Originally posted by: Archman
I find this funny, I used to get hit on by men all the time when I worked downtown, and yet it didn't bother me, and a lot of them thought I was a homosexual as well because I was slim and trim, dressed well, and wasn't bothered by getting hit on by men. I actually had one guy hit on me for a month, and he kept alluding to something... he finally came up to me one day and said to me point blank, "You're not Gay are you?"...
I chuckled and said no... he was so shocked because most heterosexuals that get hit on get mad and upset, and I did neither. It doesn't bother me, and whatever you want to do that makes you happy, do it... unless you are hurting, being cruel, or abusive to your partner... I am not up for seeing two men sharing themselves, that has no interest for me, I'd rather watch paint dry, and that is my personal preference, but two women get my attention

... besides, in different eras of human history, homosexuality was the norm... the ancient greeks and romans to whom we owe so much of our History & Art. Different strokes for different folks.
Now on a weird note, I read a newpaper artiicle in the new newspaper/tabloid "DOSE"... apparently in the Netherlands beastiality has been legal since 1944, unless you can prove that the animal did not have a good time... I just about fell on the floor LMAO when I read this.... imagine sitting in a courtroom and examining the defendant.... "So Mr.Ed, stamp your hoof once for 'no', and twice for 'yes'... do you understand?"....
Oh my, those wacky Europeans
Well, speaking from a gay male perspective because I happen to be gay, I want to THANK YOU for not getting upset or acting negatively.
For the rest of the people reading this thread, take a page out of Archman's book and read on...
I do not want to come off arrogant or superior or anything, but gay males are extremely visual. The moment gay males STOP looking at you is the day you should be married and you no longer "have it" in regards to appearance. I have a lot of heterosexual friends who now no longer object to being looked at and admired for their good looks by people of the same sex--they realize that, especially in the male/male scenario, that this is a
major complement and not to be interpreted in a threatening way. Some of those straight males now VALIDATE their appearance based upon gay male opinion.
As for gay being a choice. Well, speaking from my experience, I can tell you I have absolutely no control over what I am attracted to. I have never been attraced to females, and never likely will. I have never had any desire what-so-ever to have sex with a girl, and and never likely will. In fact, the thought of sex with a female makes me want to puke. Seriously. It, to me, is just as equally abhorrent as gay male sex might be to you.
I do, however, have powerful attractions to males. There is no controlling it. I have tried (before I came out of the closet and accepted myself) to be attracted to females, but it simply does not work.
If you are a straight male and doubt me, then by all means spend a week and try to no longer be attacted to girls and and focus on males. Will it work? Will you change from straight to gay? Didn't think so. I am in the same boat.
So, gay for me at least, is certainly no choice. I can choose NOT to have sex with other males, but why should I do this? Simply because some bigots say it is wrong? And I am supposed to live MY LIFE in TOTAL MISERY and die alone just because some ancient text that I don't even believe in is pushed on me by people who refuse to believe that there can be a good, responsible, tax-paying, loving and society-enhancing citizen that is not a White Anglo-Saxon Protestant (WASP)? SCREW that.
We are on this planet for a very brief period of time. What might be after is for me open for debate. I will not spend my life trying to appease other's opinions about how I should live my life, just to make someone else more comfortable with their own prejudices.
Also, for those who have not noticed, the younger generations are much more accepting and embracing of people who are different than they are. This is happening with the Y Gen (Millenium generation) and younger. The ones who still have problems accepting something different than they are are older Gen X'ers, Baby Boomers, and Veterans (over 65). When those generations are DEAD AND GONE, the world will be a better place for those of us who have to put up with homophobia.
For those who want to actually not offend a gay person by trying to endear yourself, here are some tips:
1. Don't say "I know some gay people, and they seem to be good." That is the same thing as saying "I know some black people, and those ones are OK."
2. Don't say "I don't care what you do in your own bedroom, that is your business" (in reference to gay in general). DO NOT marginalize my sexuality by saying it is something for the bedroom. I am totally gay--the whole person. For the record, I don't care what you do in your bedroom either.
I do my best to NOT come off bitter or hateful towards people who are intolerant, because that actually makes me lesser of a person. But, a good vent now and then...