Someone once told me what love is. I'll never forget it. Btw...this is not romantic, it's realistic.
Love is a verb. You can love, just like you can run, or you can breathe.... It's a verb....a feeling you get. Now, knowing this, you can get married to someone you don't love. You certainly want to marry someone you at least like. The point is, love sometimes takes a long time to develop. Loving someone should be a feeling you get of familiarity....when you're with the person and you feel comfort in knowing that they are there.
Lust is often mistaken for love and certain lust-driven thinking strengthens emotional bonds....but this is NOT truly love....but can become love.
So, it's ok that you may not feel love right now. Those feelings take time to develop and may not ever develop. To truly have a bond with someone, you have to go through real life situations and know the person....and how they react to situations....and how they respond to you. (physically and otherwise) It's all part of dating. This is one of the reasons I think everyone should have premarital sex, date at least a year before being married, and even live with their S.O. before tying the knot. It makes all the difference in understanding who they are and how you truly feel about them. It kills the newness of relationships that blinds us in the beginning. This is why most relationships last less than 3 months....and without constant contact, go on longer than they should.
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