What the f*ck is wrong with you? Seems to me you're one of those spiteful gay guys... Just a thought?
What the f*ck is wrong with you? Seems to me you're one of those spiteful gay guys... Just a thought?
If it's only 2 1/2 months after birth I wouldn't worry about it, 2 1/2 years then it would be a problem.
Post partum can have lots of weird effects on women, I'm no doctor so I have no clue how long it can last after birth.
Hopefully you have a good enough relationship with your wife that this could somehow be brought up? Was she a fitness nut before the birth? Did she work out regularly and eat moderately healthy before? You don't give much background on how things were before she was pregnant.
Post partum can have lots of weird effects on women, I'm no doctor so I have no clue how long it can last after birth.
Hopefully you have a good enough relationship with your wife that this could somehow be brought up? Was she a fitness nut before the birth? Did she work out regularly and eat moderately healthy before? You don't give much background on how things were before she was pregnant.
You have a legitimate point. However, it is very sensitive ground you're treading.
And, it is only 2 1/2 months later.
What you probably need to do is approach it from a "We need to eat healthier" standpoint. Include yourself and she may not think you're picking on her....then again, she needs someone to pick on her. She should have lost a substantial amount of weight by this point. And they say that breast feeding supposedly helps get rid of the baby weight.
And, it is only 2 1/2 months later.
What you probably need to do is approach it from a "We need to eat healthier" standpoint. Include yourself and she may not think you're picking on her....then again, she needs someone to pick on her. She should have lost a substantial amount of weight by this point. And they say that breast feeding supposedly helps get rid of the baby weight.
2 1/2 months is plenty of time for her to start changing her routine back to a healthy one. I am so tired of hearing about post pard depression. Its the new adhd. Everyone woman after giving birth now has a excuse for anything she does wrong..... Post pard depression. Its a bunch of BS
Yup. Eating takes your mind off the depression and is also enjoyable for some people after awhile since nothing else in a depressed person's life feels enjoyable.
Also, some people actually eat very little when they're depressed, perhaps because of body image or low self-esteem.
Honestly just getting on a regular exercise routine would be a great route toward getting fit. At least turn some of the fat into muscle (yeah, yeah, I know, not a direct conversion). Consider editing eating habits (well no sh~t): eat something in the morning to start your metabolism, preferably something healthy with protein. SlimFast is actually a great protein drink, and it also has tons of nutrients in it. Tastes pretty good too, at least the chocolate one does.
When you eat protein you don't get so many cravings for starch/fat/etc. You will feel more full. Add some fiber (e.g. cereal) in your diet also. And in generally just don't go on crazy binges of M&Ms, etc. I have, at max, two blocky Hershey's candies after dinner, and not all the time even. You do need to eat some good stuff once in a while, don't just deprive yourself of it or it'll build up in ya and your metabolism will get used to eating healthy food and will choke on the complex fats/carbs/etc.
Please talk to her! If she can guzzle down a float and eat non stop like that, it's in fact, your responsibility to warn her about the dangers of binging on food, irregardless of her aesthetic weight....
What does she do all day? Just take care of the kid? If so, being in the house all day and not getting out can wear on you. Offer to help by watching the kid, and let her get out and do something - even if it's only for a walk to start.
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My suggestion is viral marketing campaign through her sister/mother/friend/pastor/dr/ect.
There's no way you can sugar coat that pill if it's coming from you.
They don't have to answer to the "You did this to me!" or "You don't find me attractive anymore?!?!?!" traps.
There's no way you can sugar coat that pill if it's coming from you.
They don't have to answer to the "You did this to me!" or "You don't find me attractive anymore?!?!?!" traps.
I discuss these things with my female friends, so I get the female perspective from the horses mouth so to speak. for some women, sometimes, a box of chocolates or a root beer float is more appealing than a roll in the sack. Deal with it.
also, there are plenty of women who were e.g., sexually abused as a child and who subsequently over-eat as a way of keeping men at a distance. Just a thought.
it's not an uncommon scenario. watch Oprah sometime. there are plenty of women out there who have come to rely on the fact that a layer of fat will keep men at bay.
JulesMaximus
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I think.. you're a douchebag.
You're a dumbass, you are completely self absorbed and wouldn't have any idea what a normal relationship is like, so you can't pass comment here.
this is a sensitive subject that unfortunately, although you mean for the best, will only cause her to defend herself.
the best way to approach this might be through her mother/sister/female friends. maybe you could take her shopping or offer to take her out. that might cause her to feel embarrassed by her eating habits.
also, go to a doctor for a checkup. have all the family go as an excuse that you just want a standard checkup. the doctor can tell her these things that's a dangerous subject for you as a husband.
good luck dude.
the best way to approach this might be through her mother/sister/female friends. maybe you could take her shopping or offer to take her out. that might cause her to feel embarrassed by her eating habits.
also, go to a doctor for a checkup. have all the family go as an excuse that you just want a standard checkup. the doctor can tell her these things that's a dangerous subject for you as a husband.
good luck dude.
JulesMaximus
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One thing that strikes me right away is the fact that she is breastfeeding, and anything she takes in, i.e too much high frutcose corn syrup is also going to go into the baby.
If you do decide to bring it up, perhaps approach it from the standpoint of the health of the baby....get her to discuss it with her doctor, he might be able to convince her to change her eating habits initially for the babys health which can then turn into a constant healthy way of eating.
If you do decide to bring it up, perhaps approach it from the standpoint of the health of the baby....get her to discuss it with her doctor, he might be able to convince her to change her eating habits initially for the babys health which can then turn into a constant healthy way of eating.
Vic
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Sounds like it.
BTW, although depression and anxiety are closely related, overeating is considered to be a symptom of depression, and under eating of anxiety.
Pregnancy and post-pregnancy can cause some serious hormonal imbalances in women, leading to all sorts of legitimate emotional and mood disorders, along with a great deal of stress-related issues on top of that. aidanjm doesn't have a fsckin' clue what he's talking about. The OP should talk with his wife and encourage her to see a doctor and seek counseling. Good luck.
Vic
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Why are you defending aidanjm? His comments were not only completely wrong (how many of his girlfriends are post-partum? :roll: ), but they're almost ban-worthy for their level of trollishness IMO.
A woman's sexual mood is highly dependent upon her hormonal make-up. Claiming otherwise, as aidanjm implied, would be no different from a scientific perspective than saying that homosexuality is just an lifestyle choice. Obviously that's wrong, but that didn't stop aidanjm from trollling this thread now did it?
And at the current time, the OP's wife seems to have some hormonal imbalances that likely need treatment. In other words, she needs help, not an asshole that has frequently spouted anti-heterosexual hate speech here (and in the mods' defense, has the record of frequent vacations to go with that).
Some of you people are really disgusting BTW. You pretend you care about people when in fact you only care about causes. Here's a hint: causes ain't people.
I'm sick and tired of the entire "gay agenda" always being pushed here. They should be forced to push their opinions in P&N and not here. :thumbsdown:
Vic
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pfft.... aidanjm isn't the gay agenda. He's just an ass. I've never met a gay person before him that has so much hate against heterosexuals. Most don't care anymore than a properly-adjusted straight person cares about gays. It's like he's a heterophobe or whatever the gay equivalent of a homophobe is.
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