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ryan256

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Originally posted by: SonnyDaze
Ding!! Winnar!! That's most likely what it is he loves.....the sexual experience with you. If he had it with someone else, chances are he would be in love with them.

QFT!! A guys first time can really skew feelings and make him think he's in love. I know it did me. Glad I'm no longer young & naive
 

Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: leftyman
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: leftyman
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: leftyman
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: Scarpozzi
Does he want you to meet his parents? I once had a girl tell me that after 1 date.

As for your situation, I knew I loved my last g/f after only a few weeks. At 2 months, I was pretty sure we'd get hitched, and we did. If you think you could love this guy, hang in there and see if feelings develop. If you don't, break it to him gently and move on to your next conquest. No need in dragging things out and hurting him more by letting his feelings get stronger.

No no, I like him, and want to continue dating him, but I am just not ready to say love.

so your saying you can "grow to love someone" ?

Over time, feelings grow stronger or weaker. My feelings for him are not strong enough to describe them as love.

then in all fairness to him maybe you should say something to that effect?

I told him I wasn't ready to say love.

Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

;)

No, I just told him. Like 10 minutes ago.
 

Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: ryan256
Originally posted by: SonnyDaze
Ding!! Winnar!! That's most likely what it is he loves.....the sexual experience with you. If he had it with someone else, chances are he would be in love with them.

QFT!! A guys first time can really skew feelings and make him think he's in love. I know it did me. Glad I'm no longer young & naive

Hey now, I am a nice guy, and I think he cares for me.
But then again, he never really said "I am in love with you." He said, "I love you."
They are different, right?
 

leftyman

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Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.

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No, I just told him. Like 10 minutes ago.[/quote]


nice way to start a Monday.

really though, explain to him how you feel and also that since you are his first he might be a little confused about his feelings. Tell him to see how he feels in a month...

or run like hell.
 

chambersc

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Originally posted by: chrisms
Why does your sig say "I AM A GUY"?

This thread is going places..

Because the OP always talks about his relationships with other men. As to not confuse anyone or hide his sexuality, he puts that disclaimer in his sig so there isn't that akward reply of "so, wait, you're a guy...who likes other guys......?"
 

Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Why does your sig say "I AM A GUY"?

This thread is going places..

Because I am a guy.

25/2 = 12.5
12.5 + 7 = 19.5

You lose

How is that?

Sitting outside the local high school picking up guys FTL

He goes to the same college as me lol. Yes I started college late.
 

leftyman

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Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Why does your sig say "I AM A GUY"?

This thread is going places..

Because I am a guy.

25/2 = 12.5
12.5 + 7 = 19.5

You lose

How is that?

Sitting outside the local high school picking up guys FTL

where did that come from?
 

2Xtreme21

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Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Why does your sig say "I AM A GUY"?

This thread is going places..

Because I am a guy.

25/2 = 12.5
12.5 + 7 = 19.5

You lose

How is that?

Sitting outside the local high school picking up guys FTL

I think you're grasping for straws here in order to hide something...
 

chrisms

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Originally posted by: leftyman
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Why does your sig say "I AM A GUY"?

This thread is going places..

Because I am a guy.

25/2 = 12.5
12.5 + 7 = 19.5

You lose

How is that?

Sitting outside the local high school picking up guys FTL

where did that come from?


OP is 25 and the other guy is 18.
 

leftyman

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OP is 25 and the other guy is 18.
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yea that is a bit of an age difference, I didnt see that.
 

Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: leftyman
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: chrisms
Why does your sig say "I AM A GUY"?

This thread is going places..

Because I am a guy.

25/2 = 12.5
12.5 + 7 = 19.5

You lose

How is that?

Sitting outside the local high school picking up guys FTL

where did that come from?


OP is 25 and the other guy is 18.

Don't be jealous that attractive 18 year olds still want me...lol.
 

Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: iroast
Puppy love? :)

I think so.
I will talk to him about it in more depth next time I see him.
I would rather talk face to face than via the phone.
 

MacAttack

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Just asking to understand. You are a guy and he is a guy. No experience in that field, but lets see if I have an answer. You were his first sexual experience. He is probably afraid to lose you. He is probably confusing emotions with an erection.

Explain to him you still want the booty call (if that is what you want) and that you are not at the point to say you are in love with him. I bet if he is still getting some, he won't go away.
 

moshquerade

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Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.
sure, it can be normal after 2 months. you just don't care about him as much as he does about you.
 

Zysoclaplem

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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Is that normal after 2 months? I am in no way ready to say I love him. I care about him, but I am not in love. When he said it, I just kind of stared at him, smiled, and I just didn't know what to say.
sure, it can be normal after 2 months. you just don't care about him as much as he does about you.

lol
I am sure I care about him just as much.