how to let the Marines down gently

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Dragoon42

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Originally posted by: mcveigh
well since you you don't have the balls to tell them straight out because your girlfriend has total control of your dick I'd say it's a good thing you're not joing My Corps
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Originally posted by: aidanjm
Originally posted by: chambersc
i went in for information today because i'm interested in joining (I would get my pick of jobs since my preliminary asvab scores show me having a high score) but my family (gf and mom) are incredibly adament on me not joining. i feel like scum for putting them first but in there here and now they are important to me and thus I listen to them. how do i tell the recruiting office that I can't join because my gf is incredibly important to me and I have plans to work in DC but not in the millitary? i feel like im kicking my country in the nuts.
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Just let them know that you believe in full equality for all people, and until the marines allow gay service men and women to serve, you cannot in good conscience join their organization.

You may also want to consider letting your girlfriend know that you cannot in good conscience get married, until the institution is fully opened up to same-sex couples. To marry with the rules as they are now would simply be endorsing the status quo.
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Go fsk yourself.
 
judasmachine

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tell them NO. i once went to enlist in the army national guard, and my dad talked me out of it, and i just told the recruiter that i couldn't for family reasons. he shook my hand and said he understood. i may have gotten the only cool recruiter in the world but that's what happened.

oh and i had only taken the prelim asvab, and started in on the background check. i hadn't really signed anything official at that point.
 
Saint Nick

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Originally posted by: chambersc
i went in for information today because i'm interested in joining (I would get my pick of jobs since my preliminary asvab scores show me having a high score) but my family (gf and mom) are incredibly adament on me not joining. i feel like scum for putting them first but in there here and now they are important to me and thus I listen to them. how do i tell the recruiting office that I can't join because my gf is incredibly important to me and I have plans to work in DC but not in the millitary? i feel like im kicking my country in the nuts.
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I just told the recruiter that I wasn't interested right now and that I had a lot going for me (college, girlfriend) and that I don't want to give that up. He understood.
 
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b0mbrman

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Recruiters get told, "no" all the time. As sad as they act, you won't be breaking their hearts
 
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dopcombo

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Why would you want to join the MARINES (capital M or capital wholething?)
Why not join the air force or the army? Why Marines specifically?

If you want to protect your country, why not join the coast guard and stop drug dealers bringing drugs? Or join the police force and stop crime? Or become a fireman and save lives?

What is the inherent interest in becoming a marine?
 
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darkswordsman17

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Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Recruiters get told, "no" all the time. As sad as they act, you won't be breaking their hearts
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Yep. Make absolutely sure that they know you're not looking to join the military at this time, otherwise they will hound you. Just tell them sorry for wasting their time but you've decided something else is right for you at this point in your life.
 
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chambersc

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Originally posted by: darkswordsman17
Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Recruiters get told, "no" all the time. As sad as they act, you won't be breaking their hearts
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Yep. Make absolutely sure that they know you're not looking to join the military at this time, otherwise they will hound you. Just tell them sorry for wasting their time but you've decided something else is right for you at this point in your life.
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Sounds the best option so far. Thanks.
 
TallBill

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No offense, but when you join the military, you make the decision as a grown man. Sure, family factors into it, but its one hell of a decision, and its for YOU only.

If you dont join, you will always regret it. No need to explain things to anyone.

<-- Sgt, US Army

 
TallBill

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Originally posted by: aidanjm

Just let them know that you believe in full equality for all people, and until the marines allow gay service men and women to serve, you cannot in good conscience join their organization.

You may also want to consider letting your girlfriend know that you cannot in good conscience get married, until the institution is fully opened up to same-sex couples. To marry with the rules as they are now would simply be endorsing the status quo.
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That was a great laugh. Guess its morally wrong to birth children then too :p Oh wait, thats nature's design to extend the species.

By the way, the military does allow gays to serve, so choose your wording a little bit better.
 
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chambersc

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Originally posted by: TallBill
Originally posted by: aidanjm

Just let them know that you believe in full equality for all people, and until the marines allow gay service men and women to serve, you cannot in good conscience join their organization.

You may also want to consider letting your girlfriend know that you cannot in good conscience get married, until the institution is fully opened up to same-sex couples. To marry with the rules as they are now would simply be endorsing the status quo.
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That was a great laugh. Guess its morally wrong to birth children then too :p Oh wait, thats nature's design to extend the species.

By the way, the military does allow gays to serve, so choose your wording a little bit better.
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but only if they don't know you're gay.
 
TallBill

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Originally posted by: EatSpam
Originally posted by: Captante
Originally posted by: SampSon
Tell them "no thanks", and that's it.

Also, don't fall for their bs about you "getting your pick of jobs". Give me a break, you have one destination, the middle east with a gun in hand.
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Truer words were never spoken ... I'd strongly suggest not joining the Marines or the Army right now unless you want to go & die in the middle east.
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Fixed.
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Every single day that passes I think about heading over there. I cant fvcking wait to head over there and give it my best. Roughly 150 days till I get to do just that.

We all end up with our small plot of land. Might as well earn it.
 
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The official JOB of the recruiter is to make you feel bad about telling him no. He is paid to make you WANT to join. DO NOT feel bad if you are not interested in joining now. Now is a bad time to join. There is approximately a 1/100 chance of getting killed if you join the military right now. If you want that, join. If not, don't feel bad, and know that the recruiter doesn't feel "bad" either.

Comprendo?
 
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