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Is it better to be born into the adoption system or never to be born at all?

Is it better to be born into the adoption system or never to be born at all?

  • Born into the adoption system

  • Never to be born at all

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It depends on the time spent "in the system." Newborns don't stay very long. OTOH, I've known folks who grew up in the system and were totally unable to function outside of a structured environment such as the military.
 
MagnusTheBrewer said:
It depends on the time spent "in the system." Newborns don't stay very long. OTOH, I've known folks who grew up in the system and were totally unable to function outside of a structured environment such as the military.
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Fair enough, would they rather be dead than alive?
 
The adoption system blows. It takes 40-50k to adopt a child. That makes no damn sense. I wonder why so may spend their entire childhood in the adoption system 🙁
 
Evadman said:
The adoption system blows. It takes 40-50k to adopt a child. That makes no damn sense. I wonder why so may spend their entire childhood in the adoption system 🙁
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Very true, it sucks, I'm sure some of them are doing their best but it is far from perfect.
 
This is an unanswerable question. For two reasons:

1) None of us have ever been not born. So we can't say what it feels like.
2) I'm willing to bet that most of us aren't adopted.

Aside from those, there are another few reasons why if it were answerable, it would be difficult to answer:

1) Most people don't remember their childhoods
2) Young children cannot distinguish fiction from reality purely on the basis of plausibility. This makes it difficult for children to evaluate their experience objectively, and it also makes it difficult to combine different evaluations of childhoods from different orphanages.
3) Orphanages obviously vary greatly, as with everything else.
 
HAL9000 said:
Sure, but your life continues after that...? Your life isn't defined by your usefulness to others at birth
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Since you depend on others for your survival for at least the first decade, your life IS kinda defined by your usefulness to others.

Not to be too cynical... lol.
 
Mr. Pedantic said:
This is an unanswerable question. For two reasons:

1) None of us have ever been not born. So we can't say what it feels like.
2) I'm willing to bet that most of us aren't adopted.

Aside from those, there are another few reasons why if it were answerable, it would be difficult to answer:

1) Most people don't remember their childhoods
2) Young children cannot distinguish fiction from reality purely on the basis of plausibility. This makes it difficult for children to evaluate their experience objectively, and it also makes it difficult to combine different evaluations of childhoods from different orphanages.
3) Orphanages obviously vary greatly, as with everything else.
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All true, but the purpose of the question is would you rather have spent the first part of your life in the adoption system or to have no life at all.

PaperclipGod said:
Since you depend on others for your survival for at least the first decade, your life IS kinda defined by your usefulness to others.

Not to be too cynical... lol.
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a good, albeit bleak point.
 
MagnusTheBrewer said:
It depends on the time spent "in the system." Newborns don't stay very long. OTOH, I've known folks who grew up in the system and were totally unable to function outside of a structured environment such as the military.
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This. Three of my close relatives were put in the adoption system as babies. They turned out great. My neighbor had some foster kids that were older and they seemed very troubled.

That movie Problem Child seems fairly accurate.
 
All true, but the purpose of the question is would you rather have spent the first part of your life in the adoption system or to have no life at all.
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What part of my post did you not understand?
 
HAL9000 said:
They can't tell the difference between being alive and dead?
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It's rather depressing. They are unable to connect with the world in any meaningful way. When something (anything) in the world doesn't work the way they think it should, there is one of two possible reactions. Either they withdraw or, they become aggressive and adversarial. You know, kinda like the average ATOTer.
 
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