I just caught my Dad cheating on my Mom :(

[brandonbull]

Sounds like the OP made a bad decision. He wasn't "adult" enough to confront his father, but he is "adult" enough to fight him.

Getting into the middle of marriages is a bad thing, because you don't know or understand the realationship between the couple. Should have confronted your father and gotten his side before running off and calling your mom.

 

[otispunkmeyer]

Originally posted by: brandonbull
Sounds like the OP made a bad decision. He wasn't "adult" enough to confront his father, but he is "adult" enough to fight him.

Getting into the middle of marriages is a bad thing, because you don't know or understand the realationship between the couple. Should have confronted your father and gotten his side before running off and calling your mom.

he's only adult enough to fight him because the american solution to any conflict is to kick ass regardless of skill, thats why the war in iraq is still going because you lot just charged in guns blazing seemingly without thought, but A+++ for enthusiasm to kick saddams ass.

but at least your gov gives your army the means to do this... great tanks, ships, aircraft, guns...the works. british troops dragged along with the US get landrovers with bullet proof vests.

anyway this isnt a thread on iraq (which by rights should be in P&N getting chargrilled)

 

[brandonbull]

Originally posted by: otispunkmeyer

Originally posted by: brandonbull
Sounds like the OP made a bad decision. He wasn't "adult" enough to confront his father, but he is "adult" enough to fight him.

Getting into the middle of marriages is a bad thing, because you don't know or understand the realationship between the couple. Should have confronted your father and gotten his side before running off and calling your mom.

he's only adult enough to fight him because the american solution to any conflict is to kick ass regardless of skill, thats why the war in iraq is still going because you lot just charged in guns blazing seemingly without thought, but A+++ for enthusiasm to kick saddams ass.

but at least your gov gives your army the means to do this... great tanks, ships, aircraft, guns...the works. british troops dragged along with the US get landrovers with bullet proof vests.

anyway this isnt a thread on iraq (which by rights should be in P&N getting chargrilled)

Fooled me good, you did. Now I have to kick your arse.

 

[ForumMaster]

wow. hope everything will turn out to for the best.

 

[IEC]

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: guidomyte

Originally posted by: George P Burdell
Geez, OP, you're a biased little b!tch. Why couldn't you show a little maturity and talk directly to your dad first?

Can someone explain to me here why this is considered a GOOD idea? I do not understand your logic. This is a problem between the parents...don't try to play mediator...

One needs to know exactly what is going on before they butt themselves into other people's business. Like I already stated, he should have approached his dad and the woman in the B&N because in that situation how they act is more important than what is said. You need to have your facts straight before you start messing with other people's relationship, even if it is your parents. The OP is old enough to understand this concept too. It is obvious he is biased in this situation and just couldn't wait to call his mommy.

It's quite apparent from the OP's posts that it wasn't simply a single incident. He's probably leaving a lot unsaid, but it looks like there has been a history of his dad being involved with this woman.

As for the dinner plate thing... I think he's trying to say his mom really loves his dad, but the dad is cold towardsd her.

My take on this from the limited info is that the dad is in the wrong.

 

[uberman]

Originally posted by: BDawg

Originally posted by: Kanalua
Thanksgiving dinner should be fun this year.

"Can I have a breast?"

"Just like the breast you got from that whore?!?"

Seriously, sorry to hear about your parents.

That kinda reminds me of this.

Home For The Holidays

 

[RapidSnail]

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: RapidSnail

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: DarkKnight69

Originally posted by: Ronstang
You don't hit your father, regardless of what he has done. Chill out. I don't care what others tell you but this is between your mother and your father.

Are you effing retarded. I am 21 and if my dad EVER touched my mom it would mean his ass on the floor...

What would you do if your mom hit your dad?

'Nuff said.

I'm sure the dad is perfectly capable of defending himself against the mom; not the other way around.

Ummmm how are you so sure about this without seeing a picture of EITHER one of them????

What are you talking about?!? It should be obvious that 99% of dads are stronger than their wives. Not all, but a very very large majority.

 

[RapidSnail]

Originally posted by: otispunkmeyer

Originally posted by: brandonbull
Sounds like the OP made a bad decision. He wasn't "adult" enough to confront his father, but he is "adult" enough to fight him.

Getting into the middle of marriages is a bad thing, because you don't know or understand the realationship between the couple. Should have confronted your father and gotten his side before running off and calling your mom.

he's only adult enough to fight him because the american solution to any conflict is to kick ass regardless of skill, thats why the war in iraq is still going because you lot just charged in guns blazing seemingly without thought, but A+++ for enthusiasm to kick saddams ass.

but at least your gov gives your army the means to do this... great tanks, ships, aircraft, guns...the works. british troops dragged along with the US get landrovers with bullet proof vests.

anyway this isnt a thread on iraq (which by rights should be in P&N getting chargrilled)

Someone translate this. I don't speak Clueless Drivel.

 

[uberman]

This is just my two cents.

You never get in the middle of an arguement between a couple, never. Too many dynamics that they need to work out between themselves.

I believe the OP suffers from the affliction of Hamlet, an unhealthy attachment to the mother.

 

[911paramedic]

Originally posted by: guidomyte

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: eits

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: Ronstang

Originally posted by: UberNeuman
Maybe, Jr. should have walked up to Daddy and this other woman in B&N to get a better take on things....

/with that said - i'd bet there has been issues along these lines for sometime... Maybe Mom needs to not be a doormat and move on....

Or maybe dad has been a doormat for too long and has finally had his fill. Approaching the father and the woman in the B&N would have been the BEST first move. At least in that situation how they act is far more telling than what they say.

Maybe if OP was like 12 or 13 then I could see him calling mom.. But he is 20 years old... TWENTY, an adult. Talk to your dad first, then when you find out he is a cheat, go home and explain the situation to your mom in a MATURE way.

HAHAHA yeah, i'd love to see how that unfolds... IF you can get him to admit he was cheating in the first place.

He doesn't have to admit it. If the mom doesn't believe the kid when he tells her, then she deserves whatever comes to her...

WHAT THE HELL???

Okay so the next time someone get's mad at their dad, they should tell their mother that he spotted the father out cheating?

If Mommy goes and sees Daddy at B&N with another woman (which is COMPLETELY justified as he has apparently done this before), and he can't explain the situation without a conflict, then where is this wrong? If the dad did something wrong, he should be able to explain it, otherwise he is busted...

guidomyte
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:roll:

Why aren't you using your main account OP? No wonder you couldn't confront your dad, you cant even confront anonymous people online...

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Anubis
would have been smarter to conforont your dad instead of calling mom IMO

QFT

 

[Rudee]

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: MBrown
UPDATE: Everything has fine for right now. I heard the word "divorce" thrown around a few times. My Mom came into my room asking me if everything was OK. Eventually we all made our way to the kitchen and some tears were shed. I talked to my dad one on one. We had a real deep convo. My mom came and we continued to real deep convo. Too long to even cliff up. It looks like the whole family is going to start again from scratch. We have a lot of bumps to be ironed out. I will post an update later on.

Horrible update..

Talked to your dad one on one? ABOUT WHAT
Family gonna start again from scratch? HOW EXACTLY DO YOU DO THIS

Waiting for a better update..

They are obviously going to kill their son and start the family from scratch....

LOL

 

[mrzed]

Originally posted by: 911paramedic

guidomyte
Member
Posts: 46
Joined: 11/22/2006
:roll:

Why aren't you using your main account OP? No wonder you couldn't confront your dad, you cant even confront anonymous people online...

QFT

 

[krunchykrome]

Damn, good luck with that man.


Thats weird, because I just had a bad dream last night that my parents got a divorce and went their separate ways. I woke up upset and shattered.

 

[tweakmm]

I would post something witty and relevant but nobody would ever read it.

Bad move on calling the M, bro.

 

[Don66]

This is the kind of thing that should be on a talk show:Q

 

[OutHouse]

Originally posted by: FilmCamera

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: MBrown
UPDATE: Everything has fine for right now. I heard the word "divorce" thrown around a few times. My Mom came into my room asking me if everything was OK. Eventually we all made our way to the kitchen and some tears were shed. I talked to my dad one on one. We had a real deep convo. My mom came and we continued to real deep convo. Too long to even cliff up. It looks like the whole family is going to start again from scratch. We have a lot of bumps to be ironed out. I will post an update later on.

Horrible update..

Talked to your dad one on one? ABOUT WHAT
Family gonna start again from scratch? HOW EXACTLY DO YOU DO THIS

Waiting for a better update..

They are obviously going to kill their son and start the family from scratch....

LOL, sounds like a great plan.

 

[foodfightr]

this is so lame what an attention getter

I agree with the second post, if it is so personal and deep why are you sharing it with your fellow cyber nerds?

:thumbsdown:

 

[noagname]

dude that is mean
he is just asking for help

and i feel very sorry for him

 

[FM2n]

NOT A HOT DEAL!!!! LOCK!

 

[akshatp]

Originally posted by: MBrown

Originally posted by: akshatp

Originally posted by: MBrown
UPDATE: Everything has fine for right now. I heard the word "divorce" thrown around a few times. My Mom came into my room asking me if everything was OK. Eventually we all made our way to the kitchen and some tears were shed. I talked to my dad one on one. We had a real deep convo. My mom came and we continued to real deep convo. Too long to even cliff up. It looks like the whole family is going to start again from scratch. We have a lot of bumps to be ironed out. I will post an update later on.

Horrible update..

Talked to your dad one on one? ABOUT WHAT
Family gonna start again from scratch? HOW EXACTLY DO YOU DO THIS

Waiting for a better update..

Why do you need to post crap like this? Do you think this is a game? My family was almost over and you are disappointed that some things have been worked out? I can't believe it. :roll:

I think you misunderstood me... I dont see where I said I was disapointed but if it came across like that my bad.

Anyway, i am getting the feeling this whole thing has been one big shens...

In the case it isnt shens, i do hope everything works out for you your sister and your family in general.

 

[Sphexi]

Who cheats at a B&N? What's the attraction? Coffee and Dilbert books?

 

[OutHouse]

Originally posted by: Sphexi
Who cheats at a B&N? What's the attraction? Coffee and Dilbert books?

na, the couples sensual massage books.

 

[AnyMal]

Maybe I missed something in the OP, but where did the "cheating" part come in? His dad was talking to some woman at B&N and....what? Where they rolling on the carpet? Humping in a coffee lounge? SInce when does talking = cheating?

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: AnyMal
Maybe I missed something in the OP, but where did the "cheating" part come in? His dad was talking to some woman at B&N and....what? Where they rolling on the carpet? Humping in a coffee lounge? SInce when does talking = cheating?

i'd like to know that, too...