Is 13 too younge for a belly ring?

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Kirby

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slap her and ask what she wants again. repeat as many times as she asks for a bb ring.
 

ohtwell

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I say she's too young, but if she wants to do it, isn't it better that you just let her. Otherwise she'll get it at a later time, and probably not tell you! Then it will get infected and she'll come crying to you about it. Inform her of all the consequences of this decision and see if you still wants to do it!

Make a strict rule that she can't go around showing it to everbody, as that would disturb a classroom and could potentially get her in trouble at school. In fact, if you are actually considering letting her, you need to contact the school and make sure that it's not against the code of conduct. Many schools have stipulations against piercings like that. Make her pay for it! Also, tell her that if she doesn't clean it and it gets infected, it comes out and doesn't go back in!

If she's responsible and mature enough, in your opinion, to do this I think you should let her.


: ) Amanda
 

dug777

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Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: shadow9d9
Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: Citrix
This has turned into a interesting converstation. I had no idea a belly ring is a gateway piercing to nipple rings, dressing like a slut and being a whore. I guess i should back up and actually say that getting her ears pierced at 10 was the real gateway to damnation.

Get over yourself mate.

You obviously have no problem with it, so get her the ring, put her on birth control, and get her out there.

Some of us don't agree with you allowing your daughter to 'sex herself up' when she's just turning 13, but ignore us, we're old fashioned & boring ;)

& if you can't see the difference between an ear piercing & a belly-button ring (one which basically all women in society have, and which looks classy & pretty, and the other which has become synonomous with trashy chicks, alongside those lower back tats) then good luck with ya...at least she doesn't want a tattoo, but it sounds like you'd be fine with that too...

Someone thinks highly of themselves.

How so?

I'm just offering my point of view...which the vast majority of ATOT, an i'd be prepared to say, real life, would agree with...

But as i said, i'm a boring old fart who prefers my kids unfvcked & unpierced at age 13...:roll:

I'm going to quolte myself here, since the OP is clearly above replying to me ;)

Anyways, it;s clear you don't have a problem with it, so just get her the piercing already. Don;t let it bother you that the poll is VASTLY against it, because it's not like you asked for our opinion or anything, anyway, we're all raving conservatives on here, you should know that by now :roll:

Please stop with the 'i didn't know anyone would equate a belly piercing to sluts, omg noes', either you're an idiot, or you've led an extremely closeted life. It's just a generalisation, but guess what, generalisations are actually formed by the real world. Clearly that's not something you've had any real contact with if you're planning on getting your 12 going on 13 year old CHILD a belly ring however.

 

Homerboy

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Originally posted by: goku
(You're daughter will be a whore not because of your parenting, but because of her genes. Thats my opinion on it anyways.)

THAT is an all time classic quote. Has to be one of the dumbest more ignorant things I've ever seen posted on AT... and that is bold statement.
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: AMDZen
Originally posted by: goku
So if a belly ring is 'sexual', why is letting your daughter have that is sexual a problem? I don't see the problem with having one, what you should be worried more about is not your daughter being eye candy to guys and playing the game 'keep away', but for her to not to become a slut/whore. The question is, what do you define as a slut/whore?

You don't make any sense. But I'll reply to this nonsense any way.

When girls are seeking attention of that kind (sexual) at this age (13) then it leads down the road to what your saying is the real problem. Being overly sexually active. And by overly, I would say any sex before 18 is too much. But that is sort of a guy/daughter thing, nobody wants their daughter to be active until they're out of the house, and even then it brings chills. Men don't envision a son with the same cringing attitude, thats just the way things are.

I've noticed that guys won't understand this unless a) they have a sister, mainly a younger sister that they grew up protecting from things. Or until b) they have a daughter of their own. I have friends that say "I wouldn't mind that my daughter had a bf and dated at 15" but these friends are those that don't have a sister, or that (obviously) don't have a daughter.

I never had a younger sister (my sister is 5 years older than me). But I am a giant compared to her and if anyone had messed with her, they'd be freaking in a pool of their own blood.

Anyone messed with my friends who were girls, similar problems for the guy would ensue.
 

DaShen

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Dec 1, 2000
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Originally posted by: GuitarDaddy

Careful now Mosh, your messing with his "Daddy's little girl" image:) Every good dad knows their little girl couldn't have a sexual thought before their 21st birthday.

LOL
 

imported_goku

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Originally posted by: Homerboy
Originally posted by: goku
(You're daughter will be a whore not because of your parenting, but because of her genes. Thats my opinion on it anyways.)

THAT is an all time classic quote. Has to be one of the dumbest more ignorant things I've ever seen posted on AT... and that is bold statement.

:laugh:

Though tell me, why is it that in all cultures and backgrounds etc. there is always 'the slut, the whore'? From rich to poor, chinese to lebanese, there is always the slut, why is that? In the same family, there will be the 'normal kids' and then there is the one that grows up to be a whore/slut. :laugh:
 

alkemyst

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Originally posted by: shadow9d9
Originally posted by: Ronstang
As long as you are OK with guys wanting to have sex with her then. Kind of hard to let kids dress/accessorize in a sexy manner (to some) and then complain when people notice. Don't complain when some guy is tarnishing her virtue


Umm, that's the biggest load of nonsense I have ever heard. Guys will ALWAYS want to have sex with girls.. it has nothing to do with their dressings/rings. If the girl is educated properly, there won't be a problem... since when is dressing/decorating relevant to having sex? Are you one of those people who declare that women who dress sexy "deserve" to get raped because they were "asking for it"?

That has nothing to do with what he was talking about.

She has a belly ring and guys are going to think she's available. They still get NO, but you may not want your 13 year old subjected to lines that come out of conversations like that.

 

Crescent13

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I dunno. I think piercings like that are a big turn-off (and I'm 14), but I guess it's her body...
 

DaShen

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Originally posted by: Crescent13
I dunno. I think piercings like that are a big turn-off (and I'm 14), but I guess it's her body...

OP, there is your answer.

Do you want 14 year old boys ogling your daughter?
 

phatj

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Mar 21, 2003
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remember piercings are addictice

and teenage guys are predators


no way i would let me 13yr old get a BB ring. If she stil wants it when she has a high school diploma in her hand then let her have it
 

CHOPPER GOD

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Originally posted by: Nebor
No, don't pay attention to the uber conservatives of ATOT. You'll go a lot further being the "cool" dad than the mean dad.

More important than a belly button ring is BIRTH CONTROL. In a year or two, you and your wife should start asking her every month if she wants to start on the pill. That's responsible parenting.


Your daughter will go alot further being the 'mean' dad....assuming you are the MAN of the house and 'mean' = dicipline.
Remember, she WILL BE showing it off to Boys, who, just like you and I, will imagine thier man juice spread all over her belley.....NO RING
 

imported_goku

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Originally posted by: CHOPPER GOD
Originally posted by: Nebor
No, don't pay attention to the uber conservatives of ATOT. You'll go a lot further being the "cool" dad than the mean dad.

More important than a belly button ring is BIRTH CONTROL. In a year or two, you and your wife should start asking her every month if she wants to start on the pill. That's responsible parenting.


Your daughter will go alot further being the 'mean' dad....assuming you are the MAN of the house and 'mean' = dicipline.
Remember, she WILL BE showing it off to Boys, who, just like you and I, will imagine thier man juice spread all over her belley.....NO RING

While that is discomforting to her dad, if you really think about it, why does it matter?
 

DARQ MX

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Well, No offense, But you are the father and I would not listen to a board to make the dicission for you but, It depends on how mature she is to get a belly ring, IF she wears skimpy outfits and stuff and basically trys to dress like a you know...sluttly-ish... Than I would not get it for her, but she will probably get it behind your back and hide it. But if she is more mature than a standard 13 year old than and does not dress like that, than I would not see a big deal because older highschool guys get attracted to that stuff and could think she is a older and being sexual and bad/weird stuff could happen if your not careful. I would say that age 14 would be fine though when she gets into HS...
 

HamburgerBoy

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Originally posted by: goku
While that is discomforting to her dad, if you really think about it, why does it matter?

It matters because she should be thinking about schoolwork, not being a slut.
 

jjmIII

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Mar 13, 2001
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Despite the recommendations of cleaning, etc, it got infected, quite messy and painful, and then she had to take it out. She now has a scar, which while not the end of the world, is still something that should be noted.

Yes, common too.
I wouldn't allow it, and I think I'm a pretty hip 32yr old.
 

Noobtastic

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Jul 9, 2005
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Originally posted by: Nebor
No, don't pay attention to the uber conservatives of ATOT. You'll go a lot further being the "cool" dad than the mean dad.

More important than a belly button ring is BIRTH CONTROL. In a year or two, you and your wife should start asking her every month if she wants to start on the pill. That's responsible parenting.

You're an @sshole.