How do I fix an abusive mother?

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Garet Jax

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If you pay your way, then move out and be truly independant. If not, then do what she says until you can pay your own way.
 
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Sureshot324

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I think you need to consider the possibility that you are a video game addict, and it's destroying your social life and your relationship with your mother, because you constantly feel the need to play video games to be happy. I know because I've been there. Get a job. You'd be surprised how much better you'll feel when you have something to do productive to do other than school.
 
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Isla

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
I am a 16/17 year old kid who is independent. When I say independent, I mean thinking wise and I can do anything that will please me.

Independent means you can take care of yourself--- 'thinking wise and do anything that will please me' isn't part of the official definition.


My mother threatens me that she will take away my computer and anything of value from me if I disobey her. I really can't wait to get out of this house;

Make a note to yourself: Do well in school and get a good job. You will be on your way soon.
She is acting like a tyrant without a leech. I am a very wise kid and I only use reason to get me out of situations. I really don't like to be violent with my mother but she starts it. I talk back to her and she slaps me in the face.

If you are so smart, then don't let your interactions ESCALATE. If you are so smart, you can figure out when to back off, can't you?

She is saying that I am back talking her. I think back talking is the only way to question one's actions but she wants everything she says done. I have things that need to be done and she intrudes into my schedule; I get very upset and unorganized if someone screws with my daily schedule. I really don't know what to do guys; if you think I should wait her out, say a way how I can live with this or if there is a way to straighten her out, can you tell me please.

It's not your place to straighten her out. It is your place to do well in your own life.

What started my mother's PMSing is my brothers apatite. He is as thin as a twig and he eats feasts worth of food. My mother is paralyzed (broken arm and leg; there getting better and she is walking around, waving orders left and right) and can't go to work so the food can get into short supply (my mother has enough money to buy a load of groceries every two weeks, 100 or 200 dollars worth of food; my brother calls a snack eating two packs of hot dogs and a gallon of V8 Fusion Light). When I am out of Reese's Peanut butter, I get very agitated when it comes down to food. I would eat something else but having a tongue that rejects alot of flavors can make eating difficult. He eats all the food and my only meal available is Snack Packs and Fruit and Grain bars. What should I do guys? Thank you for reading.
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Buy your own food. Get a job. A little fridge will cost about $75. There are many who have had it worse than you. Rise above your situation.
 
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LordMorpheus

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If you really need to, get a job and move out and quit your bitching.

If your mother can't afford to feed you, you should probably be working already.

I held my first job when I was younger than you. It paid sh!t but the money was mine.

Buy a muzzle for your brother so he can't eat food unless you let him.
 
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Suspicious-Teach8788

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Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Wow! A new whiny, snively, insolent, self-centered teenager! It's been so quiet around here without PAB and RyanSengara entertaining us.
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I think in reality we all miss them, so it's nice to see someone whining here.
 
FeuerFrei

FeuerFrei

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"a tyrant without a leech"
I need to read more posts from this guy.
Threads like this are pure unfiltered entertainment.
 
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Sphexi

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Did your mom try to make you go to bed in the middle of your WoW raid?



Seriously though, stop being such a spoiled little brat, no matter what YOU say, she is the parent, she is in charge. If the worst she does is slap you when you mouth off, then she's far from being abusive.
 
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BD2003

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
I am a 16/17 year old kid who is independent. When I say independent, I mean thinking wise and I can do anything that will please me. My mother threatens me that she will take away my computer and anything of value from me if I disobey her. I really can't wait to get out of this house; She is acting like a tyrant without a leech. I am a very wise kid and I only use reason to get me out of situations. I really don't like to be violent with my mother but she starts it. I talk back to her and she slaps me in the face.
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Good, it sounds like you need another backhand across the face. Seriously.

And wtf is a 16/17 year old kid? Can't remember your own age?
 
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magreen

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That's it? No more OP? I lost track of this beauty months ago and had hoped to see many more classic posts now that I found it.

Any other links to funny shens threads?
 
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NoShangriLa

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Originally posted by: FeuerFrei
"a tyrant without a leech"
I need to read more posts from this guy.
Threads like this are pure unfiltered entertainment.
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That was the first thing I notice.

Is the OP 16 or 17 year old?
I'm surprise that the OP doesn't know his own age, and trying to feed 3 people and 2 of them are ungrateful teens with $100-200 every 2 weeks is not going to be easy. Groceries of $400/month for 3 is going to take a lot of planning & creativities.

It is not right for your mom to strike you out of anger, but you should be grateful that she is trying to feed, cloth, and put a roof over your head instead of being a spoiled back talking brat.

IMHO, you should look for a part time job to help the family out.

I came from a poor immigrant family, and I started to work at the age of 14 @ 40+ hours per week to earn money to help support my family of 8 people. And, the funny thing is that I wouldn't dare talk back to my parents because I would get a lot more beating than a slap in the face.


 
Captante

Captante

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Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Here's some other threads by my favorite poster since RapidSkies pretended to speak English as a 4th language:

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...053758&highlight_key=y


http://forums.anandtech.com/me...043614&highlight_key=y

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...043612&highlight_key=y


http://forums.anandtech.com/me...041614&highlight_key=y

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...016749&highlight_key=y

http://forums.anandtech.com/me...015384&highlight_key=y
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Nice work! .... LOL at all the people still taking this seriously! :p
 
JEDIYoda

JEDIYoda

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
Wow, I'm very insulted.. I get picked on my English skills, my life, and my attitude. I was trying to write earlier that I have to have the world revolve around me for now. Why you say, I need to feel free and peaceful in order to do my work. I don't want my mother on my back all the time, I can understand that she is going through alot of problems in her life but I don't want to add another to her stockpile. I let her be and whenever my mother asks for help, I give it. I do whatever she says but I say that if you ask for something, do it politely. It is a request, not an order. I know I will get flamed for this but I do not believe in authority. It makes the house divided and the administrator pulls all the strings to your daily life. I don't want to be a puppet you know? In addition, I work my arse off in my English class and I can not get anywhere. I have a bad life I think, I am not normal and my situation grows harder everyday. Someone will say that you never seen what a "Hard situation" is but I compare everything to my standards, not yours. I don't obey the pure pressure that accumulates around me when I am on a forum; your views and standards will reflect your replies on this topic. I do not know what to do with my life, I am lost, and my social life is disintegrating with every second I lose. There is no help here, nothing of use. I get attacked and nothing more. If I just keep seeing things about how magnificent this thread is, I will dump this.

Ha, I just described the internet in one post.
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there is no hekp here because on these forums Mother`s are treated with respect! Not as equals or subordinates!!

You need to treat your mom with respect regardless of how she treats you!

You are her son, living undr her roof, eating the food she buys....as such your a 16 year old freeloader who wants to have things his way!!

grow a pair and take this advice---
You want to fix your mother? Try this:
Go to her and apologize for being disrespectful, selfish and unhelpful. Find a job and offer to help her do chores and pay for household expenses. Inform her that you intend to cut back your computer time to an hour a day and use the free time to take some of the load off her shoulders. I bet that fixes her really quickly. She'll be a model mom.

 
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