Is this considered cheating?

[Gurck]

I wouldn't call it cheating... not the sign of a healthy relationship either though.

 

[sao123]

its only cheating if she disapproves. what anyone else thinks doesnt matter.

 

[mchammer187]

not cheating but it is

Lame, stupid, & sleazy

 

[Geekbabe]

I wonder what the responses here would be like if it was the woman having the phone sex and refusing to be with her husband for a year?

 

[thahenchman]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I wonder what the responses here would be like if it was the woman having the phone sex and refusing to be with her husband for a year?

all hell would be unleashed on the poor woman

 

[sniperruff]

no but the guy is lame.

 

[Otaking]

She's not putting out

 

[SilentZero]

I don't think its really cheating, its wrong though. Oh and she wants to bang ya.

 

[Slickone]

Cheating? No.
Good time to try counseling then possibly divorce? Yeah.
Guy is lame? Yeah.

Who would waste their money on phone sex, considering 1. the person on the other end isn't even thinking about having sex in the least bit, and 2. is probably some ugly nasty 500lb 'woman'.

 

[QuitBanningMe]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I wonder what the responses here would be like if it was the woman having the phone sex and refusing to be with her husband for a year?

Well we don't know who is withholding sex. I would guess though that it is or was originally the wife.

 

[loic2003]

She's obviously a really dull shag, proabably just lies there and takes it. So boring are women like that.

 

[shilala]

Originally posted by: thahenchman

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I wonder what the responses here would be like if it was the woman having the phone sex and refusing to be with her husband for a year?

all hell would be unleashed on the poor woman

...as it should be.

 

[Safeway]

Damn...

 

[dullard]

I'm right now going through a divorce where my wife was basically cheating on me. I have no proof (nor do I need or want it) of actual sex. So I had to decide for myself where the cutoff is. The cutoff location will vary from person to person. For myself, the cutoff is if a spouse actually has feelings for another. Feelings that go beyond a simple attraction. Feelings that are closer to love, desire for a relationship, etc.

Here is a rough graduated scale on cheating that I came up with.
1) Sex with love with someone else.
2) Being in love with someone else.
3) Having sex with someone else.
4) Being intimate (intimate kiss/intimate cuddle) with someone else.
5) Having a relationship with someone else that hasn't yet reached love.
6) Actively looking for another relationship.
7) Phone "sex"/internet "sex".
8) Passively looking for another relationship (flirting / simple peck on check).
9) Real porn.
10) Cable porn.
11) Just happen to be at a movie with mild nudity.

I'm sure that each of those points has many followers who believe that is the cutoff for cheating. To me, the cutoff is around #5/#6.

My one question here though, is why the husband/wife aren't having sex. Is it his fault or hers? Most likely one or the other is already cheating. Thus the phone sex is a non-issue.

 

[jpeyton]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
lusting in one's heart is cheating by my defination. If I had a guy who I knew had deep lust for another woman, he might as well as hit it... cause he is aleady guilty in his heart and that is enough for me.

That is a load of crap. Guys are programmed to fantasize about sex and women (be it their spouse, the woman at the office, the chick at the mall, etc.) 24/7. The good husbands are the ones who can keep their hormones in check while staying in a loving relationship with their spouse.

Fantasizing about another woman doesn't mean you don't love your spouse. It just means you have baby batter on the brain.

 

[Night201]

"Oh and she was nice enough to tell me that they haven't been intimate in the past year..."

And she hasn''t filed for devorce yet, why? Sounds like a fun and loving life she is having. What a waste of time!

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: Cook1
Ok guys, help me out here.

A co-worker came up to me today and told me all this crap about her personal life about what's going on...actually made the time pass more quickly. Anyways, her husband of 10 years of marriage has been for the past year and a half has been calling phone sex lines. She wanted my opinion on it because the friend's she has talked to about it are kinda split down the middle. Some say it's not cheating because there was no physical sex involved, others are saying that it is because of the action itself. Me being 22 talking to a 45 year old lady about this I kinda told her I'd think on it. Oh and she was nice enough to tell me that they haven't been intimate in the past year...yeah, I had an interesting afternoon...

So now I'm curious what others think!

no sex in 1 year... while married... that breaks even al bundy's record..
the guy must live at the nudie bar...

dont really consider this cheating.. hes looking for a release and maybe pics / movies and his wife dont do it for him LOL...

 

[Ilmater]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
You mean people actually call those? This guy must really be a spineless, pathetic, sack of sh!t.

And I don't think it's cheating any more than watching porn is. Which isn't.

- M4H

Agreed on all accounts, and we need more information to fully judge. Is this woman COMPLETELY opposed to talking dirty to her man? Because that's all they're doing on a phone sex line. So maybe he's just trying to get her going again by getting her angry. If my wife (not actually married, but hypothetically) stopped having sex with me, I'd be pissed. Maybe he put on a bunch of weight and now she doesn't find himi physically attractive... that's fine, he needs to work out.

That's just weird.

 

[Scarpozzi]

It's not cheating....but it probably doesn't help him not want to cheat. If they're not intimate anymore, they need to either fix the problem or split.

 

[jalaram]

It's not technically cheating, but there's something seriously wrong if they haven't been intimate in a year. No sex in a year is bad, but without intimacy, there isn't much of a relationship. They've pretty much become just roommates.

 

[bootymac]

Cheating or not, I wouldn't want to be married to some sex phoneline fan

 

[meltdown75]

personally i'd say no it's not cheating. he's just trying to get his f/\p on, not unlike someone looking at pr0n on the internet. although, if it is a live sex line, then that is different. but if it's just recordings or something, then that's ok.

 

[irwincur]

lusting in one's heart is cheating by my defination.

So you could also say that any man with a real penis and balls is cheating 24/7.

 

[jemcam]

Originally posted by: Cook1
Ok guys, help me out here.

A co-worker came up to me today and told me all this crap about her personal life about what's going on...actually made the time pass more quickly. Anyways, her husband of 10 years of marriage has been for the past year and a half has been calling phone sex lines. She wanted my opinion on it because the friend's she has talked to about it are kinda split down the middle. Some say it's not cheating because there was no physical sex involved, others are saying that it is because of the action itself. Me being 22 talking to a 45 year old lady about this I kinda told her I'd think on it. Oh and she was nice enough to tell me that they haven't been intimate in the past year...yeah, I had an interesting afternoon...

So now I'm curious what others think!

Tap it. You'll never go back to a young chick again!

 

[Sqube]

The fact that he's ignored her in favor of the sex lines makes it cheating.