I just caught my Dad cheating on my Mom :(

[ranmaniac]

There won't be much of a marriage left if the wife can't trust the husband, vice-versa.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: 911paramedic

Originally posted by: guidomyte

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
Maybe, Jr. should have walked up to Daddy and this other woman in B&N to get a better take on things....

/with that said - i'd bet there has been issues along these lines for sometime... Maybe Mom needs to not be a doormat and move on....

Or maybe dad has been a doormat for too long and has finally had his fill. Approaching the father and the woman in the B&N would have been the BEST first move. At least in that situation how they act is far more telling than what they say.

Maybe if OP was like 12 or 13 then I could see him calling mom.. But he is 20 years old... TWENTY, an adult. Talk to your dad first, then when you find out he is a cheat, go home and explain the situation to your mom in a MATURE way.

HAHAHA yeah, i'd love to see how that unfolds... IF you can get him to admit he was cheating in the first place.

He doesn't have to admit it. If the mom doesn't believe the kid when he tells her, then she deserves whatever comes to her...

WHAT THE HELL???

Okay so the next time someone get's mad at their dad, they should tell their mother that he spotted the father out cheating?

If Mommy goes and sees Daddy at B&N with another woman (which is COMPLETELY justified as he has apparently done this before), and he can't explain the situation without a conflict, then where is this wrong? If the dad did something wrong, he should be able to explain it, otherwise he is busted...

guidomyte
Member
Posts: 46
Joined: 11/22/2006
:roll:

Why aren't you using your main account OP? No wonder you couldn't confront your dad, you cant even confront anonymous people online...

😕

i was thinking of asking who guidomyte was before he got banned, but decided not to...

 

[b0mbrman]

Originally posted by: AnyMal
Maybe I missed something in the OP, but where did the "cheating" part come in? His dad was talking to some woman at B&N and....what? Where they rolling on the carpet? Humping in a coffee lounge? SInce when does talking = cheating?

Maybe they were holding hands. Apparently, that's where babies come from

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: b0mbrman

Originally posted by: AnyMal
Maybe I missed something in the OP, but where did the "cheating" part come in? His dad was talking to some woman at B&N and....what? Where they rolling on the carpet? Humping in a coffee lounge? SInce when does talking = cheating?

Maybe they were holding hands. Apparently, that's where babies come from

Judging by the OP's social tact, I'd imagine something along those lines. 😛

- M4H

 

[Shortcut]

OP, i have the perfect x-mas present for you: a "jump to conclusions" mat

 

[MBrown]

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: 911paramedic

Originally posted by: guidomyte

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
Maybe, Jr. should have walked up to Daddy and this other woman in B&N to get a better take on things....

/with that said - i'd bet there has been issues along these lines for sometime... Maybe Mom needs to not be a doormat and move on....

Or maybe dad has been a doormat for too long and has finally had his fill. Approaching the father and the woman in the B&N would have been the BEST first move. At least in that situation how they act is far more telling than what they say.

Maybe if OP was like 12 or 13 then I could see him calling mom.. But he is 20 years old... TWENTY, an adult. Talk to your dad first, then when you find out he is a cheat, go home and explain the situation to your mom in a MATURE way.

HAHAHA yeah, i'd love to see how that unfolds... IF you can get him to admit he was cheating in the first place.

He doesn't have to admit it. If the mom doesn't believe the kid when he tells her, then she deserves whatever comes to her...

WHAT THE HELL???

Okay so the next time someone get's mad at their dad, they should tell their mother that he spotted the father out cheating?

If Mommy goes and sees Daddy at B&N with another woman (which is COMPLETELY justified as he has apparently done this before), and he can't explain the situation without a conflict, then where is this wrong? If the dad did something wrong, he should be able to explain it, otherwise he is busted...

guidomyte
Member
Posts: 46
Joined: 11/22/2006
:roll:

Why aren't you using your main account OP? No wonder you couldn't confront your dad, you cant even confront anonymous people online...

😕

i was thinking of asking who guidomyte was before he got banned, but decided not to...

I have no idea who guidomyte is. We are still having thanksgiving today, but it is a very weired feeling thanksgiving.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: MBrown

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: 911paramedic

Originally posted by: guidomyte

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
Maybe, Jr. should have walked up to Daddy and this other woman in B&N to get a better take on things....

/with that said - i'd bet there has been issues along these lines for sometime... Maybe Mom needs to not be a doormat and move on....

Or maybe dad has been a doormat for too long and has finally had his fill. Approaching the father and the woman in the B&N would have been the BEST first move. At least in that situation how they act is far more telling than what they say.

Maybe if OP was like 12 or 13 then I could see him calling mom.. But he is 20 years old... TWENTY, an adult. Talk to your dad first, then when you find out he is a cheat, go home and explain the situation to your mom in a MATURE way.

HAHAHA yeah, i'd love to see how that unfolds... IF you can get him to admit he was cheating in the first place.

He doesn't have to admit it. If the mom doesn't believe the kid when he tells her, then she deserves whatever comes to her...

WHAT THE HELL???

Okay so the next time someone get's mad at their dad, they should tell their mother that he spotted the father out cheating?

If Mommy goes and sees Daddy at B&N with another woman (which is COMPLETELY justified as he has apparently done this before), and he can't explain the situation without a conflict, then where is this wrong? If the dad did something wrong, he should be able to explain it, otherwise he is busted...

guidomyte
Member
Posts: 46
Joined: 11/22/2006
:roll:

Why aren't you using your main account OP? No wonder you couldn't confront your dad, you cant even confront anonymous people online...

😕

i was thinking of asking who guidomyte was before he got banned, but decided not to...

I have no idea who guidomyte is. We are still having thanksgiving today, but it is a very weired feeling thanksgiving.

ugh... the worst, dude.

keep your chin up... it'll get better. they're both committed to making this work, it seems. as long as they both are in it together for the long haul and through the bad times, they've got a good chance.

 

[JEDIYoda]

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: MBrown

Originally posted by: ironwing
What were your dad and the other woman doing in B&N that led you to conclude they were hooking up as opposed to shopping?

He is way to nice to this woman. She calls the house all the time and I've seen them talking any times before. He has tried cheating on my Mom before and she kicked him downstairs on the couch for a while. So I know what I saw.

You obviously don't have a great relationship with your father, and to be honest it sounds like you are way biased towards your mom.

Talk about being guilty until proven innocent.

It`s called being a Momma`s boy!!

 

[JEDIYoda]

Originally posted by: MBrown

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: 911paramedic

Originally posted by: guidomyte

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
Maybe, Jr. should have walked up to Daddy and this other woman in B&N to get a better take on things....

/with that said - i'd bet there has been issues along these lines for sometime... Maybe Mom needs to not be a doormat and move on....

Or maybe dad has been a doormat for too long and has finally had his fill. Approaching the father and the woman in the B&N would have been the BEST first move. At least in that situation how they act is far more telling than what they say.

Maybe if OP was like 12 or 13 then I could see him calling mom.. But he is 20 years old... TWENTY, an adult. Talk to your dad first, then when you find out he is a cheat, go home and explain the situation to your mom in a MATURE way.

HAHAHA yeah, i'd love to see how that unfolds... IF you can get him to admit he was cheating in the first place.

He doesn't have to admit it. If the mom doesn't believe the kid when he tells her, then she deserves whatever comes to her...

WHAT THE HELL???

Okay so the next time someone get's mad at their dad, they should tell their mother that he spotted the father out cheating?

If Mommy goes and sees Daddy at B&N with another woman (which is COMPLETELY justified as he has apparently done this before), and he can't explain the situation without a conflict, then where is this wrong? If the dad did something wrong, he should be able to explain it, otherwise he is busted...

guidomyte
Member
Posts: 46
Joined: 11/22/2006
:roll:

Why aren't you using your main account OP? No wonder you couldn't confront your dad, you cant even confront anonymous people online...

😕

i was thinking of asking who guidomyte was before he got banned, but decided not to...

I have no idea who guidomyte is. We are still having thanksgiving today, but it is a very weired feeling thanksgiving.

From reading this thread I get the feeling that a lot of people could care less....

 

[JEDIYoda]

Originally posted by: Sudheer Anne

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: MBrown
UPDATE: Everything has fine for right now. I heard the word "divorce" thrown around a few times. My Mom came into my room asking me if everything was OK. Eventually we all made our way to the kitchen and some tears were shed. I talked to my dad one on one. We had a real deep convo. My mom came and we continued to real deep convo. Too long to even cliff up. It looks like the whole family is going to start again from scratch. We have a lot of bumps to be ironed out. I will post an update later on.

Horrible update..

Talked to your dad one on one? ABOUT WHAT
Family gonna start again from scratch? HOW EXACTLY DO YOU DO THIS

Waiting for a better update..

Dude STFU, who are you to demand anything from this kid. Have a little sympathy, his parents are probably headed for a rocky future if not divorce.

You did get it partially right......I will highlight what you got right..lol

 

[iskim86]

Originally posted by: MBrown
I went to Barnes and Nobles with my buddy and I saw my Dad's car in the parking lot. I went in and there he was with another woman. I called my Mom and she bolted down to B and N and went off on him. She is telling him off right now in the kitchen. My Dad just told my Mom to get her finger out of his face. If my Dad lays ONE finger on my Mom he is going to be bleeding on the floor. :| :| :|

UPDATE:Everything has fine for right now. I heard the word "divorce" thrown around a few times. My Mom came into my room asking me if everything was OK. Eventually we all made our way to the kitchen and some tears were shed. I talked to my dad one on one. We had a real deep convo. My mom came and we continued to real deep convo. Too long to even cliff up. It looks like the whole family is going to start again from scratch. We have a lot of bumps to be ironed out. I will post an update later on.

that's sad.....

I'm actually hoping my mom and dad would break up. the only thing keeping them together is religion.

god I ****** hate religion.

 

[yobarman]

myspace?

 

[BoomerD]

So...did your dad bring his girlfriend to Thanksgiving dinner?

 

[BoberFett]

Originally posted by: BoomerD
So...did your dad bring his girlfriend to Thanksgiving dinner?

And did he pass her the stuffing?

 

[rhelaine]

I doubt he is looking for advice, but just wants to be able to vent about the situation. We all probably would have dealt with the situation in different ways, he chose what he chose and we shouldn't judge him based on that decision. His dad made the choice to be in a public place with this woman, he should have been ready to deal with possible consequences.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Happy Thanksgiving huh?

That sucks...I'll toss back a :beer: for you.

 

[Marthisdil]

Originally posted by: MBrown

Originally posted by: michaels
yeah well maybe he is in the wrong but maybe your mom is an unloving bitch towards him and has drove him away. Don't be so fats to jump to conclusions.

My Mom is not a bitch :| She is always trying to make the relationship right. She makes his dinner plate for him every night. Many times he doesnt eat it. Tonight his plate is still laying there on the counter cold.

Hmm - shoulda asked your dad, first.....Calling mom and "telling on dad" smells of a momma's boy to me.

Sounds like one ****** up family - glad I'm not in it.

 

[hypn0tik]

Further updates?

 

[NanoStuff]

This is why you shouldn't marry. Being a man you naturally want to go bang some other chick, and if things turn for the worse you have to give her half your stuff just because of one little flirt. It ain't worth it.

 

[orion23]

Originally posted by: NanoStuff
This is why you shouldn't marry. Being a man you naturally want to go bang some other chick, and if things turn for the worse you have to give her half your stuff just because of one little flirt. It ain't worth it.

It's about responsability and consequences . Living with someone leaves the doors open since there are no monetary consequences, while being married will get you thinking of all the legal troubles once can get into if caught cheating.

I don't mind marriage. IMO it makes the union much stronger.

And if I caught my Dad cheating on Mom, I don't think I would tell on him, much less send my mom running in public to acuse him of such........

 

[KLin]

Originally posted by: NanoStuff
This is why you shouldn't marry. Being a man you naturally want to go bang some other chick, and if things turn for the worse you have to give her half your stuff just because of one little flirt. It ain't worth it.

lol

 

[jakedeez]

Originally posted by: guidomyte


Yeah but your buddy is a lunatic...

1 - You don't cheat on your spouse
2 - You don't pull a gun on your dad in HIS house

Why is his in all caps? You're suggesting that its okay to pull a gun on your father as long as you do it outside of his home?

 

[jakedeez]

Originally posted by: guidomyte

If he is cheating, he already is a liar...Why give him time to come up with a story?

Okay there McCarthy...

 

[DrPizza]

Hmmmm....

So, I gather that there's a woman out there who
A. likes to date married men
B. isn't dating anyone at the moment

Is she cute?
Pics?! :camera:


(j/k)

 

[DarkSide50420]

well man ive been in a soemwhat situation like yours.. my step dad came home drunk out his ****** mind (he's not supposed to drink hard liquor) my mom and him started arguing and then he started to get in her face and he raised his hand a her.. that was it for me i beat the living ****** out of him then called the cops... now before i came out my room i heard glass break.. and found out he threw a beer bottle at his 9yo daughter and my 8yo sister.. so the cops came and took him away.. brought him to his sisters house to cool down.. 5 minutes later he was back looking for me but he didnt see me so he grabbed my moms neck asking where i was then i said im right here bitch and at that second of seeing his hand around my moms neck my vision was nothing but black and red i beat his ass so hard he was Knocked out and didnt wake up for 36 hours (he woke up with a broken jaw and sitting in jail wondering wtf..did i do..) well over all is you handled your situation a hell out alot better than i did but my step dad had what was comming to him..(they're back together again..-_- ) but good luck with your problems i hope it all turns out somewhat ok for you than it did for me..