Why don't you go to Europe with her later? Yes, you won't be with your friends, but she would probable like it more than going with you and your friends. Sorry, I got tired of reading so I decided to post. If it's been said before, I second it.
I don't get it, why in the HELL would anyone want to stay in a marriage where a small issue such as this would be enough to end it.
If that is what your relationship is worth to your wife then she has probably already found herself a new man, she just forgot to tell you. No, i am not joking.
I'm gonna have to agree with DAGTA. It'd be great to see Europe, but it would be more fun with my wife. Besides... think of all the cool places you could have sex!
If you WANT to go to Europe rather than be with your wife, I'd say your priorities are mixed up.
This is a bad sign for longevity....
This is a bad sign for longevity....
I have read this time and time again, if you are going to stay married, then do NOT concentrate only on eachother, there is no romantic dream to fulfill, marriage changes nothing.
For longevity, if he goes it IS an extremely good sign, if he stays, he will have to do the same forever, i'd give such a marriage 6 years max.
But hey, what do i know, i am divorced and have had more girfriends than your girlfriends have dreamed of.
doh, didn't you see the thread on www.nomarriage.com !!
Tell her you are going to scope it out and then you will have to take her again (maybe next Thanksgiving?)
ps - just leave out all the sex shops and strip clubs
(well, you did say you were a noob
)
Tell her you are going to scope it out and then you will have to take her again (maybe next Thanksgiving?)
ps - just leave out all the sex shops and strip clubs
(well, you did say you were a noob
)You go now and I expect she'll hold that against you for a while (if not longer?)...
You don't go then thanksgivings gonna be longgggg for you...
You've really dug a deep grave here mate.
But there's one thing I will say - *talk to her about it!*
You don't go then thanksgivings gonna be longgggg for you...
You've really dug a deep grave here mate.
But there's one thing I will say - *talk to her about it!*
Originally posted by: Klixxer
Originally posted by: Doboji
Originally posted by: toekramp
i'll let her know, she'll probably want a resume/pics/crime record...
You know what the really smart compromise is?... Get her a ticket to fly out for the weekend... meet her in venice or something... bring diamonds... accomplish freedom, friends, and romance all at the same time....
-Max
Now that is a great idea, if you got the dough for it.
I can't see leaving my wife at home during the holidays to take a trip with other people. Where is irrelevant.
You need to stay home.
You need to stay home.
stay with her... you wouldn't be able to enjoy europe with the guilt/anger awaiting you
you won't be able to enjoy tday at home knowing you could be in europe
all in all, same level of happiness, but home costs less than europe
stay home and hit it (this advise is given everytime someone posts pics
you won't be able to enjoy tday at home knowing you could be in europe
all in all, same level of happiness, but home costs less than europe
stay home and hit it (this advise is given everytime someone posts pics
Whereas I am very happily married for many years now.
Yes, you need some time to yourselves now and then, but leaving for a long period of time over a holiday, choosing friends and adventure over the wife, is NOT a good thing.
You don't concentrate ONLY on each other, but if they're not your first or second priority you'll soon be finding that family breaking apart. I've encountered many a boss who say that job should be your #1 priority. It's little wonder they're bitter, depressed and divorced. Every one of 'em.
my family is #1 priority. Yes I'll have some "me" time, but the happiness of my family is extremely important - and that goes FAR beyond providing them with material posessions while I run off to work barely acknowledging their presence.
Originally posted by: bluemax
Whereas I am very happily married for many years now.
Yes, you need some time to yourselves now and then, but leaving for a long period of time over a holiday, choosing friends and adventure over the wife, is NOT a good thing.
You don't concentrate ONLY on each other, but if they're not your first or second priority you'll soon be finding that family breaking apart. I've encountered many a boss who say that job should be your #1 priority. It's little wonder they're bitter, depressed and divorced. Every one of 'em.
my family is #1 priority. Yes I'll have some "me" time, but the happiness of my family is extremely important - and that goes FAR beyond providing them with material posessions while I run off to work barely acknowledging their presence.
It depends, he wants to go and if she is stopping him from going then that isn't a good thing.
My family is my number one priority too, i had to fight for a long time for my kids and i will never regret that, i am not bitter about anything, quite the contrary actually, i wouldn't want to be without the experiences i have had and i learned a lot from being married, the no1 thing being that marriage is not for me.
If you want to go on a trip to europe and your wife can't come because whe has to work, do you sit at home like a good little hubby and wait for her to come home or do you go to Europe and party with your friends? I don't think the choice is all that hard.
many people have the expectation that Thanksgiving=family time.
If my dad went to europe for thanksgiving without my mom, i would think it was weird.
I would talk to your wife about her expectations on this holiday.
If my dad went to europe for thanksgiving without my mom, i would think it was weird.
I would talk to your wife about her expectations on this holiday.
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