Is going to a strip club considered cheating??

[flavio]

Going to a strip club is not the same thing as working at a strip club, so the comparison is not really valid.

You can however compare men going to a strip club to women going to a strip club as customers.

,,,and I absolutley think it is NOT cheating if there's not allot of touching going on.

 

[Electric Amish]

Hell! My wife would go with me, given half a chance.

amish

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Originally posted by: flavio
Going to a strip club is not the same thing as working at a strip club, so the comparison is not really valid.

You can however compare men going to a strip club to women going to a strip club as customers.

,,,and I absolutley think it is NOT cheating if there's not allot of touching going on.

So you're saying there's a big difference between watching and being watched? (I don't see it that way, but I'd like to hear reasons going the other way.)

Plus, the original thread stated:

and i'm not talking about just watching the strippers do their shows but also lap dances, with full on boobie and crotch rubbage.

So, is there also a big difference between touching & being touched? (And that's using the generous assumption that the touching all goes one way.)

 

[kassy]

I hear that often: There is nothing wrong with porn, prostitutes and strippers etc; that is as long it?s not their gf, wife, sister or Mother.

Fact of the matter is, if there is nothing wrong with it then there is nothing wrong with it on all levels.

From experience and watching those around me it amazes me how the men that I know say there is nothing wrong with paying to look at a body, but those same men puff up like roosters with sticks up their arses the moment a man looks at 'their woman' for more than 5 seconds.

 

[flavio]

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence

Originally posted by: flavio
Going to a strip club is not the same thing as working at a strip club, so the comparison is not really valid.

You can however compare men going to a strip club to women going to a strip club as customers.

,,,and I absolutley think it is NOT cheating if there's not allot of touching going on.

So you're saying there's a big difference between watching and being watched? (I don't see it that way, but I'd like to hear reasons going the other way.)

Of course they are not identical for many reasons. A real obvious one is that going to the club for 1-2 hours once every three months is different than working there 20-40hrs a week.

 

[Electric Amish]

Originally posted by: kassy
I hear that often: There is nothing wrong with porn, prostitutes and strippers etc; that is as long it?s not their gf, wife, sister or Mother.

Fact of the matter is, if there is nothing wrong with it then there is nothing wrong with it on all levels.

From experience and watching those around me it amazes me how the men that I know say there is nothing wrong with paying money to look at a body, but those same men puff up like roosters with sticks up their arses the moment a man looks at 'their woman' for more than 5 seconds.

I love you.

amish

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish

Originally posted by: kassy
I hear that often: There is nothing wrong with porn, prostitutes and strippers etc; that is as long it?s not their gf, wife, sister or Mother.

Fact of the matter is, if there is nothing wrong with it then there is nothing wrong with it on all levels.

From experience and watching those around me it amazes me how the men that I know say there is nothing wrong with paying money to look at a body, but those same men puff up like roosters with sticks up their arses the moment a man looks at 'their woman' for more than 5 seconds.

I love you.

amish

:Q

You are cheating! *points fingers*

 

[milagro]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: kassy
If Hubby wanted to go to a strip club then I would have no problem with it.
But, my motto is if you can spend our money on strippers, then I can make money stripping.
Its simple, its its that harmless, then it shouldn't be a problem.

Fair enough, so long as the money you make is OUR money as well

I dance for other men to pay for my husband to watch other women dance.

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Originally posted by: flavio

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence

Originally posted by: flavio
Going to a strip club is not the same thing as working at a strip club, so the comparison is not really valid.

You can however compare men going to a strip club to women going to a strip club as customers.

,,,and I absolutley think it is NOT cheating if there's not allot of touching going on.

So you're saying there's a big difference between watching and being watched? (I don't see it that way, but I'd like to hear reasons going the other way.)

Of course they are not identical for many reasons. A real obvious one is that going to the club for 1-2 hours once every three months is different than working there 20-40hrs a week.

I never said they were identical. I was looking for a significant difference -- i.e., a justification for how one is okay and the other is not. If the difference is indeed the amount of time... then how much time is okay? Set the line at X hours, and justify why less than X hours is okay, and more than X is not.

I fully realize that you may not care at all to make this argument. I'm just saying that as males, we must justify our positions if we don't wish to be labeled as chauvenistic.

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

Well it can't be cheating for me cause my G/F likes going to the titty bars with me.

 

[XZeroII]

Look, but don't touch is a great way to do it.

 

[UltraQuiet]

Originally posted by: kassy
If Hubby wanted to go to a strip club then I would have no problem with it.
But, my motto is if you can spend our money on strippers, then I can make money stripping.
Its simple, if its that harmless, then it shouldn't be a problem.

So if he buys some porn movies.......

Yours is about the dumbest analogy I have ever read.

 

[kassy]

Originally posted by: DaveSohmer

Originally posted by: kassy
If Hubby wanted to go to a strip club then I would have no problem with it.
But, my motto is if you can spend our money on strippers, then I can make money stripping.
Its simple, if its that harmless, then it shouldn't be a problem.

So if he buys some porn movies.......

Yours is about the dumbest analogy I have ever read.

If he buys porn then he shouldn't shaft himself on some pedestal making moral judgments about the people who make them.

As for the dumb analogy, thats your opinion and you are entitled to it, but it means squat to me.

 

[ohtwell]

I don't think that it is cheating.





: ) Amanda

 

[dirtboy]

Going to a strip club should not be considered cheating.

 

[MazerRackham]

Originally posted by: xospec1alk
Last time i went to a strip club my gf was pissed and not just a little pissed...it was way over the top im gonna kill you pissed...and i didn't even tell her about the lapdance...

but cheating? I don't think its cheating...but what goes on in her head i have no efn clue

This happened to me too. I didn't even pay for the lapdances, and she was SUPER PISSED! I guess she had a right to be, but then she left my ass anyway (not directly because of lapdance)

So have you already had the strippers/lapdances, or are you just considering it?

 

[Spike]

IMO, it is cheating. It seems kinda like saying "your not good enough looking, so I am gonna go stare at someone else"

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Spike
IMO, it is cheating. It seems kinda like saying "your not good enough looking, so I am gonna go stare at someone else"

Thank you.

nik

 

[HamSupLo]

be a kinda soul and help a stripper finance a new boob job!

 

[ohtwell]

Originally posted by: Spike
IMO, it is cheating. It seems kinda like saying "your not good enough looking, so I am gonna go stare at someone else"

Just because a guy goes to a strip club doesn't mean he is tired of looking at his wife or gf.

It's just tits and a*s. Nothing more.




: ) Amanda

 

[vi edit]

Can anybody on this board, that is married/engaged/intimately involved honestly say that they haven't looked at a member of the opposite sex and say - "damn, that's a fine piece of ass", that wasn't their significant other?

I find it very, very, VERY hard to believe that you haven't committed this "adulterous" act. And if you have done this, and you agree that strip clubs are indeed cheating, how do you differentiate between the two acts?

 

[joohang]

Originally posted by: Spike
IMO, it is cheating. It seems kinda like saying "your not good enough looking, so I am gonna go stare at someone else"

Maybe this is just me (I seriously doubt it) but no matter how much "in love" I am, I'd be lying to myself and to my significant other to say that I don't find any other women attractive. Better to be honest with myself and with her, imo.

But then I guess it's debatable as to exactly what is considered "crossing the line."

 

[Jfur]

"going" is not cheating

 

[Hammer]

I like you.

Originally posted by: ohtwell


Just because a guy goes to a strip club doesn't mean he is tired of looking at his wife or gf.

It's just tits and a*s. Nothing more.




: ) Amanda

 

[TNTrulez]

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence

Originally posted by: flavio

Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence

Originally posted by: flavio
Going to a strip club is not the same thing as working at a strip club, so the comparison is not really valid.

You can however compare men going to a strip club to women going to a strip club as customers.

,,,and I absolutley think it is NOT cheating if there's not allot of touching going on.

So you're saying there's a big difference between watching and being watched? (I don't see it that way, but I'd like to hear reasons going the other way.)

Of course they are not identical for many reasons. A real obvious one is that going to the club for 1-2 hours once every three months is different than working there 20-40hrs a week.

I never said they were identical. I was looking for a significant difference -- i.e., a justification for how one is okay and the other is not. If the difference is indeed the amount of time... then how much time is okay? Set the line at X hours, and justify why less than X hours is okay, and more than X is not.

I fully realize that you may not care at all to make this argument. I'm just saying that as males, we must justify our positions if we don't wish to be labeled as chauvenistic.

There's a BIG difference between spending all your time (job) doing something and spending only a little bit of time. Think about it. If you are playing games everyday for 8 hours a day, vs a guy that plays 1 hour every week. You tell me there's no difference between the two just based on time only, and I'll call you crazy.