How much to give for a wedding...

[TrueBlueLS]

Okay... so I still haven't figured out how much I'm going to write the check out for. I'm going to a wedding for a couple that's in the car club I just got accepted into about 4 months ago. What do you think is a respectable amount to give?

 

[blackdogdeek]

do you know the place they're having the wedding? are you going by yourself? i would think $100 is ok if you're going by yourself.

 

[Dacalo]

$100 sounds reasonable

 

[AstIsis]

Any amount is usually appreciated but start from $30 if you don't know them very well.

 

[optoman]

We got married last year and I can tell you some people are cheap. The average cost per person for our wedding was around $100. We got anywhere from $200 to $25 per person back. That's from people who didn't give us gifts. We had one couple give us a candle, yes a candle that cost about $15. :|

Please give atleast $100 per person. If you know the wedding costs more or less then adjust accordingly. There are some people that can't afford to give much and we understood that but those people actually were giving more than most people at our wedding. The cheap people people were the ones that have money but won't part with it.

BTW - Our wedding cost around $20K but we made it back with the combination of presents and cash.

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: optoman
We got married last year and I can tell you some people are cheap. The average cost per person for our wedding was around $100. We got anywhere from $200 to $25 per person back. That's from people who didn't give us gifts. We had one couple give us a candle, yes a candle that cost about $15. :|

Please give atleast $100 per person. If you know the wedding costs more or less then adjust accordingly. There are some people that can't afford to give much and we understood that but those people actually were giving more than most people at our wedding. The cheap people people were the ones that have money but won't part with it.

BTW - Our wedding cost around $20K but we made it back with the combination of presents and cash.

Funny...I didn't think the concept of wedding gifts was so the bride/groom (and family) could 'recoup' their costs.



If you don't want to put on a large and expensive wedding, well, then don't!

 

[mAdD INDIAN]

Originally posted by: optoman
We got married last year and I can tell you some people are cheap. The average cost per person for our wedding was around $100. We got anywhere from $200 to $25 per person back. That's from people who didn't give us gifts. We had one couple give us a candle, yes a candle that cost about $15. :|

Please give atleast $100 per person. If you know the wedding costs more or less then adjust accordingly. There are some people that can't afford to give much and we understood that but those people actually were giving more than most people at our wedding. The cheap people people were the ones that have money but won't part with it.

BTW - Our wedding cost around $20K but we made it back with the combination of presents and cash.

$20k!!! :Q :Q :Q

Wow...I knew they were expensive, but not that expensive.

 

[NutBucket]

I gave friends of mine $100 and then about another $100 in gifts. As has been suggested, my dad says you want to try to give enough to pay for your plate so to speak. I know for these friends I didn't but they have rich parents so its not too bad I know, I know, bad of me to say that but really, they aren't spoiled.

 

[TrueBlueLS]

Well all of us are mostly in our early 20s and going to school which is the fun part.

 

[Taggart]

Originally posted by: optoman

The cheap people people were the ones that have money but won't part with it.

Exactly. One of the most important traits of the typical financially independent person is frugal spending habits!

 

[ryzmah]

I would say $50, but I wouldn't give cash - give them something that they might remember. If you don't know them very well, get them a gift certificate that will cover dinner for two at a nice area restaurant - how much that is will depend on where you live.

 

[xirtam]

If they have money, it's naturally because they won't part with it. What's wrong with that?

 

[toant103]

$105

 

[AstIsis]

Originally posted by: Taggart

Originally posted by: optoman

The cheap people people were the ones that have money but won't part with it.

Exactly. One of the most important traits of the typical financially independent person is frugal spending habits!

It really does depend on who I am giving it to. My housekeeper was married last month and I gave her $500. Then again, she has been cleaning my house for 2 years, does a wonderful job and they are a really nice couple.

 

[Gaard]

My niece is getting married in two weeks. This is what their wedding present is...a toaster. Yes, a toaster! I hope they at least take it out of the box before they return it.. Inside one of the four slots is a bundle of twenty-five $2 bills. Inside another is an identical stack. Inside another is an envelope containing 2 tickets to the local opera house (the envelope is addressed to him ). Inside the last slot is an envelope containg 2 tickets to a local minor league ballgame...West Michigan Whitecaps (addressed to her ).

 

[conjur]

Originally posted by: Gaard
My niece is getting married in two weeks. This is what their wedding present is...a toaster. Yes, a toaster! I hope they at least take it out of the box before they return it.. Inside one of the four slots is a bundle of twenty-five $2 bills. Inside another is an identical stack. Inside another is an envelope containing 2 tickets to the local opera house (the envelope is addressed to him ). Inside the last slot is an envelope containg 2 tickets to a local minor league ballgame...West Michigan Whitecaps (addressed to her ).

I'd be sure to mention a little surprise inside the box...otherwise they just *might* return it unopened!! :Q

 

[Yossarian]

Originally posted by: optoman
We got married last year and I can tell you some people are cheap. The average cost per person for our wedding was around $100. We got anywhere from $200 to $25 per person back. That's from people who didn't give us gifts. We had one couple give us a candle, yes a candle that cost about $15. :|.

Wow you have an awful, ungrateful attitude. Let me guess, you also had the stupid "dollar dances" with the bride. You should have just billed everyone who attended if the monetary value of the gifts meant that much to you.

 

[Mr N8]

Someone gave my wife and I a check for $18.23. We knew he was cheap, but when we saw that we didn't stop laughing for a long time.

 

[MattCo]

Yup, what everyone forgets is that it is a wedding GIFT, not price of admission to the wedding. I would think $20-$30 would be just fine if you didn't know them well. I am getting married in 3 weeks and the gifts have ranged from $20 - $200 and every one of them are special because someone gave them to us by their own free choice. We are paying for our own wedding and it is expensive but that is not what the gifts are for.


Anyone bitching about someone not giving them an expensive enough gift is selfish.

-MC

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: optoman
We got married last year and I can tell you some people are cheap. The average cost per person for our wedding was around $100. We got anywhere from $200 to $25 per person back. That's from people who didn't give us gifts. We had one couple give us a candle, yes a candle that cost about $15. :|

Please give atleast $100 per person. If you know the wedding costs more or less then adjust accordingly. There are some people that can't afford to give much and we understood that but those people actually were giving more than most people at our wedding. The cheap people people were the ones that have money but won't part with it.

BTW - Our wedding cost around $20K but we made it back with the combination of presents and cash.

Why did you spend 20k on a WEDDING? If you had 200 people at your wedding then you HAD to know that many people are not going to give you 100$ worth of anything back. I can't see how a 200 person wedding costs 20k anyways. How elaborate was it?

 

[iamwiz82]

We will end up giving $50 to my cousin who is getting married next month, i'm too poor to give more.

 

[FeathersMcGraw]

Originally posted by: optoman

Please give atleast $100 per person. If you know the wedding costs more or less then adjust accordingly.

That's a ridiculously money-grubbing attitude. If you want to throw a big, fancy wedding, then may you and your spouse have many happy memories from it, but to expect guests to pony up based on your budget is ridiculous.

I give presents based on my relationship to the recipient; I'd give something pricey to a dear friend even if they had a modest ceremony, and I'd give something less expensive to a casual acquaintance, even assuming I was invited (and why would I be, if I didn't know them that well, unless they were fishing for presents?) to a big, swanky ceremony.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: MogulMonster
Someone gave my wife and I a check for $18.23. We knew he was cheap, but when we saw that we didn't stop laughing for a long time.

LOL,That is too funny!

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: optoman
We got married last year and I can tell you some people are cheap. The average cost per person for our wedding was around $100. We got anywhere from $200 to $25 per person back. That's from people who didn't give us gifts. We had one couple give us a candle, yes a candle that cost about $15. :|

Please give atleast $100 per person. If you know the wedding costs more or less then adjust accordingly. There are some people that can't afford to give much and we understood that but those people actually were giving more than most people at our wedding. The cheap people people were the ones that have money but won't part with it.

BTW - Our wedding cost around $20K but we made it back with the combination of presents and cash.

PEOPLE DON'T HAVE TO GIVE ANYTHING! Its given as a gift. Be happy with anything they can give to you, don't get all upset. When its their turn, they'll only expect about the same from you.

When people give you lots of money or an expensive gift, then you have to worry about when its their turn. You'll have to repay it so it doesn't matter what you get, it'll just go back in the end.

 

[melly]

the rule of thumb is to cover the cost of your dinner.