I am so fvcking mad at my parents.

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: globalstud

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: globalstud

Originally posted by: datalink7

Originally posted by: globalstud

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: globalstud

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
I don't get jack from my parents for college. I have to pay for everything. I have to pay rent. I have to pay for tuition, books, fees, car insurance, gas, etc. I also paid for my private schooling by myself as soon as I was old enough to work for myself. That's $4,000 per year for a 15yr old to earn during the summer and after school.

If you wouldn't blow your money on pot, you might be able to actually pay for things on your own, right?

nik

Stop being a whiny little bitch. I'm honestly sorry. I was a genius growing up and my parents did the same. Skipped grades and they didn't have any money for me either. Suck it up and pay on your own. You'll be prouder in the end.

You talking to me!? Uh... I'm basically saying the same thing you are...

nik

No. I was telling my own story. The heck with yours.

By the way, I saw crap all over your face in a dumpster diving post. Stop trying to rank on people. It has only served to make you look bad here.

lol.. I'd like to point out something in your post...:

"Stop being a whiny little bitch"

Then another thing you just said:

"Stop trying to rank on people. It only served to make you look bad here."

Should have taken your own advice. Now you look like a grade A moron

Why are you taking out information in your quotes? You're another one.

You're the biggest

nik

I don't seem to understand the mentality where amount of posts mean a thing except that you've been here awhile.

I've read the recent posts since I have been here, and FFM looks like a jackass. Sorry if I'm wrong.

Take that back!!! FFM is just using the forum as way to release his inner frustrations. (you'll soon learn that ATOT members never get laid)

The reason we increase our postcount is because for every 1000 you receive a small prize and if you get to 10,000 then you get a free annual computer upgrade for life. Anandtech pays for it by each ad banner refresh. Adds up when you've got thousands of posts an hour.

 

[Soybomb]

Sucks doesn't it? My advice is to economize as best you can and live on campus if possible. I decided to live off campus and sometimes regret it because its so expensive. I work full time and take classes part time. With my living expenses (rent, food, utilities, etc) being about $1000 a month and then tuition and books on top of it, I'm really struggling.

 

[Mloot]

Gemcam has it correct. Go to school on the government's dime, if you have no other way to pay for it and don't want lots of loans. I'm 29 and in my first year of college, but damn me if that GI Bill isn't nice (goes pretty far with community college, then state university). If I had been smarter, I would have gone infantry and gotten the Army College Fund as well. Good luck.

 

[Zenmervolt]

No, he's just one of my Arch Angels, a Smart Ass in training if you will. He still has a lot to learn.

And here I always thought that Nik was one of Russ' Arch Angels.

ZV

 

[wQuay]

I have to pay rent to live at home

That's inexcusable.

 

[Freejack2]

Originally posted by: AmazonRasta
Everybody elses' parents have some money put away for their children so that they can help their son/daughter pay to attend an institue of higher learning (college, university, etc.) after completing high school. My parents don't. I'm left with the whole financial burden of paying for everything - tuition, books, bus fair, etc. On top of that, I have to pay rent to live at home and pay car insurance ($80/month) to drive the car a couple of times a week.

I mean, I understand that school is important and that paying for my own education is a great lesson in learning how to spend my money wisely, but who are my parents to teach me this lesson when they are the ones who can't even spend their own money wisely?! We are on the verge of selling our house and renting an apartment because my parents have racked up so much credit card debt, not to mention the money they owe the government.

Bah, I'm just upset that I'm not having as good as time as everybody else at college who's living on residence, and everybody who is on residence have said that their parents helped them pay for it one way or another.

GET OVER IT

Geez, so your parents are in debt. It's not their job to pay for your college. Just forget it about and get on with living your life. Maybe it won't be as easy financially at first but 4 years will be over like that. After that you'll be making your own money and setting your own rules.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: globalstud

Originally posted by: Yield
flamefest extra-ordinaire..

I don't get it. I've been here a short time and can see ffm thinks he's the GOD of this place.
I read the dumpster and this thread with him in it. That IS the impression I get.

Great. An idiot. My own personal MiniMe. :|

nik

 

[Jfur]

You'll appreciate it more if you have to work for it. I don't see too many people that completely waste their college years if they are paying for it themselves. Be thankful you've had a place to live and food to eat and countless other perks, because there are a lot of people in th U.S. and elsewhere who would LOVE to have it that easy. That said, it sometimes irritates me, too, to hear people whine about petty things when Mommy and Daddy are spoiling them to death and paying an arm and a leg for everything their children want or think they need.

 

[dirtboy]

Well, ah welcome to the real world bud. Everyone's parents don't put money away for school. Mine didn't. Get loans, that's how it works and you'll be a better person for it.

 

[Tallgeese]

All that being said....

My wife and I paid for our first child's enrollment in a state pre-paid tuition plan (two payments) before she was 9 months old.
Because we can (my bonuses and her writing gigs on the side), not because we HAVE to.

Our second child will be the same story (due next Feb. 15).

Will that cover everything? No.
Will we continue to save for other expenses? Yes, as we can, after paying for ALL their needs until they reach age of majority.
Will they be expected to help with other expenses? Yes.

Could something catastrophic happen (illness, accident, extended job loss) before then, where we have to touch that? Lord willing, I hope not, but maybe.

BTW: I'd be VERY interested to know how much of your parents' debt was racked up for YOU.

 

[ChangLi]

Jerboy Jr. I never thought he would have had a chance to procreate myself.

 

[Tallgeese]

Just think...you could end up like my brother-in-law....

34!!!!! and my in-laws STILL pay his frickin bills for him (undergrad, graduate school, including PhD, downpayments wherever he lives, moving expenses, insurance, etc. etc.)
And my wife wonders why I get so bent out of shape if they bring us a gallon of milk (MAN, but a toddler will go through that stuff!) and she doesn't pay them for it.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: stev0
jerboy?

Not Jerboy. The difference here is that Jerboy's parents would pay for his college education, but he'd still find something to whine about (like, say, the lightbulbs in the dorm aren't bright enough). This, while still a whine, has a point: While parents aren't obligated to put their kids through college, it's still "the right thing to do".

My advice: Suck it up and get a job, apply for financial aid, sell your body on the streetcorner. You do what you need to do to survive, and life goes on.

 

[Mucman]

I think the following Henry Rollin's quote comes to mind :

If you hate your parents, the man or the establishment, don't show them up by getting wasted and wrapping your car around a tree. If you really want to rebel against your parents: outearn them, outlive them, and know more than they do.

- Henry Rollins, In Hate

 

[narzy]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

don't get it. I've been here a short time and can see ffm thinks he's the GOD of this place.

No, he's just one of my Arch Angels, a Smart Ass in training if you will. He still has a lot to learn.

how's my training comming red?

 

[SuperSix]

Tough sh!t. Suck it up and deal with it. Not lal parents are perfect, and I'm sure you have no idea about their financial status.

It is not a parent's obligation to put their child through school, they raised you (poorly, judging by your post) for 18+ years. Don't forget that.

 

[Jfur]

You know, I really disagree with the idea that parents SHOULD pay for a college education, a car, or virtually anything after one is old enough to work and has finished high school. If they can help out, that's great. But I find it odd that some people assume that their parents' assets are theirs, that they are *entitled* to inherit property, etc. Call me a hardass but giving people expectations like this leads to a lot of spoiled and lazy people who are not even motivated to find work after their college degree is done. Or feel like they work too hard to make a simple living once things are no longer free. I'M NOT SAYING THAT APPLIES TO ANYONE WHOSE PARENTS BUY THEM THINGS OR HELP WITH SCHOOL, but think about the implications of the entitlement mentality. When did this become the norm?

 

[crab]

The other day I wrote a $500 check to pay my moms electric bill, I pay almost $50/mo for directv for the whole house, I paid $1024 to put our van on the road. I've paid almost $350 in overdraft fees because she cant time deposits and checks worth a sh!t. Lately I've been asking for a ride to Delaware (15 mins) to buy clothes and shoes, but it's too much of a hassle, she hates driving there. I really don't think it's too big of a request, considering she picks my brothers ass up from Mantua (25min each way) a few times a week.

 

[music]

http://www.fafsa.ed.gov - you should have no problems getting student aid.

You could ace the SATs and get an academic scholarship, just like I did. 10 Real SATs (Second Edition)

Your high school counselor should be able to help you in regards to various scholarships available to you.
Pay heed to application deadlines.

 

[StattlichPassat]

Originally posted by: amnesiac 2.0
Ugh, that's rough. Sorry to hear it, man.

EDIT: Don't let this stop your academic desires!!! There's always hope for financial aid, so look into that (someone's probably already mentioned that- not reading the entire thread). The main point I'm trying to get across is GO TO COLLEGE. Find a way. Get a part time job. Go to a junior college for a couple years maybe to get you headway. Just take advantage of this point in your life while you can. Best of luck- you'll be fine if you put your mind to it. Really.

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

Originally posted by: Jfur
You know, I really disagree with the idea that parents SHOULD pay for a college education, a car, or virtually anything after one is old enough to work and has finished high school. If they can help out, that's great. But I find it odd that some people assume that their parents' assets are theirs, that they are *entitled* to inherit property, etc. Call me a hardass but giving people expectations like this leads to a lot of spoiled and lazy people who are not even motivated to find work after their college degree is done. Or feel like they work too hard to make a simple living once things are no longer free. I'M NOT SAYING THAT APPLIES TO ANYONE WHOSE PARENTS BUY THEM THINGS OR HELP WITH SCHOOL, but think about the implications of the entitlement mentality. When did this become the norm?

So parents aren't entitled to get chores out of their kids? Or help & care when they get old and decrepit? You ARE entitled to certain things from your parents, just as parents are entitled certain things from their children. It's part of the nature of the relationship, and it's shameful when one side doesn't even make an effort to deliver.

 

[Jfur]

Originally posted by: Gonad the Barbarian

Originally posted by: Jfur
You know, I really disagree with the idea that parents SHOULD pay for a college education, a car, or virtually anything after one is old enough to work and has finished high school. If they can help out, that's great. But I find it odd that some people assume that their parents' assets are theirs, that they are *entitled* to inherit property, etc. Call me a hardass but giving people expectations like this leads to a lot of spoiled and lazy people who are not even motivated to find work after their college degree is done. Or feel like they work too hard to make a simple living once things are no longer free. I'M NOT SAYING THAT APPLIES TO ANYONE WHOSE PARENTS BUY THEM THINGS OR HELP WITH SCHOOL, but think about the implications of the entitlement mentality. When did this become the norm?

So parents aren't entitled to get chores out of their kids? Or help & care when they get old and decrepit? You ARE entitled to certain things from your parents, just as parents are entitled certain things from their children. It's part of the nature of the relationship, and it's shameful when one side doesn't even make an effort to deliver.

When did going to college (often apparently to get drunk and play computer games all day on the parents' dime) become a right? Parents do enough already rasing you for 18 years -- it takes a huge financial toll as well as a huge amount of time and energy. A lot of people don't even bother to do chores, and fewer and fewer care for aging parents. I'll certainly care for mine when they need help, but it's because I am thankful for their love and care during my childhood (even if they did not send me to college). I don't resent them for it in the least. If parents can and are willing to help, fine. But there is no way they are obligated legally or morally to do so. What are these generations of people who expect that going to do when the real world hits the fan? When the cushy IT jobs they feel entitled to don't come through? When Mom and Dad sell "your" house and go on a trip around the world (not that AmazonRasta's parents did that)?
etc. ad infinitum?

added: if we are doing our jobs as youth, we can do well enough in school to secure scholarships to cover at least part of our education. Or we can take on the burden of small loans. Most of the people who end up doing things like that come out way ahead in terms of work ethic and maturity. once again, I am NOT saying that people who don't work or pay for school at all are necessarily lazy or don't work hard -- it just seems that if you actually have to work for it you'll take it a lot more seriously.

 

[bcmind]

sorry to hear that... but this will only make you stronger... i'm glad that u know college is important and hope you can get through this well.

 

[gopunk]

uh...

well my parents pay for my school, so it's not like i can get all self-righteous and flame you for being a brat.

maybe this is like a cultural thing... most asian families i know pay for their children... but i have a lot of non-asian friends who are amazed that our parents pay for it. asian kids are expected to provide more for their parents when they get old btw, so it's not like it's just a one way street. i dunno, it seems like non-asian families are hella stringy with their money... my family is not rich by any means, but i can never imagine being charged for living here or anything... it wouldn't feel like a family, frankly.

anyways, i can understand how you feel, i think i would be a little irked, seeing everybody else go to college on their parents' money and having to scrape to get by myself.

 

[Linflas]

If you want it you can do it all on your own as you no doubt can see from all the other posts in this thread. I did 4 years in the military to pay for mine and never expected my parents to pay for it. I managed to pay for mine through a combination of the GI Bill, work, and student loans for the last 2 years.