Is it better to be born into the adoption system or never to be born at all?

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Is it better to be born into the adoption system or never to be born at all?

  • Born into the adoption system

  • Never to be born at all

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HAL9000

HAL9000

Lifer
Oct 17, 2010
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MagnusTheBrewer said:
It's rather depressing. They are unable to connect with the world in any meaningful way. When something (anything) in the world doesn't work the way they think it should, there is one of two possible reactions. Either they withdraw or, they become aggressive and adversarial. You know, kinda like the average ATOTer.
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Hah. Yeah that does sound terrible. Do they have no happiness in their lives?

JulesMaximus said:
It's a moot point. Might as well ask what if my Dad never met my Mom.
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I think it's a very valid, and important point I'm asking if your wife wishes she had never been born, i.e. if her life is more misery than happiness or if the happy moments don't outweigh the misery, meaning that adding all of the positives and negatives in her life her life would be a negative.

Or

Would she rather have lived her life as she has.
 
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nanette1985

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Oct 12, 2005
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What's the adoption system like over there? Like other things, it's probably a lot different than it is here in the US.
 
AyashiKaibutsu

AyashiKaibutsu

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Jan 24, 2004
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The more there are in the adoption system the worse it's going to be for the ones in there already.
 
skulkingghost

skulkingghost

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Id say born into.

I am a twin, and my brother and I were both adopted by the same parents. My parents said they had a great experience, I believe they went through Bethany Christian Services.
 
HAL9000

HAL9000

Lifer
Oct 17, 2010
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princess ida said:
What's the adoption system like over there? Like other things, it's probably a lot different than it is here in the US.
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In all honesty, I'm not sure, I know that babies are in high demand over here for adoptions, but aside from that it isn't my area of expertise... :hmm:
 
JulesMaximus

JulesMaximus

No Lifer
Jul 3, 2003
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HAL9000 said:
I think it's a very valid, and important point I'm asking if your wife wishes she had never been born, i.e. if her life is more misery than happiness or if the happy moments don't outweigh the misery, meaning that adding all of the positives and negatives in her life her life would be a negative.

Or

Would she rather have lived her life as she has.
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No, it's a stupid fucking question, because it is one that has already been answered.

Do you wish your Dad had pulled out?
 
JulesMaximus

JulesMaximus

No Lifer
Jul 3, 2003
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HAL9000 said:
In all honesty, I'm not sure, I know that babies are in high demand over here for adoptions, but aside from that it isn't my area of expertise... :hmm:
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I'm up for adoption. Is Jenson Button looking for the son he never had?
 
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TheVrolok

Lifer
Dec 11, 2000
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skulkingghost said:
Id say born into.

I am a twin, and my brother and I were both adopted by the same parents. My parents said they had a great experience, I believe they went through Bethany Christian Services.
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I don't mean to intrude, and feel free not to answer, but might I ask why your parents decided to adopt?
 
SlitheryDee

SlitheryDee

Lifer
Feb 2, 2005
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I'd choose life over anything except possibly a mind destroying disease or condition. The paltry stuff some people entertain as being worse than death (or just non-life) never fails to shock me. I cling to my life more tenaciously than I cling to anything else. It's going to take something that makes me incapable of finding even the smallest sliver of happiness to make me give it up.
 
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TheVrolok

Lifer
Dec 11, 2000
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SlitheryDee said:
I'd choose life over anything except possibly a mind destroying disease or condition. The paltry stuff some people entertain as being worse than death (or just non-life) never fails to shock me. I cling to my life more tenaciously than I cling to anything else. It's going to take something that makes me incapable of finding even the smallest sliver of happiness to make me give it up.
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To be fair, this is where this thread was inspired. It was in a discussion as to whether it would be better to have been aborted, or to have been born with crack addiction, HIV, FAS, etc. to an incompetent carrier. However, in this thread it was switched to simply "aborted" or "adopted" ... slightly different.
 
HAL9000

HAL9000

Lifer
Oct 17, 2010
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TheVrolok said:
To be fair, this is where this thread was inspired. It was in a discussion as to whether it would be better to have been aborted, or to have been born with crack addiction, HIV, FAS, etc. to an incompetent carrier. However, in this thread it was switched to simply "aborted" or "adopted" ... slightly different.
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The argument I was making is that it is better to give children to be adopted than to be aborted, it is better to live a life started out in adoption that to have been aborted.
 
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