AreaCode707
Lifer
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If she really is set on the promise instead of the ring, then yeah, it's a discussion they need to have. Not getting what she wants is the conversation starter, which will be important if she's off in fantasyland somewhere.
meltdown75
Lifer
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Bingo! OP, if you plan on not getting "promise" ring which is a waste of money IMO, then you better just lay it to the girl straight before it is too late. (hey that rhymed
)Lay it to her straight
Before it's too late
Anyways, I digress. Tell her you don't plan on getting the "promise" ring (but be flexible enough that if she has her mind set then you can change your mind), and give her extremely reasonable reasons why (while at the same time making sure she understand that you are committed).
She's really upset with me again,
I didn't give her what she likes.
I don't know what to tell her,
Don't know what to say.
Everything got funky last night.
She Was Really Bombed,
And I was really blown away,
Until I asked her what she wanted,
And this is what she had to say:
A pearl necklace.
She wanna pearl necklace.
She wanna pearl necklace.
She gets a charge out of bein' so weird,
Digs gettin' downright strange.
But I can keep a handle on anything,
Just this side of deranged.
She was gettin' bombed,
And I was gettin' blown away,
And she held it in her hand
And this is what she had to say:
A pearl necklace.
She wanna pearl necklace.
She wanna pearl necklace.
She is so tough, as pure as the driven slush.
And that's not true what she's talkin' about,
It really don't cost that much.
She was gettin' bombed,
And I was gettin' blown away,
And she took it in her hand,
And this is what she had to say:
A pearl necklace.
She wanna pearl necklace.
She wanna pearl necklace.
- M4H
Originally posted by: Tizyler
You act like this is the first girl in the world who likes jewelry
As if there's a limit to the number of guys who can be whipped? (like butter)
Don't worry dude a promise ring just means you buy her jewelry and promise not to cheat on her but she is allowed to keep her options open so it really isn't much of a commitment. It is a ploy for young immature women to get jewelry. Some day she will leave you and claim the ring was a present and keep it because all she really wanted was the ring. You must be in HS if a girl is asking for a promise ring. If you are older then that is just sad.
Originally posted by: b0mbrman
Originally posted by: Tizyler
You act like this is the first girl in the world who likes jewelry
As if there's a limit to the number of guys who can be whipped? (like butter)
It is as if when a guy finally commits, the girl immediately gets some invisible "VETO" stamp that she can use at anytime.
It is quite funny to see sometimes. Of course there are varying levels of how strong that "VETO" is, but man, I have seen that thing do some pretty drastic things to guys. It is actually scary sometimes.Reminds me of this
Just buy her the damn ring, don't spend too much money, and it means absolutely nothing if that's what you want it to mean. If it makes her happy and you get laid, that's all that counts.
naw, don't do diamonds or fake diamonds. save those for the engagement ring. do just silver or percious/semi-precious stones.
My girlfriend started bugging me about it after we had been together about a year. She didn't want an engagement ring, just something to show that I cared. I just went out and got a ring with her that ran ~$150. Certainly not a diamond or anything.
Seriously, it's not that big of a deal. She probably just wants something to show her friends and say, "See, he really likes me and I'm taken." There's nothing wrong with trying to keep her happy, as long as it means you don't spend too much.
Seriously, it's not that big of a deal. She probably just wants something to show her friends and say, "See, he really likes me and I'm taken." There's nothing wrong with trying to keep her happy, as long as it means you don't spend too much
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Originally posted by: BigDH01
My girlfriend started bugging me about it after we had been together about a year. She didn't want an engagement ring, just something to show that I cared. I just went out and got a ring with her that ran ~$150. Certainly not a diamond or anything.
Seriously, it's not that big of a deal. She probably just wants something to show her friends and say, "See, he really likes me and I'm taken." There's nothing wrong with trying to keep her happy, as long as it means you don't spend too much
Where did you get it at, if you don't mind me asking?
After doing some thinking, I've decided that something like is *exactly* what I'm looking for.
I should have put a different title for this topic, because she never even mentioned a 'promise ring'... She just wants something to show that I care.
AreaCode707
Lifer
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Any jewelry store will have rings that run $50-200, if you decided you really want to do that. Just go pick something out that you like.
(Take a look at necklaces and earrings while you're there, in case you change your mind. :
(Take a look at necklaces and earrings while you're there, in case you change your mind. :
Originally posted by: Tizyler
Originally posted by: BigDH01
My girlfriend started bugging me about it after we had been together about a year. She didn't want an engagement ring, just something to show that I cared. I just went out and got a ring with her that ran ~$150. Certainly not a diamond or anything.
Seriously, it's not that big of a deal. She probably just wants something to show her friends and say, "See, he really likes me and I'm taken." There's nothing wrong with trying to keep her happy, as long as it means you don't spend too much
Where did you get it at, if you don't mind me asking?
After doing some thinking, I've decided that something like is *exactly* what I'm looking for.
I should have put a different title for this topic, because she never even mentioned a 'promise ring'... She just wants something to show that I care.
Then get jewelry.
Any type.If she is mentioning a "ring" (and not a promise ring), she may be trying to figure out where you guys are in your relationship (as in is this headed toward marriage), in which case, sometime in the future you should probably talk to her about where you are headed in this relationship. It doesn't have to be anything totally serious, but it has to be clear.
What gets to me is that girls can get away with not just coming out and saying what they want, but they expect guys to actually do that. It is a double standard. Oh well, real life.
Marinski
Golden Member
Why do you people buy jewelery for your girls on valentines day? Come on now, grow a freakin sack, don't spoil them and they will respect you more. I can understand as a birthday or christmas present but not for valentines day.
I can't remember where we got it. It was at a jewelry store in a mall in Des Moines. Nothing too fancy, simple blue stone in a white gold setting. She appreciated the show of affection. Ours wasn't a promise ring, just like yours. The girl just wants to wear something to show that she's yours, and more importantly, she wants to know that YOU want other guys to think that she's taken. Nothing more.
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AMCRambler
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- Jan 23, 2001
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Are you sure she means a promise ring? My gf likes rings and jewelry in general and there's times when I've asked her what she wanted as a gift for aparticular occasion and she's told me a ring. She even had it picked out and everything so when we were walking by the store she showed it to me. I'm like sweet! She's making it easy for me! I didn't tell her I was going to get it for her of course. I was all like "Aww that's too much, I can't afford that...". Then I just came back the next day and bought it. Gotta know the girl's ring size though. The first ring I ever bought her with her birth stone in it was too small and we had to take it to get it resized. Because of the resizing, over time, that one has lost it's round shape a little bit. But anyways, I'm just saying maybe she just wants a ring. A promise ring after a year of dating seems a bit soon unless you are really in love.
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