Is there any excuse for hitting a child?
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Well if it's abuse then obviously not.
The problem is defining abuse.
My mom flew off the handle & slapped me a couple times when I was growing up, was I abused?
Viper GTS
The problem is defining abuse.
My mom flew off the handle & slapped me a couple times when I was growing up, was I abused?
Viper GTS
moshquerade
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no, i wouldn't say that was abuse. but by today's standards child protective services may have taken you out of your home for that.
moshquerade
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in today society, parents slap a kid across the face or spanking, it consider abuse. The child can call the police on you for abuse just for spanking them or slaping them for being an immature little punk kid.
Anubis
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i was spanked when i was a kid, i wouldent call it abused, i was hit with a wodden spoon on teh backside many a time
mugs
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I don't think anyone hits their kids for "no apparant reason," I think that some people's reasons are just not acceptable to others.
I think people spank their kids for punishment less these days. My older brother and I lived in fear of the wooden spoon if we were bad (my mom actually broke it on my older brother :Q). My younger brother never got the spoon. I wasn't abused, I deserved it every time I got it. I knew the consequences of what I was doing, it was a calculated risk.
I think people spank their kids for punishment less these days. My older brother and I lived in fear of the wooden spoon if we were bad (my mom actually broke it on my older brother :Q). My younger brother never got the spoon. I wasn't abused, I deserved it every time I got it. I knew the consequences of what I was doing, it was a calculated risk.
i am a firm believer in spanking.
i believe that there are times that all the groundings, times outs, no teevees, go to your rooms, lectures and etc do not have the same results as a good swift swat in the ass.
i believe that there are times that all the groundings, times outs, no teevees, go to your rooms, lectures and etc do not have the same results as a good swift swat in the ass.
Drakkon
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i will never forget the day when my dad finally learned a hitting wasnt working anymore...i was in 6th grade, had just started puberty and underwent a massive growth spurt. i did something to my sis that deserved a whack, he hit me upside the head, i turned around and at that point i was as tall (if not a few inches taller at that moment) and looked down at him not saying a word just face turning red before mom ran over and broke us up. Ever since then we treated each other with a lot more respect.
So that being said...For my parents it worked and so long as they dont start going big brother on us i'll be spanking my kids too if they get outta hand.
So that being said...For my parents it worked and so long as they dont start going big brother on us i'll be spanking my kids too if they get outta hand.
moshquerade
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a kid needs a good smack every so often to keep them in check. A random clout around the head when they've not even done anything wrong keeps them on their toes all the time.
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I dont mind if someone spanks or slap there across the face if they are getting out of control. But beating the kid to they are black and blue and can barely move, that is just plain wrong.
Did I say it was? No.
The topic title states to the point of abuse.
I slight swat is ok, got them when I was young, too. But parents need to not underestimate their own strength, either.
moshquerade
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you said "there is not excuse for hitting anyone". which i took to mean you were talking about any kind of contact.
While I am a firm believer in spanking I am surprised at all the ppl in this thread that condone smacking a child across the face.
To me, that is a horrible thing to do. It is not only painful, but it is humiliating and demeaning.
And the reasoning I use for spanking are clear and defined terms. With VeggieFrog... if she broke something or screwed up in school or did something stupid, it was not reason to hit. I had the 3D rule. now matter what she did wrong, we would talk about it, and if need be, there would be punishment. But if she was Disprecpectful, Disobedient or Defiant... she I would play the gong on her ass.
I believe... and this is hard to explain in this limited mediummm... that children should respect and fear their parents. Not fear as is cowering, but having the knowledge to realize that if they break certain rules there will be an ass whooping. Not the fear that leaves them hiding in their room, or afraid to come home or anything like that... but fear is in telling themselves "if i do that, my mom will bubble my ass".
I tend to find that the parents that do not believe in spanking their kids under any circumstances are usually the kids that are screeching at the tops of thier lungs in a supermarket or raising hell in a restuarant while their parents think they are teaching them a lesson by ignoring them thru it.
To me, that is a horrible thing to do. It is not only painful, but it is humiliating and demeaning.
And the reasoning I use for spanking are clear and defined terms. With VeggieFrog... if she broke something or screwed up in school or did something stupid, it was not reason to hit. I had the 3D rule. now matter what she did wrong, we would talk about it, and if need be, there would be punishment. But if she was Disprecpectful, Disobedient or Defiant... she I would play the gong on her ass.
I believe... and this is hard to explain in this limited mediummm... that children should respect and fear their parents. Not fear as is cowering, but having the knowledge to realize that if they break certain rules there will be an ass whooping. Not the fear that leaves them hiding in their room, or afraid to come home or anything like that... but fear is in telling themselves "if i do that, my mom will bubble my ass".
I tend to find that the parents that do not believe in spanking their kids under any circumstances are usually the kids that are screeching at the tops of thier lungs in a supermarket or raising hell in a restuarant while their parents think they are teaching them a lesson by ignoring them thru it.
moshquerade
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well said. you sound like a great Mom.
i too, don't think it is right to slap anyone across the face ever.
I don't think I was ever hit in the face, but I got many a slap on the hand, slap on the ass, and paddle to the ass.
I deserved almost every one too, unless it was a time where my brother convinced them it was me who did something. -_-
I deserved almost every one too, unless it was a time where my brother convinced them it was me who did something. -_-
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