Lets hope he gets fired.
Why can't you just shut the hell up and quit sugar coating everything so you can prove me wrong, eh? Go away. Go find a hobby. Go find a girlfriend for you not to protect and care about.
nik
HIS RACE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW POORLY HE'S RESPECTING CHELSEA AND I. HE'S DOING IT. HE'S HISPANIC. I MADE A SIMPLE CONNECTION TO ALL THE OTHER PROBLEMS I'VE SEEN AND HAD TO DEAL WITH IN THE PAST. HAVE YOU EVER CALLED THE POLICE AFTER TWO MEXICANS REPEATEDLY FOLLOWED YOUR MOTHER AROUND, KNOCKING ON YOUR DOOR AT ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT, ETC.? NO.
Lay off the race issue. I made one single point about an observation and then left it alone. Do the same.
nik
I'm not sugar coating everything so I can prove you wrong. Your title reads:Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
Originally posted by: pulse8
Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
So, unless it's translated by an internationally recognized Spanish translator, it's not possible for someone who isn't fluent in the language to understand bits and pieces and put together the general idea?puls8, you're just serving to be a dick. Stop fscking up the thread with your prove-nik-wrong attitude. Go away. Leave. Vamanos.
nik
To quote you:
Pretty sure? You're filing harrassment charges against a guy because you're "pretty sure" of some of the things he's done. Most of which haven't been at all directed towards your girlfriend.
I understand that you're uncomfortable with the way this guy is acting, but I think sexual harrassment charges are waaaaay overboard. I think her talking to her manager was a good idea and all, but most of the points you're making on this guy are all things someone else *may* have heard or *may* have said.
I've been in a similar situation before with a past girlfriend and I felt the same things you felt. I was pissed and I didn't like it one bit, but what the guy did really wasn't anything wrong. The guy has problems with rejection and all of a sudden he's a crazy stalker who's going to rape and kill your girlfriend. I think you're taking it to an extreme (which seems to fit your persona in most threads here) and you're only creating a more problems.
The only valid complaint you have with this guy seems to be the whole thing with the tips. That sounds like something everyone involved should discuss with the manager of the establishment.
Well, considering that the other people don't have any reason to lie and four of them have said things to Chels not knowing that the others have said something, I would consider that confirmation. And there haven't been any legal charges. No one said anything about going to the police. She talked to her manager. That's all. The talking to the manager bit didn't come from one phrase in Spanish, it came from the culmination of everything else. This "where's my girlfriend?" thing came after he was told not to talk about her. Lets hope he gets fired.
Why can't you just shut the hell up and quit sugar coating everything so you can prove me wrong, eh? Go away. Go find a hobby. Go find a girlfriend for you not to protect and care about.
nik
I'm not pulling stuff out of thin air here. If she didn't file sexual harrassment charges, then why is it in your thread title?
And believe it or not, most girls I know are very capable of taking care of themselves. The "dark-skinned" guy isn't the only one being machismo. It's just that he's doing it with your girlfriend.
I have a right to defend her. I have a right to expect guys who are seriously interested in her to leave her alone or not to atleast make passes at her.
If your big problem is the thread title, you need to not be so picky. God, I'll change it so your feeble mind won't have such a problem.
nik
If your big problem is the thread title, you need to not be so picky. God, I'll change it so your feeble mind won't have such a problem.
nik
Are you stupid? My problem wasn't with the thread title, dumbass. If the charges she filed with her work were sexual harrassment charges, it's still an extreme thing to do when from what you've said in this thread, sexual harrassment never even took place.
Whether or not the police are involved is irrelevent. I understand your intentions are good, but I think with sexual harrassment charges of any kind, and to anyone, are crazy in this situation. Some of the things this guy has done have been inappropriate, but none of them seem to be sexual harrassment.
I'm not being picky, I'm merely discussing the situation at hand with the information I've been given. If the information you're handing out is incorrect, then that's one thing, but they don't seem to be because the thread title still says that she filed sexual harrassment charges.
That's the part I really have a problem with. Sexual harrassment charges are NOT something to just throw around for people you don't like at work. Unless the guy's done or said something directly to your girlfriend that you've not said in this thread, I don't think he deserved to have those charges brought up against him.
Also, if you expect only people who agree with you to reply to your threads, you haven't learned anything with your post count.
Whether or not the police are involved is irrelevent. I understand your intentions are good, but I think with sexual harrassment charges of any kind, and to anyone, are crazy in this situation. Some of the things this guy has done have been inappropriate, but none of them seem to be sexual harrassment.
I'm not being picky, I'm merely discussing the situation at hand with the information I've been given. If the information you're handing out is incorrect, then that's one thing, but they don't seem to be because the thread title still says that she filed sexual harrassment charges.
That's the part I really have a problem with. Sexual harrassment charges are NOT something to just throw around for people you don't like at work. Unless the guy's done or said something directly to your girlfriend that you've not said in this thread, I don't think he deserved to have those charges brought up against him.
Also, if you expect only people who agree with you to reply to your threads, you haven't learned anything with your post count.
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