Hubby can't get over wife's past

[Fanatical Meat]

Nobody has noticed "made between 10 & 20 porn's" I can understand a big name losing count but 10-20 come on. How much coke was done.
I agree with Abbey she has the correct point.

 

[PingSpike]

Kind of shitty she didn't tell him before she got married. I mean we're in the internet era, he was probably going to find out eventually. Its like she was just betting he wouldn't bail on the marriage after he was invested in it, and she's probably right. Maybe he told her he didn't look at porn! (LOL) And she believed him! (LOL)

I think he'll probably get over it if the marriage is otherwise solid...but man 10-20 is kind of a lot of videos!

 

[BoomerD]

He's probably just jealous that she's had bigger dicks inside her (and in all the holes) than he can give her...

 

[Jaskalas]

So like... he met this woman... and she wasn't a virgin. OMFGWTFBBQ?!?!

Get the !@#$ over it, man. Unless she gave him an STD.

 

[Vdubchaos]

This has a lot to do with trust and lying than what was actually done.

I don't want to know ANYTHING about a woman's past outside of the following things:
- did you do porn/nudes
- do you have STDs

Everything else, I would prefer not to know.

So I can relate to this guy. If my wife was to tell me she was a porn star that would hurt a lot and i'm not really sure what I would do.

 

[Fritzo]

That guy's an idiot. You WANT a woman with experience and who's willing to do that kind of stuff. Otherwise you're stuck with a prude that doesn't know what to do.

If you want things done right, you always go with the experienced candidate

 

[Vdubchaos]

That guy's an idiot. You WANT a woman with experience and who's willing to do that kind of stuff. Otherwise you're stuck with a prude that doesn't know what to do.

If you want things done right, you always go with the experienced candidate

Has nothing to do with that.

Everything to do with her doing sexual acts and body being exposed for anyone to see.I'm sure there is bigger sluts out there than porn stars (that's a given).

And most importantly, TRUST.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

That guy's an idiot. You WANT a woman with experience and who's willing to do that kind of stuff. Otherwise you're stuck with a prude that doesn't know what to do.

If you want things done right, you always go with the experienced candidate

News Flash: Porn isn't sex. Far from it actually. Just like any other movie you pop in - it's 95% acting.

The fact that a girl has fucked a lot of different men isn't appealing in the least, either. I'd rather she be a sex fiend with 1-3 ex's instead of slutting it out with many many partners.

 

[sixone]

Has nothing to do with that.

Everything to do with her doing sexual acts and body being exposed for anyone to see.I'm sure there is bigger sluts out there than porn stars (that's a given).

And most importantly, TRUST.

Not exactly. She wasn't doing those things when they met, or while they were together. She's made it clear that she regrets it, but there's nothing she can do to change it.

The only thing that's changed here is that he knows about it. I hope he gets some professional help to deal with this.

 

[iamwiz82]

Could have been solo vids...

 

[Blackjack200]

Good to see that the ATOT Mujahideen is out in full force.

OMG, a woman... had... SEX!!!

/rage

 

[Vdubchaos]

Not exactly. She wasn't doing those things when they met, or while they were together. She's made it clear that she regrets it, but there's nothing she can do to change it.

The only thing that's changed here is that he knows about it. I hope he gets some professional help to deal with this.

Not exactly.

She should've been up front and honest with him before they got married. Did she really think he wouldn't find out in the future?

Sometimes, withholding certain information from your partner is as bad as lying.

She was dishonest about it. If that happened to me it would probably be a deal breaker.

 

[blankslate]

They should watch them together I think that guy's head would explode.

Nice.... lol

 

[sixone]

Not exactly.

She should've been up front and honest with him before they got married. Did she really think he wouldn't find out in the future?

Sometimes, withholding certain information from your partner is as bad as lying.

She was dishonest about it. If that happened to me it would probably be a deal breaker.

Yes, she should have told him. But while we're doing the coulda woulda shoulda, she shouldn't have done porn in the first place. By the time she met him, there was nothing she could do to change the past.

He's got to deal with what IS, not what should have been. And what IS, is that she's still the same person he fell in love with and married. She hasn't done anything wrong, since they've been together. That should be his first consideration.

 

[Vdubchaos]

Yes, she should have told him. But while we're doing the coulda woulda shoulda, she shouldn't have done porn in the first place. By the time she met him, there was nothing she could do to change the past.

He's got to deal with what IS, not what should have been. And what IS, is that she's still the same person he fell in love with and married. She hasn't done anything wrong, since they've been together. That should be his first consideration.

Put yourself in his shoes. And let's say he had Aids.

"How would you deal with what IS? He is still the same person you fell in love with and married. He hasn't done anything wrong, since you've been together. That should be your first consideration."

Sorry, but I don't agree. Trust has been broken.

Rule #1 of porn is, once you do it, finding intimate partner is next to impossible (you basically give it up for LIFE). She knew this and never cared to share the info with her loved one. She lied, simple as that.

And no she is NOT the same person he fell in love with. Cause chances are he would've never fell in love with her or broke with her if she was honest with him.

 

[MarkXIX]

News Flash: Porn isn't sex. Far from it actually. Just like any other movie you pop in - it's 95% acting.

The fact that a girl has fucked a lot of different men isn't appealing in the least, either. I'd rather she be a sex fiend with 1-3 ex's instead of slutting it out with many many partners.

How do you know it wasn't 10-20 videos with the same "actors"? More research is required to make an informed decision I think...:whiste:

 

[CPA]

sorry, but he is exhibiting irrational behavior.

What's to say she wouldn't have had sex with that many guys without doing in front of a camera. Would that piss him off just as much?

 

[CPA]

Put yourself in his shoes. And let's say he had Aids.

"How would you deal with what IS? He is still the same person you fell in love with and married. He hasn't done anything wrong, since you've been together. That should be your first consideration."

Sorry, but I don't agree. Trust has been broken.

Rule #1 of porn is, once you do it, finding intimate partner is next to impossible (you basically give it up for LIFE). She knew this and never cared to share the info with her loved one. She lied, simple as that.

And no she is NOT the same person he fell in love with. Cause chances are he would've never fell in love with her or broke with her if she was honest with him.

Oh, BS. First, AIDS can kill you. Marrying a prior porn actress (who doesn't have AIDS) won't. So, your analogy is not a good one.

Second, have you done some type of analysis on the ability of porn stars to find lasting relationships? You might be surprised to know that many porn stars are married.

 

[Hugo Drax]

So she sucked 1.23x10^11 penis to break the world record but that was the past. :biggrin:

 

[KeithP]

I am curious what is the bigger problem for him, that she did the movies or she hid it from him?

Personally, if I was in his position the biggest problem I would have is how this is going to affect my child. As she/he gets older, I would think there is a real chance their friends will find out about this and kids can be brutal.

No matter how much I loved someone, I don't know that I would knowingly expose my child to that risk. The woman, by hiding her past, made that decision for him. I am not sure I could ever get over that.

If children weren't involved I could get over it unfortunately that isn't the case. Of course those same kids now have an emotional attachment to her. Definitely not a good situation and it is much more complex then the bulk of the ATOT crew seems to grasp.

-KeithP

 

[mztykal]

Everyone's assuming it was just a few guys...maybe she did gangbangs and he found it that way. That would kill almost anyone's state of mind lol

 

[Blackjack200]

Rule #1 of porn is, once you do it, finding intimate partner is next to impossible (you basically give it up for LIFE). She knew this and never cared to share the info with her loved one. She lied, simple as that.

lol, must be nice to have the "Rules of Porn" on hand. I dare you to start a thread with a poll asking which men on this forum would start a relationship with a woman if they knew that she had down 10-20 porn videos seven years prior. I bet you get over 90%.

 

[Blackjack200]

Everyone's assuming it was just a few guys...maybe she did gangbangs and he found it that way. That would kill almost anyone's state of mind lol

There's usually a porn trajectory where stars have to do more and more extreme things to keep getting work. I doubt a woman that did 10-20 videos was doing gangbangs.

 

[Fanatical Meat]

Everyone's assuming it was just a few guys...maybe she did gangbangs and he found it that way. That would kill almost anyone's state of mind lol

interesting point massive gang bangs were pretty popular back then.
Seriously this really wouldn't bother me now, when I was younger yes it would have bothered me but not now.

 

[Insomniator]

interesting point massive gang bangs were pretty popular back then.
Seriously this really wouldn't bother me now, when I was younger yes it would have bothered me but not now.

I hope i get to age where I wouldn't care about something like this. Now though, get outta here.


Put it this way --- if your friends could pull up videos of your wife on the internet at will how would you feel? 'Its in the past' so its ok?