I have been with someone for 2 months...

[Zysoclaplem]

Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

Update: He said he realizes it was kind of early, and he isn't upset about me not being ready to say it yet. He says I should say it when I am ready and he wouldn't want it any other way.

 

[leftyman]

love stinks.

 

[PricklyPete]

Be open with him and let him know how you feel. Nothing wrong with moving slowly. Even if I felt that way, I generally give myself at least 6 months to make sure the feeling is genuine and not a fleeting lust before I have ever said "I love you".

Heck, I knew I was going to marry my fiance after our first date...but I didn't tell her that I loved her until nearly 7 months.

 

[Scarpozzi]

Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

 

[Jeeebus]

I'm not sure he wanted you to say anything so much as he wanted you to put out.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Might want to fix your thread title.

 

[shadow9d9]

I've always said it within 1 month... I am married now. I guess I just feel love more than others.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: Jeeebus
I'm not sure he wanted you to say anything so much as he wanted you to put out.

LOL

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: Jeeebus
I'm not sure he wanted you to say anything so much as he wanted you to put out.

LOL

Well maybe so. He didn't get anything this weekend, but I have been pretty sick.

 

[Aikouka]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

Tell him what you told us . You may need to sugarcoat it a bit so he doesn't think anything awry of the situation (sometimes males tend to look into a situation much more than you should, because they suspect that there may be more to it). He may also be one of those guys that tends to love easily, as another poster mentioned with fleeting love.

Good luck and I hope it goes well!

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

Tell him what you told us . You may need to sugarcoat it a bit so he doesn't think anything awry of the situation (sometimes males tend to look into a situation much more than you should, because they suspect that there may be more to it). He may also be one of those guys that tends to love easily, as another poster mentioned with fleeting love.

Good luck and I hope it goes well!

I am his first boyfriend and his first sexual experience.

 

[j00fek]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

Tell him what you told us . You may need to sugarcoat it a bit so he doesn't think anything awry of the situation (sometimes males tend to look into a situation much more than you should, because they suspect that there may be more to it). He may also be one of those guys that tends to love easily, as another poster mentioned with fleeting love.

Good luck and I hope it goes well!

I am his first boyfriend and his first sexual experience.

:Q

 

[chrisms]

How old are you? If he got laid for the first time 2 months is relatively short time to have said it. If my first wasn't a one night stand I would've told her within a week had it meant I kept getting some.

Of course now I've matured. Or maybe I haven't.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: chrisms
How old are you? If he got laid for the first time 2 months is relatively short time to have said it. If my first wasn't a one night stand I would've told her within a week had it meant I kept getting some.

Of course now I've matured. Or maybe I haven't.

I'm 25. He is 18.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

so you're saying that you love people the 1st time you meet them or what?

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

so you're saying that you love people the 1st time you meet them or what?

Im saying after two months you got a pretty good idea if you are in love or deciding what you feel is love.

 

[SonnyDaze]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

Tell him what you told us . You may need to sugarcoat it a bit so he doesn't think anything awry of the situation (sometimes males tend to look into a situation much more than you should, because they suspect that there may be more to it). He may also be one of those guys that tends to love easily, as another poster mentioned with fleeting love.

Good luck and I hope it goes well!

I am his first boyfriend and his first sexual experience.

Ding!! Winnar!! That's most likely what it is he loves.....the sexual experience with you. If he had it with someone else, chances are he would be in love with them.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

Over time, feelings grow stronger or weaker. My feelings for him are not strong enough to describe them as love.

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

Over time, feelings grow stronger or weaker. My feelings for him are not strong enough to describe them as love.

then in all fairness to him maybe you should say something to that effect?

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: SonnyDaze

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Aikouka

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

Tell him what you told us . You may need to sugarcoat it a bit so he doesn't think anything awry of the situation (sometimes males tend to look into a situation much more than you should, because they suspect that there may be more to it). He may also be one of those guys that tends to love easily, as another poster mentioned with fleeting love.

Good luck and I hope it goes well!

I am his first boyfriend and his first sexual experience.

Ding!! Winnar!! That's most likely what it is he loves.....the sexual experience with you. If he had it with someone else, chances are he would be in love with them.

No, he cares about me. He has mistaken that for love, as he has never been in love before.
I have been in love, and I know what it can do to you and how very painful it is.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

Over time, feelings grow stronger or weaker. My feelings for him are not strong enough to describe them as love.

then in all fairness to him maybe you should say something to that effect?

I told him I wasn't ready to say love.

 

[chrisms]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: chrisms
How old are you? If he got laid for the first time 2 months is relatively short time to have said it. If my first wasn't a one night stand I would've told her within a week had it meant I kept getting some.

Of course now I've matured. Or maybe I haven't.

I'm 25. He is 18.

Hello Mrs. Robinson

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

Over time, feelings grow stronger or weaker. My feelings for him are not strong enough to describe them as love.

then in all fairness to him maybe you should say something to that effect?

I told him I wasn't ready to say love.

Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.