god.. she just dumped me

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bignateyk

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Ive been crying for the last two hours, and I just cracked a bottle of wine. I dont know what to do anymore.

She was a friend of mine for 20 years, and we hadnt seen each other in a few years until my sisters wedding that we were both at. We started dating, and for the next 8 months we were in one of the most passionate relationships.. I cant even describe it. I opened up to her and trusted her with everything. All I could think about was how much I couldnt wait to propose to her in a couple months.

God.. it hurts so bad..

Then a few days ago (completely without any signs whatsoever) she tells me that she thinks we might have rushed things and that she wants to slow down a little. Of course red flags start going up all over the place, and I obviously start to worry and get depressed. After more talking, she dumps me.

She tells me that she isnt ready to be in a relationship of any kind and that she isnt going to see other people. She wants to be friends, and maybe see how things work out in the future.

I just dont know if I can do that. To feel completely abandoned by someone youve known and trusted for so long.. god.. im not sure I can ever even talk to her again, but I love her so much, and part of me says to stay friends with her so that if there is just the slightest chance of getting back together it might work..

I dont know what to do.. I feel so alone, god I need help...
 
jpeyton

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Call up your friends or family, find someone you can hang out with and talk to.

Being alone or chatting on this forum is not what you need right now.
 
UberNeuman

UberNeuman

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Stop feeling alone. You're not the first person to have faced pain like this.... If she wants to be friends, then do so... If you can't, then it was never meant to be.....
 
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bignateyk

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Apr 22, 2002
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Originally posted by: pOwder
Go out and hit the first piece of hot tail you see.
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God.. her best friend wanted me right when we first started dating. Maybe I can ruin a friendship she has had since the 3rd grade and let her know how it feels. I couldnt do that though.
 
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Aimster

Lifer
Jan 5, 2003
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I cried a year ago (a little more?) when my long-term girlfriend left me for some idiot.

I got really depressed and I couldnt sleep at nights.

I joined the gym and I started to take out my anger there. I felt good about myself.
You need to do that.

Also work harder and buy yourself something nice.
I worked hard and bought me a car, but for you it might be something as little as say a Wii.
 
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JS80

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Oct 24, 2005
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Originally posted by: bignateyk
Originally posted by: pOwder
Go out and hit the first piece of hot tail you see.
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God.. her best friend wanted me right when we first started dating. Maybe I can ruin a friendship she has had since the 3rd grade and let her know how it feels. I couldnt do that though.
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DO IT. THROW A KOHLER RIGHT ON HER FACE!
 
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bignateyk

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Apr 22, 2002
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Im 22. I know that there cant be a one sided relationship.. if its not meant to be, then im glad she ended it now. I just feel so abandoned, because both of us were basically thinking that this was it, and I just dont know what the hell could have happened.
 
SmoochyTX

SmoochyTX

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Apr 19, 2003
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Originally posted by: bignateyk
Ive been crying for the last two hours, and I just cracked a bottle of wine. I dont know what to do anymore.

She was a friend of mine for 20 years, and we hadnt seen each other in a few years until my sisters wedding that we were both at. We started dating, and for the next 8 months we were in one of the most passionate relationships.. I cant even describe it. I opened up to her and trusted her with everything. All I could think about was how much I couldnt wait to propose to her in a couple months.

God.. it hurts so bad..

Then a few days ago (completely without any signs whatsoever) she tells me that she thinks we might have rushed things and that she wants to slow down a little. Of course red flags start going up all over the place, and I obviously start to worry and get depressed. After more talking, she dumps me.

She tells me that she isnt ready to be in a relationship of any kind and that she isnt going to see other people. She wants to be friends, and maybe see how things work out in the future.

I just dont know if I can do that. To feel completely abandoned by someone youve known and trusted for so long.. god.. im not sure I can ever even talk to her again, but I love her so much, and part of me says to stay friends with her so that if there is just the slightest chance of getting back together it might work..

I dont know what to do.. I feel so alone, god I need help...
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That sucks. It really sucks.

As jpeyton suggested, do you have anybody you can call and talk to? Or go and visit? ATOT is, well ATOT.
 
SmoochyTX

SmoochyTX

Lifer
Apr 19, 2003
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Originally posted by: bignateyk
Im 22. I know that there cant be a one sided relationship.. if its not meant to be, then im glad she ended it now. I just feel so abandoned, because both of us were basically thinking that this was it, and I just dont know what the hell could have happened.
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Friends since you were 2 years old? Never mind my previous comment.

You're only 22. Go drink a beer or have some more wine. And then call a friend.
 
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bignateyk

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Apr 22, 2002
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Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: bignateyk
Ive been crying for the last two hours, and I just cracked a bottle of wine. I dont know what to do anymore.

She was a friend of mine for 20 years, and we hadnt seen each other in a few years until my sisters wedding that we were both at. We started dating, and for the next 8 months we were in one of the most passionate relationships.. I cant even describe it. I opened up to her and trusted her with everything. All I could think about was how much I couldnt wait to propose to her in a couple months.

God.. it hurts so bad..

Then a few days ago (completely without any signs whatsoever) she tells me that she thinks we might have rushed things and that she wants to slow down a little. Of course red flags start going up all over the place, and I obviously start to worry and get depressed. After more talking, she dumps me.

She tells me that she isnt ready to be in a relationship of any kind and that she isnt going to see other people. She wants to be friends, and maybe see how things work out in the future.

I just dont know if I can do that. To feel completely abandoned by someone youve known and trusted for so long.. god.. im not sure I can ever even talk to her again, but I love her so much, and part of me says to stay friends with her so that if there is just the slightest chance of getting back together it might work..

I dont know what to do.. I feel so alone, god I need help...
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That sucks. It really sucks.

As jpeyton suggested, do you have anybody you can call and talk to? Or go and visit? ATOT is, well ATOT.
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I just need some time to myself to sort this through for now. I am flying down to florida for the week on saturday to be with my parents for thanksgiving.
 
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raildogg

Lifer
Aug 24, 2004
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I am sorry for this, please give her a chance as well. Maybe something has changed in her life. What is going on in her life that she has suddenly done this?

I don't know if she has abandoned you or not. Maybe something has changed in her life or something. Get to know her better and find out what and why she has done this. Maybe you can even improve her.
 
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bignateyk

Lifer
Apr 22, 2002
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Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Originally posted by: bignateyk
Im 22. I know that there cant be a one sided relationship.. if its not meant to be, then im glad she ended it now. I just feel so abandoned, because both of us were basically thinking that this was it, and I just dont know what the hell could have happened.
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Friends since you were 2 years old? Never mind my previous comment.

You're only 22. Go drink a beer or have some more wine. And then call a friend.
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Our parents knew each other in college, so our families have been friends since we were born. She was one of my sisters best friends growing up, but when we moved to another city, I didnt really keep in touch with her, and just saw her for the first time in a couple years at the wedding. I gave her a call after that and we started dating...

I wonder how this will affect the relationships of our families. Guess it depends whether I ever talk to her again. Its kidna funny, her parents have a vacation house next door to my parents vacation house in florida, and they will be there over thanksgiving (she wont be though)
 
JulesMaximus

JulesMaximus

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Jul 3, 2003
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It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.

You'll get over her. It just takes time. This is actually a good thing. Many people end up marrying the first person they ever loved. I think this is a bad thing though, people need to experience relationships and heartache in order to grow.

Good luck! :wine:
 
drum

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Feb 1, 2003
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don't look in the rearview mirror. that relationship is going to get any closer
 
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