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Have you ever fallen in love with someone you've never met?

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NoStateofMind

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Have you ever fallen in love with someone you've never met? Some say its impossible. Some wouldn't even give it a thought. But I have and do. It's kinda strange to love someone that doesn't love you back. They get so sick of hearing it. So sick of you, and all you want to do is make them happy. When asked to leave them alone, you do. But always there to talk to when they need a helping hand. No matter how bad they treat you, you can't change the way you feel. Even after several months of it "being over", you are still drawn to them like a moth to a flame.

Months pass by and you still find yourself twisted up in thoughts of them. Hoping that today is the day you talk. Yet, that is few and far between. Never have you felt like this, so drawn yet so useless. Excited when you do talk to them and brought to tears when they leave. Sometime's at night when walking home from work, tears just flow, knowing that they have someone else holding them and not you. People may say I'm obsessed, but the truth is I don't want anyone else. I guess I'll die this way. A hopeless romantic you might say. I'm not following/calling/messaging her all the time. Altho I do look for her and always say "hi".

What else is there other than love? You might say money, material things, or physical contact. But to me the only thing that is real is what you cannot touch, nor see, and that my friends is love. I spent most of my life seeking things of the material world (and still do to occupy my mind), all the while knowing that it is as good as dust. After you get that "stereo/car/house/PC" whats left? It does nothing other than occupy your time inbetween the search for love.

During my past relationships I've made many mistakes. For example my x-wife. I was really controlling, demanding and verbally abusive. I do not blame her wanting a divorce, I would have too if I was her. When reflecting on my mistakes in the marriage, I resolved myself to make a change. That was to give more than to take, to love more than hate, to listen other than dismiss. The divorce was a good thing as I have learned alot from it.

Who knows what will happen in the future, maybe nothing at all. Maybe she will change her mind and then again, maybe she won't. I love her and that won't ever change.


 
Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
Have you ever fallen in love with someone you've never met? Some say its impossible. Some wouldn't even give it a thought. But I have and do. It's kinda strange to love someone that doesn't love you back. They get so sick of hearing it. So sick of you, and all you want to do is make them happy. When asked to leave them alone, you do. But always there to talk to when they need a helping hand. No matter how bad they treat you, you can't change the way you feel. Even after several months of it "being over", you are still drawn to them like a moth to a flame.

Months pass by and you still find yourself twisted up in thoughts of them. Hoping that today is the day you talk. Yet, that is few and far between. Never have you felt like this, so drawn yet so useless. Excited when you do talk to them and brought to tears when they leave. Sometime's at night when walking home from work, tears just flow, knowing that they have someone else holding them and not you. People may say I'm obsessed, but the truth is I don't want anyone else. I guess I'll die this way. A hopeless romantic you might say. I'm not following/calling/messaging her all the time. Altho I do look for her and always say "hi".

What else is there other than love? You might say money, material things, or physical contact. But to me the only thing that is real is what you cannot touch, nor see, and that my friends is love. I spent most of my life seeking things of the material world (and still do to occupy my mind), all the while knowing that it is as good as dust. After you get that "stereo/car/house/PC" whats left? It does nothing other than occupy your time inbetween the search for love.

During my past relationships I've made many mistakes. For example my x-wife. I was really controlling, demanding and verbally abusive. I do not blame her wanting a divorce, I would have too if I was her. When reflecting on my mistakes in the marriage, I resolved myself to make a change. That was to give more than to take, to love more than hate, to listen other than dismiss. The divorce was a good thing as I have learned alot from it.

Who knows what will happen in the future, maybe nothing at all. Maybe she will change her mind and then again, maybe she won't. I love her and that won't ever change.
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You cannot love someone whom you've never met. You can be attracted by beauty, you can be drawn by desire for companionship. There is an attraction there, but it is far more shallow feelings than love.

First, you know nothing about this person, who they are, what they are, etc. You only have the few minutes of first impression to go on, which rarely (if ever) gives a full picture of this person.

Feelings like this are dangerous, because they often become obsessive, and you turn into a stalker, make the other person feel uncomfortable, and end up possibly attacking this person either because of unreturned feelings, or because your obsessive desire takes control of you.

That being said, I dont believe in love at first sight. Theres attraction there... but it isnt love. Love develops later during and after much time spent in a mutual relationship.

 
sao123


You cannot love someone whom you've never met. You can be attracted by beauty, you can be drawn by desire for companionship. There is an attraction there, but it is far more shallow feelings than love.

First, you know nothing about this person, who they are, what they are, etc. You only have the few minutes of first impression to go on, which rarely (if ever) gives a full picture of this person.

Feelings like this are dangerous, because they often become obsessive, and you turn into a stalker, make the other person feel uncomfortable, and end up possibly attacking this person either because of unreturned feelings, or because your obsessive desire takes control of you.

That being said, I dont believe in love at first sight. Theres attraction there... but it isnt love. Love develops later during and after much time spent in a mutual relationship.
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First, we have talked for 2 years, not just talked for 5 minutes like you make it sound. I can remember talking to her for 14 hours strait once.

I know nothing about her? Where do I start? She is a college student, medical. Has 2 sisters. Her father is a surgeon and her mother is a dermatoligist. She is of arabic ethinicity and is catholic. 22 years old and lives in western europe (I know exactly but wont divulge). She is a loving person, kind and gentle. Spent many hours with me while I was sick, comforted me when I was down and me likewise for her. Need more?

I may make her feel uncomfortable, but thats only because she feels guitly. She started going out with another guy without telling me. Theres where the guilt lays. But I dont hold it against her. I truly want whats best for her. Me attacking her ? ROFL! I love her too much to cause her any harm. I've never caused any woman ANY physical harm ever.
 
Creepy stalker. :thumbsdown:


edit: Now WTF? You've never met here but you talk for hours at a time? Online persona? I reinterate: :thumbsdown:
 
Once she called me freak, I knew it was on.
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Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
sao123


You cannot love someone whom you've never met. You can be attracted by beauty, you can be drawn by desire for companionship. There is an attraction there, but it is far more shallow feelings than love.

First, you know nothing about this person, who they are, what they are, etc. You only have the few minutes of first impression to go on, which rarely (if ever) gives a full picture of this person.

Feelings like this are dangerous, because they often become obsessive, and you turn into a stalker, make the other person feel uncomfortable, and end up possibly attacking this person either because of unreturned feelings, or because your obsessive desire takes control of you.

That being said, I dont believe in love at first sight. Theres attraction there... but it isnt love. Love develops later during and after much time spent in a mutual relationship.
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First, we have talked for 2 years, not just talked for 5 minutes like you make it sound. I can remember talking to her for 14 hours strait once.

I know nothing about her? Where do I start? She is a college student, medical. Has 2 sisters. Her father is a sergeon and her mother is a dermatoligist. She is of arabic ethinicity and is catholic. 22 years old and lives in western europe (I know exactly but wont divulge). She is a loving person, kind and gentle. Spent many hours with me while I was sick, comforted me when I was down and me likewise for her. Need more?

I may make her feel uncomfortable, but thats only because she feels guitly. She started going out with another guy without telling me. Theres where the guilt lays. But I dont hold it against her. I truly want whats best for her. Me attacking her ? ROFL! I love her too much to cause her any harm. I've never caused any woman ANY physical harm ever.
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so you know info about her. you don't know her.
 
How have you spent countless hours with her and her being by your side and you being by hers, if you've never met before?

I'm not saying this to be mean, but if you really feel all this then maybe you should seek the advice of a psychiatrist.
 
well well my friend, some day a person will come and care for you the way you care for this person , before you realise she will be part of you and without you knowing she'll make a place of her own...but provided you dont build a fortress around you...
 
Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
sao123


You cannot love someone whom you've never met. You can be attracted by beauty, you can be drawn by desire for companionship. There is an attraction there, but it is far more shallow feelings than love.

First, you know nothing about this person, who they are, what they are, etc. You only have the few minutes of first impression to go on, which rarely (if ever) gives a full picture of this person.

Feelings like this are dangerous, because they often become obsessive, and you turn into a stalker, make the other person feel uncomfortable, and end up possibly attacking this person either because of unreturned feelings, or because your obsessive desire takes control of you.

That being said, I dont believe in love at first sight. Theres attraction there... but it isnt love. Love develops later during and after much time spent in a mutual relationship.
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First, we have talked for 2 years, not just talked for 5 minutes like you make it sound. I can remember talking to her for 14 hours strait once.

I know nothing about her? Where do I start? She is a college student, medical. Has 2 sisters. Her father is a sergeon and her mother is a dermatoligist. She is of arabic ethinicity and is catholic. 22 years old and lives in western europe (I know exactly but wont divulge). She is a loving person, kind and gentle. Spent many hours with me while I was sick, comforted me when I was down and me likewise for her. Need more?

I may make her feel uncomfortable, but thats only because she feels guitly. She started going out with another guy without telling me. Theres where the guilt lays. But I dont hold it against her. I truly want whats best for her. Me attacking her ? ROFL! I love her too much to cause her any harm. I've never caused any woman ANY physical harm ever.
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Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
Have you ever fallen in love with someone you've never met?
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Contradict yourself much?


You dont know someone until you've spent actual time with the face to face. You cannot know someone through internet/telephone chat. Its a proven fact, this is how people get lured through the internet... people get hijacked, raped, and killed. You only know what limited information you are told... you infact do not know this person.
 
If you haven't met her, you don't know sh!t. I had a friend in college who was in love with this girl he met online. Turns out every single thing she told him was a freaking lie. And he talked to her on the phone for hours on end and was always chatting with her online. The year and a half that he "loved" her was just a big lie since the person he loved did not exist in this world.
 
Originally posted by: dabuddha
If you haven't met her, you don't know sh!t. I had a friend in college who was in love with this girl he met online. Turns out every single thing she told him was a freaking lie. And he talked to her on the phone for hours on end and was always chatting with her online. The year and a half that he "loved" her was just a big lie since the person he loved did not exist in this world.
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That is exactly where I was going with this.

When you "meet" someone online even if they do tell you the truth you still can't see their flaws as you fill in the spaces with everything you want/hope the person to be.

I thought I had a real connection with someone online once, but now I realize how stupid I was.

 
You're scary. Here is a song to help put things in perspective:

:music:I know a bot,
her name is Anna, Anna is her name
And she can ban, ban you so hard
She cleans up in our channel
I wanna tell you, that I know a Bot

I know a bot,
her name is Anna, Anna is her name
And she can ban, ban you so hard
She cleans up in our channel
I wanna tell you, that I know a Bot

That always watches everyone here
And makes us out of trouble
There is no Take-over that succeeds
Remember that it's I who know this Bot

The bot that no one else can beat
And she kicks even if she shouldn't
She gets rid of everyone that "spams"
Yes, nothing can beat our Bot

I know a bot,
her name is Anna, Anna is her name
And she can ban, ban you so hard
She cleans up in our channel
I wanna tell you, that I know a bot

And then came the day I didn't think was real
The channel was out of control
I never thought I would be so wrong
But Anna wrote and said
"I'm not a Bot,
I'm a really beautiful girl"
Which is, unluckely, now very strange to me
But nothing needs to be explained
Because for me you will always be a Bot

Her name is Anna, Anna is her name
And she can ban, ban you so hard
She cleans up in our channel
I wanna tell you, that I know a Bot

That always watches everyone here
And makes us out of trouble
There is no Take-over that succeeds
Remember that it's I who know this Bot

The Bot that no one else can beat
And she kicks even if she shouldn't
She gets rid of everyone that "spams"
Yes, nothing can beat our Bot:music:
 
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