how to let the Marines down gently

chambersc

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i went in for information today because i'm interested in joining (I would get my pick of jobs since my preliminary asvab scores show me having a high score) but my family (gf and mom) are incredibly adament on me not joining. i feel like scum for putting them first but in there here and now they are important to me and thus I listen to them. how do i tell the recruiting office that I can't join because my gf is incredibly important to me and I have plans to work in DC but not in the millitary? i feel like im kicking my country in the nuts.

**Update 3/16
They came to my house! Woke me up at 11:30 and asked if I was ready to drive down to Miami to take the ASVAB. I sat down and explained that right now I'm not ready to commit to the Marines due to certain mitigating factors. In all honesty, I wish I could have conveyed to them how much I would like to join but it's not my decision. What one would consider as being soft, I look at as respect. I respect my GF's (future wife) decision and I have to convince her it's the right thing to do. She is understanding what this means for us and will come around by the time I'll be ready to enlist (roughly December of '07).

For those pointing out that I'm naive to think that once enlisted I won'tbe shipped out to Iraq/Afghanistan I would suggest that you research your facts. In every facet of the millitary there are HUNDREDS of jobs each section from which you pick from (infact the Marines have 348 roughly jobs to pick from). Only a handful are infantry related.

The job that I was going to do (and will eventually) involes being issued a top-secret security clearance and then having the Marines fly me around the country issuing top-secret clearances to those who qualify. Don't automatically assume that I or the millitary are composed of morons who are blood-thirsty.
 

djheater

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Originally posted by: chambersc
i went in for information today because i'm interested in joining (I would get my pick of jobs since my preliminary asvab scores show me having a high score) but my family (gf and mom) are incredibly adament on me not joining. i feel like scum for putting them first but in there here and now they are important to me and thus I listen to them. how do i tell the recruiting office that I can't join because my gf is incredibly important to me and I have plans to work in DC but not in the millitary? i feel like im kicking my country in the nuts.

If it's that important to you, do it.


...either way...
 

K1052

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Just say you aren't interested in joining at this time.
 

mcveigh

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well since you you don't have the balls to tell them straight out because your girlfriend has total control of your dick I'd say it's a good thing you're not joing My Corps
 

chambersc

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Originally posted by: mcveigh
well since you you don't have the balls to tell them straight out because your girlfriend has total control of your dick I'd say it's a good thing you're not joing My Corps

yeah, i know.
 

djheater

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You can take with you the fact that a Marine was recently fired from my place of employment for sexual harassment. Police escort and everything.
 

Viper GTS

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You're worried about letting them down gently?

The hard part is getting them to stop harassing you, they are VERY persistent.

Viper GTS
 

SampSon

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Tell them "no thanks", and that's it.

Also, don't fall for their bs about you "getting your pick of jobs". Give me a break, you have one destination, the middle east with a gun in hand.
 

K1052

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Originally posted by: Viper GTS
You're worried about letting them down gently?

The hard part is getting them to stop harassing you, they are VERY persistent.

Viper GTS

That's what everyone says, though I managed to ward them off in one phone call when I was 17.:confused:
 

Captante

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Originally posted by: SampSon
Tell them "no thanks", and that's it.

Also, don't fall for their bs about you "getting your pick of jobs". Give me a break, you have one destination, the middle east with a gun in hand.

Truer words were never spoken ... I'd strongly suggest not joining the Marines or the Army right now unless you want to go & fight in the middle east.
 

jadinolf

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Originally posted by: mcveigh
well since you you don't have the balls to tell them straight out because your girlfriend has total control of your dick I'd say it's a good thing you're not joing My Corps

For sure. :(
 

tweakmm

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Originally posted by: K1052
Originally posted by: Viper GTS
You're worried about letting them down gently?

The hard part is getting them to stop harassing you, they are VERY persistent.

Viper GTS

That's what everyone says, though I managed to ward them off in one phone call when I was 17.:confused:
It took me two.
The first time I listened to what the man said for a while then said something along the lines of, "No sir, I am not interesting in joining the armed forces."
The second and last time they called on some Saturday around noon, my mom called into my room, woke me up and told me that I had a phone call. I answered the phone and as soon as they said that they were from the recruting office, I said something along the lines of "do you have any idea what time it is," in a very tired sounding voice and hung up.
Never heard from them since. :laugh:
 

aidanjm

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Originally posted by: chambersc
i went in for information today because i'm interested in joining (I would get my pick of jobs since my preliminary asvab scores show me having a high score) but my family (gf and mom) are incredibly adament on me not joining. i feel like scum for putting them first but in there here and now they are important to me and thus I listen to them. how do i tell the recruiting office that I can't join because my gf is incredibly important to me and I have plans to work in DC but not in the millitary? i feel like im kicking my country in the nuts.

Just let them know that you believe in full equality for all people, and until the marines allow gay service men and women to serve, you cannot in good conscience join their organization.

You may also want to consider letting your girlfriend know that you cannot in good conscience get married, until the institution is fully opened up to same-sex couples. To marry with the rules as they are now would simply be endorsing the status quo.
 

aidanjm

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Originally posted by: djheater
You can take with you the fact that a Marine was recently fired from my place of employment for sexual harassment. Police escort and everything.

what dya expect? it's a very sexist & homophobic
 

skrilla

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Originally posted by: Viper GTS
You're worried about letting them down gently?

The hard part is getting them to stop harassing you, they are VERY persistent.

Viper GTS

Exactly.

I wouldn't worry about how to tell it to them. They will probably want to arrange a sit down with the Mom and GF anyway, so they can convince them that this is a good choice for you.

Just tell them something came up and you are not interested, you will contact them.

 

dartworth

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Originally posted by: mcveigh
well since you you don't have the balls to tell them straight out because your girlfriend has total control of your dick I'd say it's a good thing you're not joing My Corps



ouch...
 

EatSpam

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Originally posted by: Captante
Originally posted by: SampSon
Tell them "no thanks", and that's it.

Also, don't fall for their bs about you "getting your pick of jobs". Give me a break, you have one destination, the middle east with a gun in hand.

Truer words were never spoken ... I'd strongly suggest not joining the Marines or the Army right now unless you want to go & die in the middle east.

Fixed.
 

Conky

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Just tell them you are no longer interested. Now is not a good time to join the military unless you are tired of living.
 

chambersc

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Originally posted by: dartworth
Originally posted by: mcveigh
well since you you don't have the balls to tell them straight out because your girlfriend has total control of your dick I'd say it's a good thing you're not joing My Corps



ouch...

the truth hurts.