Help me out here. My Dad's Girlfriend keeps making efforts to

[purbeast0]

Originally posted by: Superself
Too bad your Dad has a fvcking idiot for a son.

hah this literally made me LOL at work hahaha.

 

[Passions]

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: purbeast0
wow you sound like you are jealous cause she spends more time with your dad than you do.

all she's trying to do is be part of the family and you have to be a dick about it? grow the fvck up.

No I'm not jealous about that. Why does she need to be part of the family? She isn't. She has her own family. Granted, I have been bitter about the way my parents handled their divorce and that may play into my annoyance. The reason I posted this is to attempt to get an objective perspective on the info provided. I don't care about some asshat named "purbeast" telling me to grow up.

Why does she need to be part of the family???

...because your father decided to include her.

And if you respect your father, you would respect his decisions as well. Obviously, you're just an overgrown child still harboring juvenile bitterness by taking it out on her with the cold treatment. You lack discipline and have no remote idea what filial piety means. GOODBYE!

 

[kyzen]

Originally posted by: KeithTalent

Originally posted by: kyzen
Part of being in a relationship with somebody is being able to get along with their friends. I have no experience here, but I would venture a guess that it's even more important when the person you're dating has kid.

Sounds like she wants to be a mom, or at least a good friend. Don't shut her out for some stupid jealous reason.

No experience with relationships or having friends?

Yeah my life sucks like that, I sit on my bed all day and play with sock puppets.

Seriously though, check out the period. A new sentence started - I meant I have no experience dating people with kids

 

[Homerboy]

muahahah classic thread.

 

[Polish3d]

Originally posted by: purbeast0

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: purbeast0
wow you sound like you are jealous cause she spends more time with your dad than you do.

all she's trying to do is be part of the family and you have to be a dick about it? grow the fvck up.

No I'm not jealous about that. Why does she need to be part of the family? She isn't. She has her own family. Granted, I have been bitter about the way my parents handled their divorce and that may play into my annoyance. The reason I posted this is to attempt to get an objective perspective on the info provided. I don't care about some asshat named "purbeast" telling me to grow up.

well maybe she is going to be part of the family soon enough? and maybe she's trying to develop a relationship with you because she knows she'll be part of the family some time soon and be your fathers new wife?

well atleast you admit you are bitter towards your parents which it's pretty obvious from your original post.

Yes and for good reason. I cannot even mention the word "mom" around my dad because of how he reacts. They really did it badly.

If she becomes his new wife, well, whatever. Perhaps I will make an effort to be more congenial but I suppose there is more to this that would take too long to explain which plays into my reluctance.

 

[FoBoT]

sounds to me like you are bitter that your father has a gf who isn't your mom

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: kyzen

Originally posted by: KeithTalent

No experience with relationships or having friends?

Yeah my life sucks like that, I sit on my bed all day and play with sock puppets.

LOL!!!

 

[Kev]

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: kyzen
Part of being in a relationship with somebody is being able to get along with their friends. I have no experience here, but I would venture a guess that it's even more important when the person you're dating has kid.

Sounds like she wants to be a mom, or at least a good friend. Don't shut her out for some stupid jealous reason.

I am NOT jealous. I do not WANT A MOM OR A FRIEND! I already have a freaking mom. There is no reason why I have to establish a real relationship with her? We get along fine. We are polite, cordial. I am not obligated to be her buddy just as I wouldn't expect my dad to hang out with any girlfriend of mine.

Then tell her, not us, so she can begin to ignore your worthless ass.

 

[Homerboy]

Are you sure you're 23 and not 16?

This is crappy even for a 16yr old... I'd expect it (but not accept it) from a 11yr old maybe...

 

[Sukhoi]

She wants to be a part of your family because she is GOING to be a part of your family if she marries your dad.

 

[Polish3d]

Originally posted by: Superself
Too bad your Dad has a fvcking idiot for a son.

Are you miserable in real life?

 

[kyzen]

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: kyzen
Part of being in a relationship with somebody is being able to get along with their friends. I have no experience here, but I would venture a guess that it's even more important when the person you're dating has kid.

Sounds like she wants to be a mom, or at least a good friend. Don't shut her out for some stupid jealous reason.

I am NOT jealous. I do not WANT A MOM OR A FRIEND! I already have a freaking mom. There is no reason why I have to establish a real relationship with her? We get along fine. We are polite, cordial. I am not obligated to be her buddy just as I wouldn't expect my dad to hang out with any girlfriend of mine.

If she's going to be even more involved with your dad though she is going to be in that role by default. Pushing her away is going to cause tension between you and her, which will, in turn, cause tension between her and your dad. Then, depending on your relationship with your dad, it's either going to cause tension between you and him, or he's going to lose what seems like a really good thing.

I know you're looking for some objective input, but that's kind of what all this is... some just harsher than others. The dad's girlfriend doesn't need to be your new best friend, and she doesn't need to replace your old mom, but it sounds like your dad wants to keep her around, so you might want to get on better terms with her.

 

[Amused]

Frackal,

Face it, your reaction here is flat wrong. Not only is there somewhat of a consensus of opinion in this thread, NO one is taking your side.

That should tell you something right there.

She is doing the right thing. Try getting to know her and leave your attitude at the door.

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

It never fails. No matter what the age of the child, when a divorced parent starts to get serious (marriage serious) about anther person, the child expresses tremendous amounts of resentment and hostility toward that person.

It's usually misdirected anger. A person is upset over the break up of their parent's marraige. All the hostility and negative emotions are held in check and spewed out on the people their parents date rather than the parents themselves.

OP needs to get some counseling. You obviously have issues with your parent's break up. It'll help you come to terms with the anger you are harboring against your parents and teach you better ways to deal with it than taking it out on people who did nothing to deserve it.

 

[Homerboy]

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: Superself
Too bad your Dad has a fvcking idiot for a son.

Are you miserable in real life?

well seeing that EVERYONE in the thread pretty much agrees with him, I'd say that he's onto something and that you are the one with the issue.

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: Superself
Too bad your Dad has a fvcking idiot for a son.

Are you miserable in real life?

He may be, but we all know for sure now that you are.

 

[czech09]

OP, you sound more like 13 than 23 to me at least. Give her a break, she's being nice...

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
It never fails. No matter what the age of the child, when a divorced parent starts to get serious (marriage serious) about anther person, the child expresses tremendous amounts of resentment and hostility toward that person.

It's usually misdirected anger. A person is upset over the break up of their parent's marraige. All the hostility and negative emotions are held in check and spewed out on the people their parents date rather than the parents themselves.

OP needs to get some counseling. You obviously have issues with your parent's break up. It'll help you come to terms with the anger you are harboring against your parents and teach you better ways to deal with it than taking it out on people who did nothing to deserve it.

Never fails, eh? My mother remarried two years ago. I walked her down the aisle. I get along quite well with her husband. He takes care of my mom and makes her happy. That's plenty good enough for me.

 

[altonb1]

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: Superself
Too bad your Dad has a fvcking idiot for a son.

Are you miserable in real life?

You apparently are. Why are you trashing on someone that is obvioulsy going out of her way to get to know you? You, sir, are being a total jerk. I agree with most in this thread--you need to grow up. There is no reason for your immature behavior.

 

[dainthomas]

Where are the friggin' pics?

If she's hot, then you need to consider the possibility that she wants to get you in the sack.

 

[linkgoron]

Originally posted by: Frackal
I was at my Grandpa's house for his birthday yesterday. It was my whole immediate family, and then her. What the ******? Doesn't she have her own ****** family? My Aunt is divorced too but you didn't see her boyfriend there.

Please don't bring your GF/wife to dinner/holidays/birthdays/whatever with your family... Doesn't she have her own family to be with?!

 

[MikeMike]

yup, Frackal, she is trying to be a parent figure.

guess what, if you get married, its gunna be your Dad, and Her. and then your Mom on the other side. its not ever going to be your Mom and Dad together again, and you want that. you are trying to ignore someone who, in the future, quite possibly will be your kids grandmother. face it, she wants into your life because soon enough she will have to be part of it in ways. and you are just being ignorant.

 

[purbeast0]

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: purbeast0

Originally posted by: Frackal

Originally posted by: purbeast0
wow you sound like you are jealous cause she spends more time with your dad than you do.

all she's trying to do is be part of the family and you have to be a dick about it? grow the fvck up.

No I'm not jealous about that. Why does she need to be part of the family? She isn't. She has her own family. Granted, I have been bitter about the way my parents handled their divorce and that may play into my annoyance. The reason I posted this is to attempt to get an objective perspective on the info provided. I don't care about some asshat named "purbeast" telling me to grow up.

well maybe she is going to be part of the family soon enough? and maybe she's trying to develop a relationship with you because she knows she'll be part of the family some time soon and be your fathers new wife?

well atleast you admit you are bitter towards your parents which it's pretty obvious from your original post.

Yes and for good reason. I cannot even mention the word "mom" around my dad because of how he reacts. They really did it badly.

If she becomes his new wife, well, whatever. Perhaps I will make an effort to be more congenial but I suppose there is more to this that would take too long to explain which plays into my reluctance.

dude my mom and dad split up 17 years ago when I was 7 and it was because my dad was having an affair, and now he's married to her and has a kid that is now 13 with her and my mom and him do not have a good relationship, so don't give me this crap about how tough going through a divorce is for the children, because i've been there done that way longer than you apparently have been.

 

[Shortcut]

Seems like she's making a genuine effort to befriend you. You're an adult - so behave like one and reciprocate the goodwill.

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: DAGTA

Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
It never fails. No matter what the age of the child, when a divorced parent starts to get serious (marriage serious) about anther person, the child expresses tremendous amounts of resentment and hostility toward that person.

It's usually misdirected anger. A person is upset over the break up of their parent's marraige. All the hostility and negative emotions are held in check and spewed out on the people their parents date rather than the parents themselves.

OP needs to get some counseling. You obviously have issues with your parent's break up. It'll help you come to terms with the anger you are harboring against your parents and teach you better ways to deal with it than taking it out on people who did nothing to deserve it.

Never fails, eh? My mother remarried two years ago. I walked her down the aisle. I get along quite well with her husband. He takes care of my mom and makes her happy. That's plenty good enough for me.

I suppose I should re-word that. There are no absolutes.