Have you ever fallen in love with someone you've never met?

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: PokerGuy
Methinks you need help, preferably from a pro.

No, he just needs to realize on his own that it's not healthy to put so much into an online relationship.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: DivideBYZero
You will die a lonely death.

OP, get over the girl. This is infatuation and chances are you don't know the girl well enough to make a rational decision. This isn't love but your hormones racing.

 

[iroast]

Balance, my friend. Balance. Find it and embrace it.

 

[Alex]

i guess i can understand why people might feel like that especially like mosh said with someone they've met online...

but seriously, its NOT love!!!! it can be intense and whatnot but i don't think love is the right word.

 

[NoStateofMind]

Thanks for all the kind responses guys/gals. I'm a real person wether it be online or in actuality. I don't lie to make myself look bigger or better. I realize there are peopel who do though. She has admitted that much a couple of times. Oh well, life goes on.

moshquerade: thanks for atleast seeing my point of things and not just outright bashing. Many have told me the same thing, just move on. Well I have tried. Yes it was an internet/phone relationship. I kinda like that at first to get to know thier heart before being blinded by my eyes (lust).

iroast: Yes balance is good. Peace is even better. Love is better still. However it isnt something that happens overnight.

 

[ColdFusion718]

Not to undermine your feelings, but you are not actually in love with that person. You're in love with the idea of that person.

People inevitably formulate an idealized version of the object of their affection in their mind. This matches with the object in just one setting--when everything is seemingly perfect.

I've had a few of these myself so I know what it's like. Trust me, you think your experience is completely and utterly unique from everyone else's, that "she's different.

Go out with your friends, go have fun and meet people in the real world.

 

[ColdFusion718]

Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
Thanks for all the kind responses guys/gals. I'm a real person wether it be online or in actuality. I don't lie to make myself look bigger or better. I realize there are peopel who do though. She has admitted that much a couple of times. Oh well, life goes on.

moshquerade: thanks for atleast seeing my point of things and not just outright bashing. Many have told me the same thing, just move on. Well I have tried. Yes it was an internet/phone relationship. I kinda like that at first to get to know thier heart before being blinded by my eyes (lust).

iroast: Yes balance is good. Peace is even better. Love is better still. However it isnt something that happens overnight.

How come you two have never met in real life? I have nothing against online relationships, but the idea is you meet in person within a reasonable amount of time (2 weeks tops if you communicate regularly).

 

[NoStateofMind]

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718
Not to undermine your feelings, but you are not actually in love with that person. You're in love with the idea of that person.

People inevitably formulate an idealized version of the object of their affection in their mind. This matches with the object in just one setting--when everything is seemingly perfect.

I've had a few of these myself so I know what it's like. Trust me, you think your experience is completely and utterly unique from everyone else's, that "she's different.

Go out with your friends, go have fun and meet people in the real world.

Well I have heard that before. That I'm in love witht the idea of her, altho I don't agree.

I know of her "problems" that I would have to deal with, and as much as you might think not, I have dealt with them over the past 2 years. I am willing to work with her if allowed.

She is different, altho not in the way you might think. She is secial to me and no matter what she does or says to me can change how I feel about her.

Going out with my friends is something I try to do on my days off, altho I tend to like gaming too much

As for the "real world", aren't you real?

 

[NoStateofMind]

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718

Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
Thanks for all the kind responses guys/gals. I'm a real person wether it be online or in actuality. I don't lie to make myself look bigger or better. I realize there are peopel who do though. She has admitted that much a couple of times. Oh well, life goes on.

moshquerade: thanks for atleast seeing my point of things and not just outright bashing. Many have told me the same thing, just move on. Well I have tried. Yes it was an internet/phone relationship. I kinda like that at first to get to know thier heart before being blinded by my eyes (lust).

iroast: Yes balance is good. Peace is even better. Love is better still. However it isnt something that happens overnight.

How come you two have never met in real life? I have nothing against online relationships, but the idea is you meet in person within a reasonable amount of time (2 weeks tops if you communicate regularly).

6,000 miles, an airplane (afraid of hights), money. I actually believe that if I had gone before she met this new guy, I would still be there now.

 

[krunchykrome]

Sounds like craziness to me.

 

[OhSnap688]

PC Surgeon, do what you want, don't listen to these people who don't know you or her... they just don't understand love

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: OhSnap688
PC Surgeon, do what you want, don't listen to these people who don't know you or her... they just don't understand love

Bwhahahahaha.

 

[MaxDepth]

MySpace down again?

 

[NoStateofMind]

Originally posted by: OhSnap688
PC Surgeon, do what you want, don't listen to these people who don't know you or her... they just don't understand love

Thanks for the encouragement. I listen to those who show respect, and offer real idea's.

 

[halik]

and we've officially stepped into the weird and creepy...

 

[krunchykrome]

I see dead people.

 

[imported_michaelpatrick33]

PC Surgeon it sounds like you are seeking approval or validation concerning your feelings. If you have never actually met this individual and spent physical time with them it is hard to call it love but not impossible. Love is not a physical sensation but an emotional one. If you find comfort, joy, hope, compassion (and yes exacerbation (sp) and anger and resolved arguments) online and know that there is not a possibility of full commitment) than all the more power to you.

Just be cautious that your love for an online persona doesn't become a crutch (excuse) to withdrawal from seeking relationships in the real world. It is too easy to become lost seeking the ideal relationship online when no responsibility is required for your actions compared to actual physical contact. Remember "familiarity often breeds contempt" and one thing the online world is is anonymous. I can be any persona online.

 

[Reggae4k]

the OP is one of those guys who stalk women and give them the heebee jeebees.

 

[iamme]

Originally posted by: halik
and we've officially stepped into the weird and creepy...

great, now i have to throw these shoes away....

 

[dullard]

There is infatuation, which is what you are describing. You are discussing wonderful feelings, desire to make someone happy, happiness when you think of that person, etc. All of these FEELINGS are infatuations.

Then there is love. Love is NOT a feeling. Love is a decision. Love is when you are so angry with someone, so sick of her/him, so much that you have thoughts of never talking to her/him again, but you swallow that pain and do something to bring the two of you back together. You consciously decide to be with someone through the thick and the thin. Real love is a decision not a feeling. Since you've never faced this decision, you don't yet have real love for her.

You may one day love her. But it hasn't happened yet.

 

[pulse8]

Whatever your feelings, the situation is unhealthy.

 

[theNEOone]

Originally posted by: PC Surgeon

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718

Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
Thanks for all the kind responses guys/gals. I'm a real person wether it be online or in actuality. I don't lie to make myself look bigger or better. I realize there are peopel who do though. She has admitted that much a couple of times. Oh well, life goes on.

moshquerade: thanks for atleast seeing my point of things and not just outright bashing. Many have told me the same thing, just move on. Well I have tried. Yes it was an internet/phone relationship. I kinda like that at first to get to know thier heart before being blinded by my eyes (lust).

iroast: Yes balance is good. Peace is even better. Love is better still. However it isnt something that happens overnight.

How come you two have never met in real life? I have nothing against online relationships, but the idea is you meet in person within a reasonable amount of time (2 weeks tops if you communicate regularly).

6,000 miles, an airplane (afraid of hights), money. I actually believe that if I had gone before she met this new guy, I would still be there now.

doesn't seem like love to me.

6,000 miles and no amount of money would keep me away from the love of my life. corny? yes. but i mean every word of it.


=|

 

[NoStateofMind]

Originally posted by: dullard
There is infatuation, which is what you are describing. You are discussing wonderful feelings, desire to make someone happy, happiness when you think of that person, etc. All of these FEELINGS are infatuations.

Then there is love. Love is NOT a feeling. Love is a decision. Love is when you are so angry with someone, so sick of her/him, so much that you have thoughts of never talking to her/him again, but you swallow that pain and do something to bring the two of you back together. You consciously decide to be with someone through the thick and the thin. Real love is a decision not a feeling. Since you've never faced this decision, you don't yet have real love for her.

You may one day love her. But it hasn't happened yet.

I have faced that decision, when she messed around with someone else.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
I have faced that decision, when she messed around with someone else.

She hasn't. It isn't love yet. Love isn't a one-way street, love takes two people working hard for a relationship to work.

 

[NoStateofMind]

Originally posted by: theNEOone

Originally posted by: PC Surgeon

Originally posted by: ColdFusion718

Originally posted by: PC Surgeon
Thanks for all the kind responses guys/gals. I'm a real person wether it be online or in actuality. I don't lie to make myself look bigger or better. I realize there are peopel who do though. She has admitted that much a couple of times. Oh well, life goes on.

moshquerade: thanks for atleast seeing my point of things and not just outright bashing. Many have told me the same thing, just move on. Well I have tried. Yes it was an internet/phone relationship. I kinda like that at first to get to know thier heart before being blinded by my eyes (lust).

iroast: Yes balance is good. Peace is even better. Love is better still. However it isnt something that happens overnight.

How come you two have never met in real life? I have nothing against online relationships, but the idea is you meet in person within a reasonable amount of time (2 weeks tops if you communicate regularly).

6,000 miles, an airplane (afraid of hights), money. I actually believe that if I had gone before she met this new guy, I would still be there now.

doesn't seem like love to me.

6,000 miles and no amount of money would keep me away from the love of my life. corny? yes. but i mean every word of it.


=|

Yep, you are right, I should have been there. Regardless, I made that mistake and now have to live with the results of it. Still doesn't mean I don't love her.