(EDIT: MY FINAL THOUGHTS...) Is it wrong for a 21 year old to date a 16 year old? Even if....

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HappyPuppy

Lifer
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If she was my daughter you would only get one non-violent warning to stay away from her.

I don't really give a damn whether it's moral or not.
 

Aceshigh

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My advice would be to find someone closer to your own age.

Why do you want to date a 16 year old? That is so wrong.

5 years may not seem like alot, but 21 and 16 is a huge gap in maturity and life experience.

When she turns 18 and you are 23 thats perfectly ok, but 16? You are asking for trouble.

 

Jumpem

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PipBoy, thanks...i'll keep that in mind.

rudeguy5757, it isn't weird at all to me. I really like talking to her for hours on end about everything.

rgwalt, thanks!

WinkOsmosis, yes i'm eight years older than her. I have no idea whether it will work out or not. How many of your relatives or friends parents have a large difference in age and everything is fine? I've met her mom, and she is cautiously ok with it. I honestly love everything about her. And it's not at all about sex either if that's what you're thinking.
 

FuZoR

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Im 19 and i dont see anything wrong with someone my age with a 16 year old... but for someone 21, eh i say wait til she turns 17 and with her parents permisson... hell wait for her to be 18

lol
 

LuNoTiCK

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Yea man, she's a little to young for you. In a couple years it's no big deal but now isn't cool.
 

Storm

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Originally posted by: Deeko
I'm gonna say NO. Is it illegal for you to date? No....for you to do anything with her? Yea, its called statutory rape.

Umm for the first time ever Im going to have to agree with Deeko that anything you do with her is called statutory rape in most states unless theres some wierd screwed up law from way back.

I have a question though you did get her permission to post her picture on forums that have 100k members, how many active or not is anyone's guess.

I honestly suggest you proceed with caution and make sure she's not lusting otherwise you could be bent over...

If in the small chance she is mature at her age knows what she wants and its you more power to you.
But you are forewarned...
 

Jmman

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Originally posted by: Deeko
I'm gonna say NO. Is it illegal for you to date? No....for you to do anything with her? Yea, its called statutory rape.


Actually, the age of consent in most states is 16, in some states it is even lower than that......
 

rgwalt

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In my opinion, someone in college or out of college (or of college age) should not date someone in high school. My own personal rule is to not date anyone younger than a sophomore in college. People really change as they mature. Her life at 16 could be very different from her life at 22. Personally I think you are setting yourself up for getting hurt.

Ryan
 

IBuyUFO

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You christians should know what's right or wrong. Don't you guys make the rules as it seems fit? j/k :) I wouldn't do it. Some people say the grass is greaner on the other side but that's one side I care not to set my foot on. Wait couple of years when she's legal. On the other hand she won't access to as many places as you can because of her age. Can't hang out in the bar with her and your buddies.
 

MuffD

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She is underage first of all. If you are 21 dude, you should be able to find someone that is of age. Check out the local club/bar.
 

CraigRT

Lifer
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Is it wrong for a 21 year old to date a 16 year old?

Nah.. I was 20 when I was dating a just turned 17 year old.. now I am not sure I wanna do it again.... but there's nothing wrong with it, if it all works out. :)
 

rudeguy

Lifer
Dec 27, 2001
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Originally posted by: guapo337
Originally posted by: rudeguy5757
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Ok, i'm in a huge moral dilemma here.

I know how wrong this question seems; an adult asking a riduculous question like this must be crazy. Well, if that is what it is called, then call me crazy. Not yet though. :D

There is this particular girl and she is fly. Very fly, and I'm asking you kind folks your opinion regarding this scandalous topic.

Is it morally acceptable to date somebody who is that young? :eek: It isnt' against the law is it? Hope not. Let me tell you what though, being brought up in a Christian household, i not intend to have sex before marriage and besides, I did meet her at a church. :)

She is soo fine. She looks like a Korean singer named Boa. Here is Boa's picture.

Boa 1
Boa 2
Text
Last Boa

Well anyways, here is the picture of the gal I like... This is my gal

So what do you guys think? Proceed on or back off? She does have a wonderful personality and isn't stuck up or anthing if that helps. I realized that women who grow older get more corrupted with drinking, smoking etc... I prefer my women holy and still innocent. :D

I wouldnt do it...and not sure how legal it is...check here for your state's laws age of consent laws

CONSENT IS ONLY FOR SEX! NOTHING ELSE! OH MY FREAKING JEEZASS CHRIST! NOBODY UNDERSTANDS THAT!


first...go take your pill...second...if you read the laws they are very clear....any act resulting in sexual gratification with a person under age is illegal...would you like to talk to my friend (who is 18) that got lied to by a 15 year old and now is a registered sex offender cause they had "simulated intercourse"????
 

Dudd

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If you can't bang her, then yeah, I'd say something's wrong. Even though you don't want to have sex, it has to be weird doing anything with her. There's just that divide between you, as if there's a certain line you two have to stop at. How could you build a relationship on that?
 

Jumpem

Lifer
Sep 21, 2000
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Originally posted by: rudeguy5757
Originally posted by: guapo337
Originally posted by: rudeguy5757
Originally posted by: WayneTeK
Ok, i'm in a huge moral dilemma here.

I know how wrong this question seems; an adult asking a riduculous question like this must be crazy. Well, if that is what it is called, then call me crazy. Not yet though. :D

There is this particular girl and she is fly. Very fly, and I'm asking you kind folks your opinion regarding this scandalous topic.

Is it morally acceptable to date somebody who is that young? :eek: It isnt' against the law is it? Hope not. Let me tell you what though, being brought up in a Christian household, i not intend to have sex before marriage and besides, I did meet her at a church. :)

She is soo fine. She looks like a Korean singer named Boa. Here is Boa's picture.

Boa 1
Boa 2
Text
Last Boa

Well anyways, here is the picture of the gal I like... This is my gal

So what do you guys think? Proceed on or back off? She does have a wonderful personality and isn't stuck up or anthing if that helps. I realized that women who grow older get more corrupted with drinking, smoking etc... I prefer my women holy and still innocent. :D

I wouldnt do it...and not sure how legal it is...check here for your state's laws age of consent laws

CONSENT IS ONLY FOR SEX! NOTHING ELSE! OH MY FREAKING JEEZASS CHRIST! NOBODY UNDERSTANDS THAT!


first...go take your pill...second...if you read the laws they are very clear....any act resulting in sexual gratification with a person under age is illegal...would you like to talk to my friend (who is 18) that got lied to by a 15 year old and now is a registered sex offender cause they had "simulated intercourse"????

I may be dumb here, but what exactly do you mean by "simulated intercourse"?
 

WayneTeK

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Apr 3, 2002
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Originally posted by: fr
You're just asking for an ass-kicking.

LoL. Perhaps I am asking for an ass kicking.

Well, these are all tough questions. I really do like her as well too, but it is a forbidden fruit to me. As much as I would love to pick that fruit off the tree and cherish it myself, I will only do more harm than good because the apple would be separated from the tree.. :(

I dunno. She is really a spectacular gal: funny, intelligent, mature (or at least i think so.. haven't dated her yet so i dunno)... I guess I'll pray about it or something. What God's fate is, i'll be happy.

ON another note guys, I NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND. So this would be my first if it did happen.
 

chiwawa626

Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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16 year olds are quite immature, and if you break up there is always a chance for her to call statchatory (i cant spell :roll;) rape.