How do I fix an abusive mother?

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GasX

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My advice to you is to start drinking heavily...

Better listen to me, I was pre-med
 

JulesMaximus

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Jul 3, 2003
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Originally posted by: Agentbolt
If this thread is a joke, A+. Seriously, brilliant.

If this is serious, kill yourself OP. I'm not kidding, go electrocute yourself, or jump off a bridge. You are never going to be a decent person or a productive member of society. You are the type of person the world is better without.

How you avoided getting a vacation for that bit of "advice" I'll never know...
 

Agentbolt

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How you avoided getting a vacation for that bit of "advice" I'll never know...

I can totally understand where you're coming from, that was a mean post, and no one should be subjected to that kind of treatment, and it was uncalled for, and wah. wah. wah.

Do you have anything you want to cry like a 6 year old girl about, Jules? Dropping your ice cream? Gap Kids not having the Strawberry Shortcake sandals your mommy promised to buy you? I'll offer you some free advice, quit being a crybaby and grow a pair. You'll find yourself sobbing yourself to sleep in the fetal position every time someone says something mean on the Internet a lot less.
 

zinfamous

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Originally posted by: Agentbolt
How you avoided getting a vacation for that bit of "advice" I'll never know...

I can totally understand where you're coming from, that was a mean post, and no one should be subjected to that kind of treatment, and it was uncalled for, and wah. wah. wah.

Do you have anything you want to cry like a 6 year old girl about, Jules? Dropping your ice cream? Gap Kids not having the Strawberry Shortcake sandals your mommy promised to buy you? I'll offer you some free advice, quit being a crybaby and grow a pair. You'll find yourself sobbing yourself to sleep in the fetal position every time someone says something mean on the Internet a lot less.


I think you misunderstand Jule's comment. IIRC, requesting that someone off themselves is a bannable offense, and is posted as such.

It's clear that the OP is a whining, entitled little prick (if this is real, sure...), but suggesting suicide is a bit much.
 

Agentbolt

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It's clear that the OP is a whining, entitled little prick (if this is real, sure...), but suggesting suicide is a bit much.

I guess on the extremely remote chance that the OP is crazy and would somehow take that post to heart, I'll edit it out. I wasn't aware that a post like that was taboo regardless of how serious it was meant to be, but that makes sense. Thanks for the heads up.

Amazing how a reply that wasn't written in the voice of an infant that fell down while trying to stand for the first time got a legitimate response, eh Jules?
 

Azraele

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
:/ ;... my school work weighs alot on my mind. I fear that I won't be able to play my video games anymore; I grew up with video games and having them taken away from me is something I don't know if I can't live without. I don't find anything else entertaining then playing video games. Well.. there is the possibility of having conversations with a girl but I got rejected three times in a row last week; that was to much pressure for me to handle (I quit with women!). I have alot of issues to sort out :(.

*This is real, no story.

It sounds like you're not even trying to get along with your mother, and you rigidly oppose any structure she tries to set for you (ie house rules). Is it ok for her to hit you? Absolutely not. However, two wrongs never ever make a right. I can't speak for you mother, but based on what you've said you have some serious problems you need to address. First, priorities, ...you need to get them straight. School comes before video games. When you said you don't think you can live without video games, you need to take a step back and really evaluate yourself. Video games are fine in moderation, when you have the free time to play them. You shouldn't need them to live. What do you want to do as a career? What do you want to do with your life? School will help you get on track.

Second, you come across as one of those kids who is going to do what you want, when you want, and how you want. This is just not realistic. When you're living on you own, paying your bills, etc, then maybe you can take that attitude, but even then, there are rules you have to abide by in society. So throw that attitude out, it gets you nowhere. You say you can think with reason, let's see it happen.

Third, you say you don't like your schedule messed with. Ok, talk to her about it. See what you two can work out as a team rather than as two opposing factions.





 

zinfamous

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The only physical abuse the OP talks about is getting slapped in the face AFTER he talks trash to her. That isn't abuse--it's parenting. I think the abuse that is talking about is the potential removal of his precious video games. I also think that this very important schedule of his is nothing more than video game time...

go talk to more girls; who cares if they reject you? Some won't...

this reminds me...when are we going to get that violin emoticon?
 

zinfamous

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Originally posted by: illusion88
I don't know if this has been mentioned but..... Emancipate yourself!
Get a job, earn enough to support yourself, and move out.

Read this for the legal information about it. (I haven't read it, but it popped up on google and looked legit.)
http://www.lawhelp.org/documen...1.pdf?stateabbrev=/WA/

Another link
http://www.co.mason.wa.us/prob...enile/emancipation.php


Emancipate himself from WHAT? He's a deluded, selfish little prick! Based on his posts, there is no legitimate abuse coming from his mother. She probably isn't hitting his dumb ass enough...

Parents should have the option of turning over such worthless children to the state, or something...kinda like a consignment shop for jackass kids... :D
 

alareau

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wow, Reese's makes peanut butter in jars now. I thought they only made peanut butter cups (as well as other chocolate related product). Must be an American thing.
 

manlymatt83

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I'm all for fighting back when parents suck. My parents sucked. I love them to death, but I'm 23 now, and I still look back and say "I was right".
 

hanoverphist

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
I am a 16/17 year old kid who is independent. When I say independent, I mean thinking wise and I can do anything that will please me. My mother threatens me that she will take away my computer and anything of value from me if I disobey her. I really can't wait to get out of this house; She is acting like a tyrant without a leech. I am a very wise kid and I only use reason to get me out of situations. I really don't like to be violent with my mother but she starts it. I talk back to her and she slaps me in the face.

if you use reason, you wouldnt get INTO situations that needed to be gotten out of.

Originally posted by: evolvedbulletShe is saying that I am back talking her. I think back talking is the only way to question one's actions but she wants everything she says done. I have things that need to be done and she intrudes into my schedule; I get very upset and unorganized if someone screws with my daily schedule. I really don't know what to do guys; if you think I should wait her out, say a way how I can live with this or if there is a way to straighten her out, can you tell me please.

youre the one that needs straightened out, not her. follow the rules, learn some life lessons and realize shes not doing this stuff to inconvenience you or anything.

Originally posted by: evolvedbulletWhat started my mother's PMSing is my brothers apatite. He is as thin as a twig and he eats feasts worth of food. My mother is paralyzed (broken arm and leg; there getting better and she is walking around, waving orders left and right) and can't go to work so the food can get into short supply (my mother has enough money to buy a load of groceries every two weeks, 100 or 200 dollars worth of food; my brother calls a snack eating two packs of hot dogs and a gallon of V8 Fusion Light). When I am out of Reese's Peanut butter, I get very agitated when it comes down to food. I would eat something else but having a tongue that rejects alot of flavors can make eating difficult. He eats all the food and my only meal available is Snack Packs and Fruit and Grain bars. What should I do guys? Thank you for reading.

kick him in the nutz and tell him to stop eating all the foodz
 

davew0670

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
I do not hit my mother. My mother hits me. I don't hit her back, I just be a little devil and deny every rule she implies against my will. I want to be left alone; I don't need her pissing and mourning.



your mom beats you up and she has a broken arm and leg? Quit being a Nancy boy.
 

Homerboy

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Originally posted by: krunchykrome
Originally posted by: Platypus
There's no way this is real, I wish I could punch you through the internet after reading this crap.

:laugh:

agreed
if it is real, a punch is needed
if it is fake, a high-five is for pure entertainment

Either way we, the viewers, win.

 

jpetermann

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Feb 27, 2001
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It is amazing how stupid parents are....






















until you grow up!
Get a life! Unfortunately this generation confuses discipline with abuse and wants and desires as needs... I wish all whiney little brats could be sent back 100 years and live a day of life then... they would be thankful for what they have now.
 

Accipiter22

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
I do not hit my mother. My mother hits me. I don't hit her back, I just be a little devil and deny every rule she implies against my will. I want to be left alone; I don't need her pissing and mourning.

okay that's it, I'm doing a search for every post by this guy now. I just found my lunch time reading
 

ric1287

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can we stop bumping this garbage thread? (after this one of course ;) ) its fake and not at all entertaining.



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