(EDIT: MY FINAL THOUGHTS...) Is it wrong for a 21 year old to date a 16 year old? Even if....

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No Lifer
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she'll mature and it'll end soon. % chance of lasting is low...

are you really black? many asian parents are iffy on that.
 

McPhreak

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Originally posted by: Renob
For what it's worth i'm 24 and dating a 16 year old girl.


What a looser, I guess its easy to impress children. BTW your lucky Im not her dad or brother cause I would beat your lame A$$ down bigtime.


Is it wrong for a 21 year old to date a 16 year old? Even if....


Dude dont be lame find a woman not a girl. BTW I would kick you sorry A$$ too.

pwned by a man who's name is "Boner" spelled backward. :D
 

kami

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I wouldn't say it's wrong I just find it hard to believe you can see that much in her. 5 years isn't that big of a difference at all, but IMO it is at that age. She's not mature yet...and do you really think she'd stimulate you intellectually? Or maybe you're not looking for that in a girl, who knows...

I am 20 and I could never do it. I wouldn't go below 18 personally.
 

wyvrn

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Legally, it's dangerous. Be extremely careful, it's going to be hard to forgoe the cuddling and contact for 2 years...

As far as morally, I don't have a problem with it as long as her parents give the ok. Since she's young, you have to respect their wishes. Once she's 18, it's a diff. story. As long as she is mature and can handle it, sometimes *young* girls give off the appearance of being mature but are very emotionally unstable when you get to know them. Basically, take it slooooooooww.
 

Renob

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What's with the loser comments!? It's not like i'm just looking to use her or anything. I enjoy her company and how she makes even the darkest days seem sunny


What do you mean, your a LOOSER not only that but your a LOOSER with issues. She is a child and your an adult the fact that you cant see this makes you a LOOSER


I've also talked to her brother a couple of times. He doesn't really care

Thats another problem her family doesnt care.
 

wfbberzerker

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Originally posted by: Renob
What's with the loser comments!? It's not like i'm just looking to use her or anything. I enjoy her company and how she makes even the darkest days seem sunny


What do you mean, your a LOOSER not only that but your a LOOSER with issues. She is a child and your an adult the fact that you cant see this makes you a LOOSER


I've also talked to her brother a couple of times. He doesn't really care

Thats another problem her family doesnt care.

its loser
 

zippy

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Originally posted by: wyvrn
Legally, it's dangerous. Be extremely careful, it's going to be hard to forgoe the cuddling and contact for 2 years...

As far as morally, I don't have a problem with it as long as her parents give the ok. Since she's young, you have to respect their wishes. Once she's 18, it's a diff. story. As long as she is mature and can handle it, sometimes girls give off the appearance of being mature but are very emotionally unstable when you get to know them. Basically, take it slooooooooww.
Bingo.

I thought I was dating a confident, strong, mature girl that had simply had a promiscuous summer that she wasn't proud off. Turns out I could have been more wrong. She is not self confident, strong, or mature in any way shape or form...and she didn't feel guilty about her promiscuous summer as she led me to believe...in fact she has told her friends that she hopes to hook up with even more guys this summer...wtf?! :Q Yeah, she's a ho.

BTW, I'm 17, she's 16, so now sketchy stuff in my case. In fact, I think it's extremely wrong that she has hooked up with a few 19/20 year olds (not just cuddling/kissing...talking oral sex here). I can see where a 3 year gap at that age could be okay, but not the way she has been going at it.

As one gets older age matters less and less, however, 21 and 16 isn't right dude. Robbin' the cradle man. Don't do it.
 

rgwalt

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Originally posted by: Jumpem
Originally posted by: Renob
For what it's worth i'm 24 and dating a 16 year old girl.


What a looser, I guess its easy to impress children. BTW your lucky Im not her dad or brother cause I would beat your lame A$$ down bigtime.

What's with the loser comments!? It's not like i'm just looking to use her or anything. I enjoy her company and how she makes even the darkest days seem sunny. As I mentioned in an earlier post I have already met her mom. She's alright with it. I've also talked to her brother a couple of times. He doesn't really care what goes on. I'm not sure about her dad, but I guess i'll figure that out soon enough.

Yeah man, watch out for her dad. Starting out on a bad foot with her parents is a road that leads to almost certain disaster.

Ryan

 

isekii

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damn a 24 year old with a 16 year old~

If i was her father i'd kick your ass too~

 

bleeb

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Originally posted by: wfbberzerker
Originally posted by: Renob
What's with the loser comments!? It's not like i'm just looking to use her or anything. I enjoy her company and how she makes even the darkest days seem sunny


What do you mean, your a LOOSER not only that but your a LOOSER with issues. She is a child and your an adult the fact that you cant see this makes you a LOOSER


I've also talked to her brother a couple of times. He doesn't really care

Thats another problem her family doesnt care.

its loser

 
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ok... look at it this way.... can you see your self falling in love with her and vice versa???? if so then give it a shot and if ya do happen to fall in love just dont let her get away.... love, and happiness always come when lest expected and from the lest expected places.. if its the case of a a 21 year old and 16 year old so be it...

he wants ur opinions not to be bashed on ..... so lay off.. if u dont like it just say so no reason to bash him...

 

wyvrn

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Be careful throwing stones when you live in a glass house.

Originally posted by: Renob
What's with the loser comments!? It's not like i'm just looking to use her or anything. I enjoy her company and how she makes even the darkest days seem sunny


What do you mean, your a LOOSER not only that but your a LOOSER with issues. She is a child and your an adult the fact that you cant see this makes you a LOOSER


I've also talked to her brother a couple of times. He doesn't really care

Thats another problem her family doesnt care.

 

bolido2000

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Originally posted by: nourdmrolNMT1
go for it, it isnt illegal as long as the parents dont care and acknowledge it.

i wouldnt tap it but thats jmo so yeah it never matters with age unless its like a high schooler goin out with a middle schooler college-high school is fine

Go for it
 

thomsbrain

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it's going to be legal as long as you don't have sex with her, so i wouldn't worry about that. i could never date someone that immature, but whatever works for you. i say go for it.
 

wyvrn

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What if this girl got upset at you and claimed statutory rape? It'd be your word against hers, and I bet the court would give her the benefit of the doubt in that case...

edit: What I am saying is just consider all the possibilities before you jump in.

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
it's going to be legal as long as you don't have sex with her, so i wouldn't worry about that. i could never date someone that immature, but whatever works for you. i say go for it.

 

isekii

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Originally posted by: wyvrn
What if this girl got upset at you and claimed statutory rape? It'd be your word against hers, and I bet the court would give her the benefit of the doubt in that case...

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
it's going to be legal as long as you don't have sex with her, so i wouldn't worry about that. i could never date someone that immature, but whatever works for you. i say go for it.

yes~
think of the age as well~
who do you think they'll believe ? an innocent 16 year old~ or a 21 year old who took advantage of the 16 year old ?

 

bolido2000

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Originally posted by: wyvrn
What if this girl got upset at you and claimed statutory rape? It'd be your word against hers, and I bet the court would give her the benefit of the doubt in that case...

edit: What I am saying is just consider all the possibilities before you jump in.

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
it's going to be legal as long as you don't have sex with her, so i wouldn't worry about that. i could never date someone that immature, but whatever works for you. i say go for it.

I am guessing they are both koreans and pretty traditional (just a hunch). I don't think she would do that. I heard korean parents are a pain in the ass about dating tho.
 

Jumpem

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Originally posted by: Renob
What's with the loser comments!? It's not like i'm just looking to use her or anything. I enjoy her company and how she makes even the darkest days seem sunny


What do you mean, your a LOOSER not only that but your a LOOSER with issues. She is a child and your an adult the fact that you cant see this makes you a LOOSER


I've also talked to her brother a couple of times. He doesn't really care

Thats another problem her family doesnt care.

What's the problem with it if we aren't having sex? Does it hurt to spend time with someone that you really like? As for her brother, I don't really like him. He was making all sorts of rude remarks about her appearance and being an ass basically.

 

wyvrn

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From my experience, most Asian parents are.

Originally posted by: bolido2000
Originally posted by: wyvrn
What if this girl got upset at you and claimed statutory rape? It'd be your word against hers, and I bet the court would give her the benefit of the doubt in that case...

edit: What I am saying is just consider all the possibilities before you jump in.

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
it's going to be legal as long as you don't have sex with her, so i wouldn't worry about that. i could never date someone that immature, but whatever works for you. i say go for it.

I am guessing they are both koreans and pretty traditional (just a hunch). I don't think she would do that. I heard korean parents are a pain in the ass about dating tho.

 

cressida

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Dang, in college and cannot find someone around your age? You must be an engineering major or cs. :D

back to studying.