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How many dates before $ex?

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Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Originally posted by: Eghck
Originally posted by: toekramp
3 dates or so
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yeah I would say 3 or 4 as well, of course there are exceptions...
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I hope you filthy people get tested for disease.

I would say at minimum 3 or 4 months, not dates.

If a girl tried to get in my pants on the 3rd date I would dump her ass. Why? Think of how many dudes she's slept with. Disgusting.
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In reality though.....very few dudes have enough game to seal the deal by the 3rd date so really you'd be surprised. There are very few guy sskilled with women....this means that a woman may only date a competent man only a handful of times in her life at most. But there are certain signs that a girl is a straight ho so....watch out for that too.
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
Only seeing a girl 3 or 4 times is just too early for me. It takes the fun out of it.
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fun to me isnt waiting months only to find out she's a dead fish in bed.
 
Originally posted by: Soccerman06
Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Assuming of course that you could ever get a girl to date you...:laugh:
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I was waiting for that comment. But the fact remains that I am constantly hit on by girls wherever I go.
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Dude, whenever someone says something like that, everybody knows your talking bullshit. Just admit that you havent gotten past 2nd base and no one will make fun of you...much.
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Fixed.
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: spidey07
3rd date rule.

live it, love it, learn it.
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I'd have to agree. If your not smashing by date 3.....u suck move on.

But on that note you must at least make out briefly on date 2 to be able to seal the deal on date 3 effectively.
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ayep.

Let's face it, if you're not having sex by the 3rd date the relationship probably isn't going to go anywhere.
 
Originally posted by: ggnl


I think there's a distinction to be made between dating for sex/entertainment and dating for building a relationship. If you intend to build a relationship with the woman, then you're probably not looking for a woman that wants the guy to take action by the third date. Along those same lines, the "easy" woman is probably not looking for a guy like you who is going to take his sweet time giving her what she wants.
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This girl definitely falls into the catagory of "dating for building a relationship." Like I said, I've been separated for 9 months and have had some fun during this time but this is the first girl that I could actually see myself with in a committed relationship. And I'm pretty sure she feels the same way. She's 27, never married, done the dating scene for a while and looking for something substantial or something that could develop into that. I'd like to believe she would be totally fine with waiting beyond the 3rd date. We're going out on Thursday and I just can't even fathom sleeping with her yet. Not that it wouldn't be great but I just like her too much and don't want to add that dynamic to our relationship yet.

 
Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Originally posted by: Eghck
Im not sure I understand what you're saying, but Im not here to brag...

Im mainly saying just because it could be that way in one case, doesn't mean its always the case. A few of my girl friends have only had 1 or 2 partners, but they had sex maybe around the 5th date. I wouldn't call them sluts for that...
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You implied they may not give it up on the 3rd date with other guys, but with you they would.

But you need to use logic. If the person in questino gives it up on the 3rd date, obviously that's not the first time they've given it up that early.

Ask them about it? If you've only dated this person a few times, how do you know they're telling the truth? You don't.
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you have alot of hang ups about this. you come off very insecure. You should explore this some more and owrk it out.
 
If I had my way, I'd wait 3-4 months at least before having sex with her.

By my wife (who was my girlfriend at the time) wanted to have after two weeks...... arrrg.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: gigapet
Originally posted by: spidey07
3rd date rule.

live it, love it, learn it.
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I'd have to agree. If your not smashing by date 3.....u suck move on.

But on that note you must at least make out briefly on date 2 to be able to seal the deal on date 3 effectively.
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ayep.

Let's face it, if you're not having sex by the 3rd date the relationship probably isn't going to go anywhere.
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but but but maybe if we are friends long enough and shower her with enough gifts and attention she will one day be attracted to me!!!! :roll:
 
Originally posted by: radioouman
If I had my way, I'd wait 3-4 months at least before having sex with her.

By my wife (who was my girlfriend at the time) wanted to have after two weeks...... arrrg.
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what a bitch!
 
Originally posted by: gigapet
but but but maybe if we are friends long enough and shower her with enough gifts and attention she will one day be attracted to me!!!! :roll:
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Or if I don't make a move to have sex with her for months on end she will respect me and like me even more!!

Nope, that's not how it works. She'll think you're a pushover pansy.
 
my currewnr girlfriend im with, we have been together 2 years this march. We waited 3 months before we had sex. I dunno why most of you guys want to rush into sex so bad? I rather wait and have a very good relationship with the women. Besides I dont need so women claiming i got her pregnet and wants child support money.
 
This is a really tricky one - I'm in a very similar situation myself. Met a new girl for the first time two weeks ago. We are definitely taking things slowly - we went out last Monday and again on Saturday for a full day. Both dates went very well. Saturday night we had a nice long talk until late at night and she clearly expressed appreciation that I was 'taking things slowly'. I took that opportunity to make it clear that I wasn't in a hurry.

Even still, there is a certain amount of pressure. She's looking for more, but you don't want to give it up too easily. My best suggestion is to wait until she's the one waiting for it and then act. Or even wait a little more. Make sure she not only wants it, but can't wait for it. From that point, whether it's a first kiss or sex (which in that situation can happen in rapid succession), it should feel more comfortable for both of you.
 
Originally posted by: toekramp
are there pics of this incrediblely stunning Gatsby?
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I could, and I could stun audiences with my dashing looks, but I am not interested in getting photochopped to hell.

If you must know, I look like Morrissey, except with a smaller chin.
 
Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Originally posted by: toekramp
are there pics of this incrediblely stunning Gatsby?
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I could, and I could stun audiences with my dashing looks, but I am not interested in getting photochopped to hell.

If you must know, I look like Morrissey, except with a smaller chin.
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lame
 
Originally posted by: JLGatsby
Originally posted by: toekramp
are there pics of this incrediblely stunning Gatsby?
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I could, and I could stun audiences with my dashing looks, but I am not interested in getting photochopped to hell.

If you must know, I look like Morrissey, except with a smaller chin.
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hmmm, Likes pet shop boys, looks like morrissey, never had a woman?

I'm not the only one to have already connected the dots.
 
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