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Originally posted by: djheater
Whether or not you guys are a fan of the OP for you to childishly insult him and his fiance in this thread really reflects poorly on your character.

When someone volunteers personal information like this, if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all.

Shame on all of you, you know who you are.



Congrats freedomsbeat212, I hope everything works out for you both, sincerely!
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Thanks for the kind words and being a class act.

I must add that I deserve all of the doubt and harshness stated in this thread - I've been a tool and my threads have been major proof of my self esteem issues.

I'm working through them and feel like this is a major step toward my maturation. My sister had similar concerns that I still have growing up to do. Hell, I have the same concerns. But Melissa said something very important to me - "we all have growing up to do. Maturation doesn't have a set destination and we could wait forever, or grow up together." That was a discussion we had before I proposed, and it meant a lot to me.

So i'm not angry about the negative energy here, I deserve it so I won't and cant' defend myself. She does not. She's an amazing girl and I'm proud I proved myself to her, and that's all that matters. I won't be snuggling with forum strangers, after all.
 
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Originally posted by: eits
either shens or you're dumber or more pathetic than i thought...
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Not shens and not pathetic. I've dated a LOT and most of my YAGTs here were due to either insecurity on my side or because of frustrations caused by things not clicking with these random girls.

Here is a girl who's beautiful, smart (has her masters), career driven yet family oriented. She's perfect and she obviously loves me. I wouldn't have proposed to her if there wasn't a magical connection. I never believed in love at first sight until I met her but, even then, we gave it a year as friends before attempting to date. Now that we started dating, things fell together perfectly.

We're very different on the surface but, deep down, we have similar goals and a similar outlook. We also get each other in ways that transcend words, it's hard to explain but all of my friends get it. They were shocked by the speed of it all but all agree that she's perfect for me, and vice versa.
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I'm a bit concerned by how quickly this happened, your use of the word "magical" (no relationship is magical), and your history. But I like you, or at least the part of you presented on AT, so here's congratulations and good luck!
 
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212


" I won't be snuggling with forum strangers, after all"



I don't think there was ever any danger of that happening.
 
Dude. 1 month?

Let me tell you a story. I was friends with a girl for about 4 years. We didnt see each other for a year or so, then when I saw her again (at my sisters wedding), we hit it off. We started dating. For the first 2 months, it was the best relationship i've ever had (I was even contemplating proposing). After 6 months, it was over.

All relationships are good for the first month. Most are even good for the first few months. Knowing what I do now, I will never propose to a girl without having been in a serious ROMANTIC relationship with her for at least a year...

 
Originally posted by: bignateyk
Dude. 1 month?

Let me tell you a story. I was friends with a girl for about 4 years. We didnt see each other for a year or so, then when I saw her again (at my sisters wedding), we hit it off. We started dating. For the first 2 months, it was the best relationship i've ever had (I was even contemplating proposing). After 6 months, it was over.

All relationships are good for the first month. Most are even good for the first few months. Knowing what I do now, I will never propose to a girl without having been in a serious ROMANTIC relationship with her for at least a year...
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Good point you make. So many mistake love for lust.
 
Originally posted by: bignateyk
Dude. 1 month?

Let me tell you a story. I was friends with a girl for about 4 years. We didnt see each other for a year or so, then when I saw her again (at my sisters wedding), we hit it off. We started dating. For the first 2 months, it was the best relationship i've ever had (I was even contemplating proposing). After 6 months, it was over.

All relationships are good for the first month. Most are even good for the first few months. Knowing what I do now, I will never propose to a girl without having been in a serious ROMANTIC relationship with her for at least a year...
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hell i won't do it without living with her for at least a year.
 
Originally posted by: Sinsear
Originally posted by: bignateyk
Dude. 1 month?

Let me tell you a story. I was friends with a girl for about 4 years. We didnt see each other for a year or so, then when I saw her again (at my sisters wedding), we hit it off. We started dating. For the first 2 months, it was the best relationship i've ever had (I was even contemplating proposing). After 6 months, it was over.

All relationships are good for the first month. Most are even good for the first few months. Knowing what I do now, I will never propose to a girl without having been in a serious ROMANTIC relationship with her for at least a year...
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Good point you make. So many mistake love for lust.
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i believe you mean lust for love.
 
Originally posted by: bigrash
Originally posted by: FoBoT
it doesn't matter how long he has known her
these things can work out no matter how long they've known each other, if they want it to

i proposed to my wife about 6 weeks after i met her and we got married 5 months later and i was away (in the Navy, out to sea) for 2.5 months of that

and we just passed 19 years of marriage
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Sure, it can work out, and your example is proof of that. But let's face it, it's freedomsbeat we're talking about here.
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i'm just saying, you know?
i want to give him hope and encouragement
 
Originally posted by: toekramp
Originally posted by: Sinsear
Originally posted by: bignateyk
Dude. 1 month?

Let me tell you a story. I was friends with a girl for about 4 years. We didnt see each other for a year or so, then when I saw her again (at my sisters wedding), we hit it off. We started dating. For the first 2 months, it was the best relationship i've ever had (I was even contemplating proposing). After 6 months, it was over.

All relationships are good for the first month. Most are even good for the first few months. Knowing what I do now, I will never propose to a girl without having been in a serious ROMANTIC relationship with her for at least a year...
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Good point you make. So many mistake love for lust.
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i believe you mean lust for love.
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yeah; you know what I meant. very common mistake in the beginning of a relationship.
 
the first month is usually bliss, the first major problems happen at 6 months, and the next big hurdle is around the 18 month timeframe. After that is when you should start to think about proposing. anything before that is going to cause problems most of the time.
 
Originally posted by: FoBoT


i'm just saying, you know?
i want to give him hope and encouragement
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what? hope and encouragement on ATOT? blasphemy! not from this cesspit of despair and hate!
 
Originally posted by: ilovecolombia
I'd hit it...

in fact your lucky you don't live near me......

(Now I can say i've jerked off to two forum members wives/future wives)
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+1 for the noob, lol
 
Originally posted by: ilovecolombia
I'd hit it...

in fact your lucky you don't live near me......

(Now I can say i've jerked off to two forum members wives/future wives)
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:laugh:

whose the other one?
 
Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: FoBoT


i'm just saying, you know?
i want to give him hope and encouragement
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what? hope and encouragement on ATOT? blasphemy! not from this cesspit of despair and hate!
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i am trying to be a new kinder, gentler FoBoT
 
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